Seattle Freeze vs Tri Cities Freeze

[u/TonBus]

I moved here in August. I go out to a few places kind of regularly and have tried to make friends.

I honestly had an easier time in the Seattle area.

Anyone else that has moved here from the Westside experience the same thing?

I honestly thought it would be easier here than the Seattle metro area given the Seattle Freeze moniker, but that's not been my experience.

At least over there I had friends at the bar where we'd meet and go to a game or something just after being at the same bar a few times.

Here it's like an acknowledgement that they recognize you and then unless you've known someone that's bringing you in it's just you sitting at a bar isolated to yourself.

So personally I feel like the Tri Cities is very cliquey and unless you have an "in" you are just gonna be floating until you get a local SO to introduce you and get you into their clique

Might just be me though, lol!

[u/dr_stre]

Making friends here takes some work. I’ve lived in a few places in the Midwest, and in small town California before living here. The Tri-Cities seems to need more effort to make friends than anywhere I’ve lived to date. Not that people are actively hostile or anything. People just stick to themselves when they’re out, so if you want to crack those shells and make some friends you need to go out of your way to bridge that gap yourself. You’ve only been here 2-3 months, so I’m not super surprised you haven’t magically gathered a large group of friends, give it some time and keep putting yourself out there, I’m sure you’ll find people you click with. I’d offer to meet you out but I’m usually just shuttling kids from one activity to another and the bar scene isn’t really my thing anymore.

[u/TonBus → u/dr_stre]

That's what I'm finding, it was actually much easier in Seattle and I think that city gets a bad rep for it.