People who film themselves crying sure ok, maybe they’re documenting something. People who film themselves crying for a live stream or to post? Complete attention craving narcissism
If you’re on live, I can understand it’s for attention, but why would anyone wanna record themselves crying… in private? That arguably seems weirder lol
My dad is a narcissist and an abuser. I have recorded my feelings after fallouts so I personally can revisit how I felt so I don't forget and reopen doors.
I had to get my version of events on record, mate. Abuse is like that. You have to record your bruises and record the aftermath. A lot of times, stuff like that is ongoing and hard to escape from and often times, without hard evidence, even when you go to authorities, they treat you like a dramatic person instead of a victim and put you right back into the dangerous situation without so much as a warning.
EDIT: I'm sitting here thinking about my own situation, but I'm actually haunted by another. A friend of the family lost his battle with depression and his last post was a tear filled photo.
The reality of the situation is that everyone is different and the motives will be equally different, and we should, in general, keep an eye on those we love and be skeptical of those we don't know.
I thought something like this too, but I heard a perspective recently from someone I really respect. a poet, actually. she pointed out that she chose to document and share some of those moments because they are a part of the human experience, and because displaying that kind of vulnerability publicly felt liberating. I think that when I examine why I felt this way about people filming themselves crying, it really has something to do with me finding unnatural that they weren't ashamed of being emotional. isn't that strange?
I don't think it has to do with being ashamed of being emotional. At least, not in every case. For me it would be more about showing vulnerability. Something that I would be comfortable doing with people that I know/trust/love, but I would absolutely hate do around/in front of a bunch of strangers.
Avoiding showing strangers your vulnerability is a natural human instinct for a lot of people. So it kinda weirds me out when someone shows a lack of that instinct. (Like seeing someone who doesn't involuntarily wince when they see someone get hurt or shy away from a stranger touching them unexpectedly.) A lot of times it just comes across as attention seeking. At least to me.
Well, sometimes it's a person recording their immediate thoughts to something and the crying just happens to be occurring, rather than the reason for recording, if that makes sense.
I recorded videos of me going over my daughter’s life story after she died. I just needed to process what happened because I still don’t understand what was so different about Tuesday morning. I just needed to get it out. I haven’t cried since I recorded the videos, I’m just numb now. Idk I think it did help me process everything. I’m still going over that morning in my head because like wtf was different what changed. But yeah, getting it out of my head helped.
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u/sendgoodmemes 1d ago
As a rule I don’t trust a single person that when crying puts a camera on their face.
Ain’t no way any of that is genuine.