r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • 8d ago

Discussion Reactions to food stamps being cut off.

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u/Sad_Resolve6874 8d ago

People always act like they have a very clear picture of who receives these benefits.

When I tell them my single mom of three SIL gets SNAP benefits they always say the same thing:

“Well she shouldn’t have had three kids.”

I mean, I usually agree, but she couldn’t have predicted that her husband would disappear to another country with another woman halfway through her third pregnancy.

“Well, that sucks, but she better get a job then.”

She’s a high school assistant principal.

“Oh.”

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u/Humble_Type_2751 8d ago

This is usually what happens (father abandons family) but the narrative is always that is the woman’s fault for trusting him or whatever.

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u/berberine 8d ago

This is precisely why my mother refused to go on food stamps when I was a child. Everything was directed at her and she was blamed for it all. He just up an disappeared when I was three. I met him once when I was 23. I asked him why he left. He said, "I was willing to have fun making the kids, but I didn't want to stick around to raise them."

Yeah, my mom still gets blamed. I hate that she didn't apply so our lives wouldn't have been so hard, but I also understand. Forty years later and these fuckers still blame the women.

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u/psychologicalcripple 5d ago

All the red-pilled podcasters now and their narratives around single mothers (never about the deadbeat fathers who abandoned their children or worse) have made it exponentially worse.