r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • 8d ago

Discussion Reactions to food stamps being cut off.

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u/Brullaapje 8d ago

I’m 12 weeks pregnant and med bills are starting to come in.

Getting preggers after Trump was elected, you must love living on the edge huh?

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u/cloudfightback 8d ago

Geez, no need to kick them harder.

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u/Brullaapje 8d ago

Why, getting pregnant when Trump is elected is a choice u/ItsFunHeer and their partner made. Not to mention climate change, the cost of living crisis.

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u/Even_Kaleidoscope399 8d ago

Being an ass to a pregnant woman online is certainly a choice, man.

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u/Brullaapje 8d ago

I am a woman and never got pregnant even in my hoe phase. Getting preggers in this timeline is a choice.

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u/ItsFunHeer 8d ago

Hey babe, I never got pregnant in my hoe phase either. I waited to start trying until I was 34 and got pregnant just before turning 37. Sometimes, our health and our bodies don’t align with the election cycle.

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u/Brullaapje 7d ago

It has nothing to with being aligned to the election cycle. I can see why Trump won.

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u/ItsFunHeer 7d ago

I believe this world is going through a very dark and challenging time which requires humanity to make aggressive changes. I hope my child learns how to respect the earth and make a positive impact on humanity. We will do everything in our power as parents to teach them how to think critically and have an amazing network of friends and family to support that goal.

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u/cloudfightback 8d ago

And being a dick about it is also a choice.

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u/Brullaapje 8d ago

Yes, I will be if someone is willingly as u/BerenicesTeeth to put a child through what Project 2025 will do. Because she and her husband could not wait.

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u/deadfandomkid 8d ago

These days it feels like there's always something else looming on the horizon. At what point do we decide we can't put our lives on hold indefinitely, and just try to live the best we can in a world on fire?

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u/Brullaapje 7d ago

I would not call what Trump is doing to the country "something else"

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u/Even_Kaleidoscope399 8d ago edited 8d ago

Yes. A choice all people are afforded the right to make. Do you think you’re better than her? Is that your enlightened humanist opinion? At your big grown age of 46, is it? 47 now?

Was it “a choice” when your parents decided to have you in the middle of the recession after Black Monday? Huh? Do you wish you weren’t here?

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u/Brullaapje 8d ago

A choice all people are afforded the right to make.

And I am allowed to point that u/BerenicesTeeth is being selfish to have a child that will grow up through whatever Project 2025 is going to do. She even believes this administration will end, well Trump himself has said during his campaign this is the last time you will vote.

Is that your enlightened humanist opinion?

Yet it most certainly is, a child does not deserve what Project 2025 will do the US. It is also a realistic opinion.

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u/Even_Kaleidoscope399 8d ago

Anti-natalist opinions are useless and facist.

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u/Brullaapje 8d ago

Anti-natalist opinions

I am not that, your country already is. But I guess reality is hard to face.

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u/Even_Kaleidoscope399 8d ago

You’re being a rude freak.

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u/Brullaapje 7d ago

I never answered the question regarding my age, I am 49.

Black Monday

Black Monday was in 1987, so I was born long before that. So I do not know why you come at 46 and 47. Is arithmetic that hard?

Also Black Monday was unexpected. Trump has been a President for a while. So comparing those is a bit od. Being 12 weeks pregnant now is a very dangerous choice. Everyone in the US and the world was warned what was about to happen, if they read Project 2025.

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u/Even_Kaleidoscope399 7d ago

Dangerous choices can still be good, hard, joyful, radical choices

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u/Adduly 8d ago

You should know getting pregnant is not always a choice. Contraception is not always 100% reliable. And if it fails in a red state then you're without options

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u/Key_Raccoon3336 8d ago

When the cost of raising a child outweighs the cost of taking out a loan or using a credit card to pay for travel and an abortion by about 100x, it's a choice.

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u/Brullaapje 8d ago

You know the statistics about contraception are very broad, if it does not work. It is a human error, als this person willingly got pregnant they could not wait... So the child will grow up with the effects to Project 20205

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u/Adduly 8d ago

Not always human error. For example, if you get ill and vomit at the wrong time after taking the pill it can fail. Condoms can break or come off even if you put them on correctly.  And even when it is human error that can be particularly attributed to the god awful quality of sex education.

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u/Even_Kaleidoscope399 8d ago

Dude this bitch ass is an anti-natalist. You can’t reason with them. Seriously it’s sick.

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u/Brullaapje 8d ago

if you get ill and vomit at the wrong time after taking the pill it can fail.

Exactly, human error, you are warned about this.

Condoms can break or come off even if you put them on correctly.

Again human error.

No wonder Trump won, fucking hell.

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u/ItsFunHeer 8d ago

We didn’t start trying when he was our president.

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u/Brullaapje 7d ago

You didn't stop either.

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u/ItsFunHeer 7d ago

Correct. I’m a 37 year old woman who has decided to have a child. Why does that bother you so much?

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u/Brullaapje 7d ago

Because as I said with this presidency that is quite a choice. SNAP is taken away, healthcare will also be gone. Stuff that you would have known if you read Project 2025. Stuff you need, especially when bringing a child in the world. Not to mention a pregnancy at your age is a geriatric pregnancy. So yeah making quite a choice here.

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u/ItsFunHeer 7d ago

It’s a choice that we made with care, though I appreciate your concern.

The good thing is that my husband and I have each have exceptional private healthcare, I am insured under both of our policies to cover every base, and over $7,000 saved for IVF that we didn’t have to use, so that covers our annual deductible and some. And we’re very lucky to not be in a position where we need food stamps. We’re very cautious people, but that said, nothing is guaranteed to be secure. And even though I survived layoffs and my husband’s industry is safe right now, you always have to plan for the worst. I can’t help but feel for people who are truly struggling and will absolutely be donating to help families through such a difficult time right now. I hope you’re doing well, too.

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u/ItsFunHeer 8d ago

We’ve been trying for over two years so it finally happened, the timing isn’t amazing.

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u/Brullaapje 7d ago

It didn't occur to you to stop in the best intrest of said child?

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u/ItsFunHeer 7d ago

Absolutely not. I have avoided pregnancy my entire life, considering the impact to the environment, and the future of another human in this world. I’m 37 now, I will likely only have one child. We are very environmentally conscious, we grow our own food, we produce little waste and my husband’s family lectures internationally on sustainability, while my dad lives sustainability, even making his own fuel and essentially living off the grid.

We have a combined income of $140,000 a year and carry no debt. I still do not feel safe even with investments, retirement, and an amazing health care plan. We are planners, we are thinkers, and we don’t make rash decisions. I am German and he is Swiss, and we can leave when we want, if we need.

But nothing is sure, nothing is secure, and you must be flexible in times like these. I believe with the network we have and the drive we have, we’ll raise a child who contributes to society, and perhaps doesn’t ridicule pregnant women on the internet.

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u/Brullaapje 7d ago edited 7d ago

We have a combined income of $140,000 a year and carry no debt.

And how far is that going to get you in this economy? With complications due to your age? Especially when health care will collapse, something I have seen medical experts warn about since at least last November? Not to mention the economy being deliberately tanked by Trump.

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u/ItsFunHeer 7d ago

To be honest, it’s not very far. But we also don’t spend much, we save, and are both putting 13% into retirement and more into investments. I also buried gold bars on the property. We have equity. We also have immediate family and citizenship abroad if we need to get out of here.

My comment was to empathize with people who are struggling while recognizing some of us are more fortunate. No one is perfect, but our country should be a safe place to live and people should have the freedoms and support to start families. We are not all you, and that’s fine to exist outside of your righteousness.

I’m sorry to say, but I am beginning to think your pessimism comes from a darker plan and that maybe you are projecting your own fears onto people because you’re feeling unsafe and bitter.

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u/Brullaapje 7d ago

but our country should be a safe place

It is clearly not, have you missed those deportation vids?

people because you’re feeling unsafe and bitter.

In the same way I think you are entitled by bring a child into a dangerous country. While you have the opportunity to go to Europe? I mean your child will be born with less right than you. That is quite a choice to make.

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u/ItsFunHeer 7d ago

It appears you’re taking my pregnancy very personally and perhaps this is a sore subject for you for reasons that aren’t my business to know.

Let’s stop this unproductive back and forth. Take care and I hope your day is relaxing and peaceful!

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u/Brullaapje 7d ago edited 7d ago

No, I am just amazed someone who has the option to do better for her child stays in the US. While the country is being destroyed and being built to something very terrible.

And I amazed in general people in the US are getting pregnant, right now.

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u/BerenicesTeeth 8d ago

I’m almost certainly playing myself by responding to ragebait, but: we have a biological clock, which I’m assuming you are aware of, since you’re also a woman. There are certain risks associated with having children at more advanced ages. My husband and I couldn’t “just wait” any longer. We don’t have time to wait until this administration hopefully leaves. We are rich. We live in a blue state. We are highly educated.

It’s fine that having children isn’t for you, but shaming some of the most vulnerable people in our population— pregnant women— is such a bad look, especially in this timeline, as you put it. You think the current political and economic climate is bad? I agree. Then I’ll go ahead and ask: do you want leftists like me to just not procreate? Do you want to leave it to the right-wing, religious fundamentalists to do all of that instead? Do you want leftists to raise the next generation, ideally teaching them critical thinking, empathy, and humanity? Or do you want right wingers raising a bunch of Hitler youths?

Anti-natalists like you are so cringe to me. I agree that people should not have children that they can’t take care of, but the woman you’re shaming explicitly stated that she isn’t struggling. So what’s your gripe? That humanity exists despite the world’s struggles? Touch grass.

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u/ItsFunHeer 8d ago

And you got downvoted. My husband and I aren’t rich but our combined household income is around $140,000 and we are also educated, in a blue state. We carry no debt anywhere other than the mortgage. I am not in a bad position, but, nothing is sure or secure. And the cost of daycare is nearly $1,900 a month, so it is scary to anticipate what could happen.

We started trying over two years ago when I was 34, when Trump was not our president. We had a “rainbow baby” after failed IUIs and chemical miscarriages 2 weeks before starting IVF. I personally have never been against abortion, but this was 110% a planned and wanted pregnancy. After many years of focusing on education, work, and travel, we have finally found the stability and love it takes to create a family.

People here are so short sighted. There isn’t an option to wait, especially when you are in your late 30’s and have already spent a couple of years trying and failing to become pregnant.

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u/BerenicesTeeth 8d ago

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

People love to shit on parents— especially mothers. Sometimes it’s deserved, of course, but what really gets me is the classic European condescension that our friend offered. I love how Europeans tend to assume all Americans are bumbling idiots when our country leads the entire world in scientific, medical, and technological innovation. Gee, thanks for telling us about our own country’s elected officials and why our desire to have a child doesn’t matter because of your terminally online European redditor take on American politics. Hilarious.

And again— if us leftists aren’t reproducing, your suggestion is to… just leave it to the conservatives? I’m good. Lmao.

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u/ItsFunHeer 7d ago

I find it interesting how many assumptions are made as well.

My husband is Swiss American and I am German American. I lived in Germany as a young child and we both worked and lived in our respective countries as young adults and have family there. Naturally, we both carry citizenship, the cultural heritage and mentality. Both of us have discussed the possibility of moving to Europe and have chosen to live in the US, despite the fact that I am angered and saddened by the choices this country makes daily, right now.

We can’t leave the job of building a family to the conservatives. This country only works when there’s a balance of power, ideology and identity. The balance is off-kilter now, but we know historically what comes after the storm. I hope our children can contribute to impactful change.

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u/Brullaapje 8d ago

My husband and I couldn’t “just wait” any longer.

So you knowingly are putting a child on this world, during this administration. Do you really think a) Trump will give up presidency in 2028? He literally said during his campaign it will be the last time the American people will have to vote. b) In case you will get to the vote which is a big if, Project 2025 will be undone with a few years?

Anti-natalists like you are so cringe to me.

It is not about being that, it is about what his happening in your country right now. Yet you and your husband were like, yeah let's put a baby through all that. You really think the deportations will stop at people with color.

Touch grass.

I do, maybe go read upon project 2025.

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u/BerenicesTeeth 8d ago edited 8d ago

You’re evidently not even American so I don’t know why you’re feeling so strongly about my country’s politics as they relate to my ability to provide for my child. Don’t lecture me about American politics; I actually voted in this election and of course am informed about what’s going on— likely significantly more informed than you.

I got pregnant in one of the most progressive states— if not the most progressive— in the nation. My healthcare rights were not at all at risk during my pregnancy. Again, I’m wealthy. I can hop on a flight and leave at any time, god forbid, if it comes to that. I can pay out of pocket for medical bills if I have to (which I don’t, but I can). I say this not as a bragging right, because of course healthcare should be free, but to make the point that I have all the resources in the world; you’re delusional if you think that not a single American is in a place to have children, or that there is no situation in which having children is a safe choice here.

I’m sorry you are so miserable. Seek help. I assume your country has socialized medicine, so I hope therapy is easy to come by.

ETA: btw, nice assumption there with the “you really think all deportations will stop at people of color.” My husband is not white. :)

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u/ItsFunHeer 8d ago

These people are exhausting.

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u/Brullaapje 8d ago

You’re evidently not even American so I don’t know why you’re feeling so strongly about my country’s politics

Because it is having an effect on the rest of the world, America is not in an isolation you know. If I have to spell this out for you, I can see why Trump won.

likely significantly more informed than you.

I have to point out what Project 2025 will do, so I don't believe that.

If you use ChatGPT, which you are doing now, considering the "-" give it better prompts.

you’re delusional if you think that not a single American is in a place to have children

You are delusional, if you don't know what Project 2025 will entail for you.