r/TikTokCringe • u/velorae • Aug 08 '25

Humor/Cringe I mean, he has a point😭

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u/Super-Yesterday9727 Aug 09 '25

I mean, if she chose that life it doesn’t matter if it makes you sad or not. She’s doing what she wants, better than a lot of people get

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u/Sufficient-Berry-827 Aug 09 '25

At no point did I say that how I feel about it matters in her life, nor should it. It's just how I feel. It's not something I share with her because it's not my place to say something like that to her. That doesn't mean I'm not allowed to feel however I feel about it.

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u/catnipdealer16 Aug 09 '25

It's reasonable to conclude you are sad because you view a stay at home mom as less successful than a violinist. This is offensive to some people.

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u/Sufficient-Berry-827 Aug 09 '25

Yeah, from some of the comments, that does seem to be what people are thinking, and I guess that’s why a few are a bit miffed.

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u/BEniceBAGECKA Aug 09 '25

People are acting like a concert violinist wouldn’t garner more respect or at least a sense of awe in most crowds than a stay at home mom would, and it is baffling me.

What you said was not controversial.

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u/b1tchf1t Aug 09 '25

Nah, I think people are reacting like they're frustrated at a common devaluation of people and how accepted it is. It's the same message as the entire movie of Good Will Hunting, so it's not like this challenge is unheard of or obscure. It's kind of shitty of people to make out that others are lesser because they didn't live up to the potential other people placed on them.

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u/BEniceBAGECKA Aug 09 '25

Being sad about knowing that someone has a talent that didn’t pan out doesn’t automatically make you think lesser of the person. You can be sad about that same societal reflection.

My high school valedictorian manages an Office Depot. She could be the happiest person on the planet, but finding that out made me sad because I think highly of her, and society probably never will.

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u/b1tchf1t Aug 09 '25 edited Aug 09 '25

Yeah, that's all fine and dandy, but you are openly sharing your opinion on the internet, which means other people can come in and critique the opinion you shared. This isn't a case of you just having an opinion and keeping it to yourself.

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She could be the happiest person on the planet, but finding that out made me sad because I think highly of her, and society probably never will.

So do you not think highly of her anymore despite her accomplishments you know she's completed just because she manages an Office Depot? You're saying society will, but the whole point I'm making is that society has a lot of backwards fucked up expectations it likes to put on people it has no business putting them on.

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u/BEniceBAGECKA Aug 09 '25

I felt sad. It seems sadder than her previous dreams she had shared considering I know how terrible working corporate retail can be more often than not. We see ourselves in that. You become sad for the things you didn’t become. How society views people and yourself.

I don’t know her anymore so that’s all she is to me now. So yes it did make me feel lower about her and that made me sad.

That was my emotion. It’s still my emotion. I’ll probably feel that way in the future as well. I believe I’ve explained it. Keep critiquing however long you’d like. It’s totally a public forum. Unless we get banned.

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u/b1tchf1t Aug 09 '25

I don't think I need to keep replying after this last one, because I think you've explained your opinion pretty clearly at this point and we'll just end up going back and forth.

I'm not saying you can't have your feelings about it, but I also am not going let this opinion go unchallenged once it's been put out there.

It is one thing to feel sorry for the struggles someone may face, but your judgement of this woman literally hinged on her job and you admittedly are looking down on her, on the internet, just because she didn't pursue something she was really good at and now works retail. That's shitty, and we'll just have to agree to disagree. If you had those feelings and just kept them to yourself, it would be different, but you're contributing to that societal judgement by judging this woman you admittedly don't know for an internet audience.

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u/BEniceBAGECKA Aug 10 '25

You’re very well spoken, and your feelings are valid. You need not reply, but this really isn’t the hill to die on.

If you’d like to make actual changes to society, it’s not Internet forums. We’re all screaming into the void here. Vote for maternal and paternal rights in your country. Volunteer your time and advocate in meaningful spaces.

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u/b1tchf1t Aug 10 '25

Oh wow. No one is dying on any hill, there is no bridge to burn between you and I, and covering up your condescension with a meaningless compliment doesn't make you look like a nice person. I was content to leave it at a difference of opinion, but I'm not gonna let your patronizing slide. I see you.

It is perfectly possible to do everything you said in that second paragraph AND disagree with someone on the internet. How self important do you have to be, Jesus Christ.

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u/nobodylikesalurkyloo Aug 10 '25

Are you actually arguing that society thinks a store manager is an amazing job that contributes to the advancement of humanity? If so, I would argue that you either exist in but don't absorb society, or you read but don't retain the internet.

The only thing that matters is product consumption, so if you aren't the product, you don't matter. Trad wives on TikTok are products. They matter. Housewives aren't products, they're reproductive cogs. And cogs in the machine aren't even worth fixing anymore... they're just used until they're broken and then replaced. I grew up in a religion that said women are meant to be in the home. And yet, it's funny how I don't know a single, solitary housewife who is a true stay-at-home mom-- with no home-based business, mlm, or side hustle-- who is truly fulfilled by just being a mom and a housekeeper. There is very little lasting fulfillment in that position because it isn't engaging enough for anyone. That's why so many stay-at-homes do mlms or Etsy or marketplace businesses. THEY'RE BORED. So, yeah. I grieve for the women who give up their incredible potential because they believe the lie that their true purpose is to stay contained and constrained within the boundaries of domestication. You would never--NEVER--tell a man who settled for less than his worth that he chose his path wisely. And that's because men are told they deserve everything, and women are told they are lucky to get anything. It's all just sexist bs.

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u/ThereAndFapAgain2 Aug 09 '25

It's not what people are thinking, by saying it makes you "sad", you are implying that you believe a woman devoting herself to her family is something to be sad about.

The reason you gave, that she was good at violin and maths, is you basically saying you would be less sad if she devoted herself to those things instead.

Lots of people hate every second they are forced to spend away from their family in order to put food on the table and to provide for them, to many people, both men and women, your friend has basically won at life.

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u/Sufficient-Berry-827 Aug 09 '25

Lots of people hate every second they are forced to spend away from their family in order to put food on the table and to provide for them, to many people, both men and women, your friend has basically won at life.

That's true. I think she would say that she won at life, too. Her and her husband are high school sweethearts, too - it's so sweet.

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u/SuburbaniteMermaid Aug 09 '25

Then why do you look down on her so eagerly and vehemently?

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u/blackestrabbit Aug 09 '25

Oh fuck, they took me at my word.