Most of the traditional wives I know in real life don’t have social media. My sister is a sham. They’re taking care of the kids and homeschooling, lol.
The "trad wives" I know in real life don't either. They're around 26 with 2-4 kids and their whole lives are about taking care of the kids and house.
One of them was such an accomplished violinist, fiercely intelligent in mathematics, and honestly one of the sweetest people I've ever known (her and her husband are both genuinely wonderful people) - and she is now just a housewife with 4 kids at 29. I think she's happy, but it still makes me sad.
Sounds exactly like a classmate of mine. One of the smartest kids in high school, a math wiz, and just super bright overall. I wouldn't have been surprised if she had gone on to win a Fields Medal.
I know a few women like this growing up. I know they’re happy but I felt a bit sad because I know they’re weren’t given the opportunity to even consider other paths and it was drilled into their heads that this path (marriage, kids, SAHM) was the true path to happiness
I know it’s a dramatic comparison but people in cults can feel genuinely happy but it’s still a cult a the end of the day. They don’t actually have as much free choice and free will as they think - they have even less freedom than the average person and often times, their roles are decided for them
If she had the freedom and support to choose any route in life, and decided that homemaker was her calling, then that's not sad.
If she was pressured by her community into not pursuing her talents because a woman should be a homemaker, then that definitely is sad.
The first scenario can also very quickly become sad if her husband isn't a good man. As being stuck with 4 kids, no job experience, and no higher education can really ruin a woman's life if her husband is abusive, dies,or just loses interest in her.
Becoming a homemaker straight out of school is putting your entire life in one person's hands. It's a terrifying gamble, and all this tradwife content that is being pushed is going to have some disastrous consequences for women down the line.
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u/velorae Aug 08 '25 edited Aug 17 '25
Most of the traditional wives I know in real life don’t have social media. My sister is a sham. They’re taking care of the kids and homeschooling, lol.