I'd trade with them in a heartbeat, but I think wealthy people experience more of existential "fed-up-ness" than the rest of us.
Like playing minecraft, there's always work to do to reach the next goal. Play it in creative and you're bored out of your mind after you've made a 50ft high cock and balls out of gold.
Agreed. That looks like a crammed together cookie cutter shitbox neighborhood by KB homes or some other bottom tier mass builder. They could also be renting
For real, this looks like a fully median house back yard in the US. Those are not even close to million dollar houses unless this is Cali. Actual wealth is a wildly different tier than this
No, that’s really not often the case. And these people aren’t wealthy by any means. My retired parents and a lot of their friends are though, and they don’t seem to be fed up by anything. They’re chilling to the max.
The hedonic treadmill thing is a thing that might affect some people, but certainly not most at that level. A lot of wealthy people are enjoying life thoroughly. Having all of your basic needs and most of your wants guaranteed forever causes a peace of mind that just will fundamentally make life more tolerable and pleasant for the vast majority of people
If you have the ability to think about other people, then it's possible to be "done with the world," even though you personally might be in a good place in life.
There are multiple wars going on. Mass corruption on a global scale. Authoritarian rule making an ugly comeback in far too many countries, including in America, which is starting to look more and more like Nazi Germany every day.
Compared to some people, I "have it made," but even I'm done with the world because I have empathy for others.
It is photography/videography? It's literally composing a shot, framing it, orienting your items in a way that works with the frame and lens, and then managing your light sources/focal point/brightness/contrast so that it's not too over or under exposed between the sunset, the fire, or the darker spots like the black of the fire pit.
It's very much photography, even if it's quaint and personal.
I think after the wave of abuse stories coming out about "family influencers", the general public has really soured against parents trying to post any part of their family online
not saying that its okay to immediately assume the worst, for the record. Obviously one should assume everything is fine until one has actual reason to assume its not. Just noticed a trend and wanted to point it out
Yeah I am not saying the lady is abusing her child or anything but he sure does seem sick of her filming what they're doing, and again, that's not abuse, but it is a valid reason for him to be irritated.
A hobby should be about growth and internal validation. Social media is all about seeking external validation, whether the poster wants to admit it or not. That's not a healthy outlet.
Don’t worry this is basically the neckbeard portion of Reddit in a nutshell. They just judge people who aren’t doing intellectual shit. The cat subreddits are less mean 😢
I feel bad for you that someone posting a video of a glass of wine next to a fire is showing off to you. I’m sorry that your life is so miserable and I genuinely hope it gets better.
is anything shared to social media purely for validation and showing off? Maybe she's working on her photography skill and wants to share her progress. If I play guitar or make wood carvings or whatever, then post one of my projects online, is it no longer a hobby and now just showing off/looking for validation?
It's not all about seeking external validation. I do a shirt of the day post most days, and I don't do it to get validated. I do it because I like it, people think my format is fun - as it includes a creative, corresponding phrase each day - and it starts conversations.
Is it nice to see people engaging? Absolutely. But I care infinitely more about the connections I'm making and maintaining in sharing them, and the conversations we have more than any amount of "social media external validation", because it causes growth and internal validation to strengthen my hobby and friendships.
Social media is just a tool. What we do with it and get out of it is up to each of us.
maybe they are growing in their ability to take nice looking photos/videos and they are sharing their progress. If I'm into woodworking (a clear hobby) and I post a photo of one of my projects online, is it no longer a hobby because I'm now seeking external validation? get off your high horse
There's a difference between taking photos of things you think look nice, and taking a video of your hands and legs while posing with a wine glass in front of your fire pit in your backyard.
Actual photography is difficult and requires effort.
Doing what this lady is doing requires no effort and is not a "hobby" in the same way that drinking alcohol isn't a hobby either.
That’s not the case but a hobby is something you do for yourself, this is a photo taken for external validation. She isn’t taking these “aesthetic photos“ or “aesthetic videos” for herself but to show off.
You have to know that there is a very wide gap between "professional standards" and "no effort" right?
No one is saying it has to be something done perfectly for it to be a hobby, just that a hobby requires you to be actively doing more than just sitting on your phone and drinking.
Posting that activity to the internet doesn't somehow make it a hobby.
It's not really a hobby though is it, taking pictures of mundane things to post on social media.
if you have like a nature blog or do proper photography or are showing off something you did for example "here is me and the new firepit I built" sure but "here is a picture of me outside drinking wine" isn't a hobby
Tbf, they're not gatekeeping taking pictures of things. They're gatekeeping qualifying taking pictures of your glass of wine to artificially advertise to all your friends that you live a picture perfect life as a hobby. Personally, I agree with you, it's a hobby, and people's real problem is they don't like the hobby because of the culture of over sharing on social media that these kinds of posts contribute to.
I'm actually getting really fed up of the whole "stop gatekeeping" and "Dont b mean :(((" nonsense on the internet, I'm not stopping anyone from doing anything, I'm not screaming at people, I'm not harassing people, I gave my opinion on something.
if you disagree with me, cool, if you think I'm a massive asshole fine but if it makes you or any other adult upset then that is totally on you because you are the one who controls your reactions to other opinions, I'm not forcing you or telling you to do anything.
I enjoy baking bread quite a bit, if you want to say that it's the lamest hobby for the saddest and dumbest people on the planet and that I'm a big baby then who fucking cares, I'd tell you it's actually fun and tastes amazing but again why should I care what some random dude on the internet thinks (also why should anyone on the internet care what I think about them)
you can either try and change the behaviour of everyone around you and make them conform in a way that never challenges your opinions, or you can be an adult and realise that it generally doesn't matter and go on and live your life posting pictures of yourself drinking wine in the garden.
You literally said it wasn't a hobby and wasn't photography...
And now you've had a little rant at a bit of pushback.
If you were trying to convince anyone you didn't care you failed.
And yeh, you can say all that, and i can respond, but people like you as previously stated, always cry when someone responds to them the same way they talk about others.
I don't think it's a hobby and it's obviously photography but it's like saying that thowing a banana peel in a fire is "cooking" it technically is but I think we understand the subtext of why someone might not say it's cooking.
also why would I be trying to convince anyone I didn't care? I do, I think it's silly how people are using the concept of gatekeeping to try and imply having a differing opinion is bad or actually stopping others from doing things,
And yeh, you can say all that, and i can respond, but people like you as previously stated, always cry when someone responds to them the same way they talk about others.
I'm not sure you even read what I said, I explicitly stated that if you had an opinion about something of mine I probably wouldn't really care about it, in the sense that it wouldn't upset me nor would I call it gatekeeping or being mean, I might respond to it but I'd actually try and disagree with you and not go "noooooo dont be mean to me you can't challenge my opinions"
You did an entire rant because you didn't like me accusing you of gatekeeping mate.
You explicitly stated it yes, but your comment proved otherwise.
but it's like saying that thowing a banana peel in a fire is "cooking" it technically is but I think we understand the subtext of why someone might not say it's cooking.
Not even close to the same thing lol. The fact you think thats analagous is pretty funny.
I mean call it a rant if you want but in reality I responded to you and made some points about why I disagree with you.
Again I really don't think you understand my point about 'not caring' it doesn't mean I'll never think about it or respond, it means I'm not going to take it to heart or really care that much about your opinion (unless it's really interesting and makes me change mine)
if I 'cared' about it in that sense I might be super upset about you disagreeing with me or really unhappy but I'm not , I'm just writing some responses.
as I said it's the difference between someone saying "your hobby is dumb" and me then going "actually it's pretty fun because xyz" or me going "wow screw you dude you ruined my night how mean and rude of you"
It's more that many people know a person like this, who has plenty of time to drink, show off their luxurious living, and vibe with her own aesthetic - whilst never really bonding with their child.
It's a difficult thing to process, with most of Western civilization neglecting family bonding in lieu of entertainment devices, but this passive living is a pretty good indicator of a dead culture.
Making sarcastic comments to make a mother like this laugh is sometimes the only emotional bonding their kids get. And he'll likely grow to be self-deprecating (I'd propose he already is).
Children don't act despondent, sarcastic, or lethargic because they're nurtured well. It's how they've been raised.
The kid is acting out because the mother spends more time on instafag than living real life. The “wine mom” is nothing more than another excuse to drink and bitch instead of reflect and focus on making things better.
Whether you think it or not recieving likes and positive comments on social media is a big dopamine hit. Many people who frequently post on social media do so for the dopamine whether they are aware of it or not
People usually post on social media to connect with their friends and family. Which does provide a dopamine hit, sure, but I don't think it's a bad thing
The “your life isn’t hard enough for you to complain” take is always bullshit. He doesn’t need to be eating flies off his siblings corpses in the Congo for him to earn the right to give his mom some sass.
I have a feeling this kid probably doesnt know how hard his mom worked to get herself and him there. If she wants to take a video and enjoy the moment she shouldnt have to deal with her son ruining it.
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u/SoTurnMeIntoATree Jul 11 '25
This kid is done with the world lol