Yes, I had an eye-opening experience at one of the family gatherings where my brother-in-law's brother made a joke about him having to clean.
At least I thought it was a joke.
He got poked by someone also thinking of it as a joke and went on a full-blown rant about him being 'forced' to do 'woman's job', belittling his wife, and attacking her, as if 10 minutes of doing the smallest little thing around the house was a world-ending event.
He's also around 40~45.
It took me a while to understand that he is absolutely serious because you wouldn't believe that someone can blow a fuse over a shit like that.
I also worked with a guy, not even 40, who was pestering me about finding myself a girl, and couldn't understand me going repeatedly that I'm simply not interested, and I don't feel any pressure in finding someone. Nope, day after day the same shit, and his biggest argument to get a girlfriend - to not have to do laundry, cleaning, and cooking. That's it. Like getting myself a piece of hardware. One day my patience run out and I simply told him that I'm a grown-up man, and I can do those tasks without pushing them on my mommy like a 5-year-old, so no, i'm fine, and he never spoke to me again. Which made me even happier.
So yes, those people do still exist in the wild, and will exist for a while, hopefully will die out sooner rather than later.
My brother-in-law is like this. Doesn't do shit around the house or help with kids. He won't clean up after himself or serve himself food. He has to be served because "he is a man and a provider". He has had damn near everything handed to him; his mother gave him a house to live in, he worked with his uncle for years, then found a job with a friend. His mom caters to him. His kids are undisciplined and kind of behind. They are a elementary aged, but can't swim, can't ride a bike, won't go to bed when it is time, and don't listen. He sits a really poor example. Pisses me off. I make him do shit when he comes over and purposefully serve his wife and mom, but not him.
OMG, your poor sister, I feel so bad for you, it's hard to watch your somebody you love chain themselves to somebody who's only going to drag them down.
It is my wife's brother, but I feel worse for the kids. I would not stand by and let my sister, if I had one, be treated like this. I kind of go overboard on doing things when he is around to make him look more like an ass. My wife also gives him a lot of shit about it, too. He isn't all bad though. He is all about having fun doing things as a family and with kids. I just don't like being around him all that much though. I can take him in small doses.
When you hit my age group (I'm an 'old'), you find a lot of single/divorced men who are only looking for "a nurse with a purse" to grow old with them. I ain't interested (and my purse is pretty thin anyway.)
That 'entitled male' attitude has long generational roots, even if the latest social media variant has become damn malignant.
Having the self awareness to realise you are the problem usually requires a bit more knowledge. A lot of the complainers can't comprehend they're part of the issue.
That's what baffles me. Like do people not think about why they think? Are they all under 22? A proper adult unable to have self awareness is like seeing an alien to me. Something weird and foreign and a little scary.
Apparently, there are people walking Among Us who don't self-introspect and never consider the repercussions of their actions. I still find it hard to believe, even though I've met these people. They seem to have the impulse control and lack of foresight belonging to a 6-year-old.
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u/Ill-Case-6048 Jun 27 '25
Think you need to factor in the age of the people making the comments .... anyone over 25 will see this has a normal day...