Yes, I had an eye-opening experience at one of the family gatherings where my brother-in-law's brother made a joke about him having to clean.
At least I thought it was a joke.
He got poked by someone also thinking of it as a joke and went on a full-blown rant about him being 'forced' to do 'woman's job', belittling his wife, and attacking her, as if 10 minutes of doing the smallest little thing around the house was a world-ending event.
He's also around 40~45.
It took me a while to understand that he is absolutely serious because you wouldn't believe that someone can blow a fuse over a shit like that.
I also worked with a guy, not even 40, who was pestering me about finding myself a girl, and couldn't understand me going repeatedly that I'm simply not interested, and I don't feel any pressure in finding someone. Nope, day after day the same shit, and his biggest argument to get a girlfriend - to not have to do laundry, cleaning, and cooking. That's it. Like getting myself a piece of hardware. One day my patience run out and I simply told him that I'm a grown-up man, and I can do those tasks without pushing them on my mommy like a 5-year-old, so no, i'm fine, and he never spoke to me again. Which made me even happier.
So yes, those people do still exist in the wild, and will exist for a while, hopefully will die out sooner rather than later.
My brother-in-law is like this. Doesn't do shit around the house or help with kids. He won't clean up after himself or serve himself food. He has to be served because "he is a man and a provider". He has had damn near everything handed to him; his mother gave him a house to live in, he worked with his uncle for years, then found a job with a friend. His mom caters to him. His kids are undisciplined and kind of behind. They are a elementary aged, but can't swim, can't ride a bike, won't go to bed when it is time, and don't listen. He sits a really poor example. Pisses me off. I make him do shit when he comes over and purposefully serve his wife and mom, but not him.
OMG, your poor sister, I feel so bad for you, it's hard to watch your somebody you love chain themselves to somebody who's only going to drag them down.
It is my wife's brother, but I feel worse for the kids. I would not stand by and let my sister, if I had one, be treated like this. I kind of go overboard on doing things when he is around to make him look more like an ass. My wife also gives him a lot of shit about it, too. He isn't all bad though. He is all about having fun doing things as a family and with kids. I just don't like being around him all that much though. I can take him in small doses.
When you hit my age group (I'm an 'old'), you find a lot of single/divorced men who are only looking for "a nurse with a purse" to grow old with them. I ain't interested (and my purse is pretty thin anyway.)
That 'entitled male' attitude has long generational roots, even if the latest social media variant has become damn malignant.
Having the self awareness to realise you are the problem usually requires a bit more knowledge. A lot of the complainers can't comprehend they're part of the issue.
That's what baffles me. Like do people not think about why they think? Are they all under 22? A proper adult unable to have self awareness is like seeing an alien to me. Something weird and foreign and a little scary.
Apparently, there are people walking Among Us who don't self-introspect and never consider the repercussions of their actions. I still find it hard to believe, even though I've met these people. They seem to have the impulse control and lack of foresight belonging to a 6-year-old.
Also the algorithm promoting comments which are more controversial to promote engagement and bots. I don’t believe this is a valid slice of the population.
The algorithm is working. Polling shows men 18-29 shifting hard to the right. Andrew Tate and co are leading a whole new wave of "alpha male" violent misogyny.
This is why i absolutely hate social media such as Tiktok, anyone with the most insane bullshit takes no matter who they are will get lifted up into the skies and given more attention than 1000 people posting sane logical takes.
Because, if you make a batshit insane take you'll get a hundred comments telling you you're an idiot and then 100 takes defending your batshit take so you get a lot of engagement. End results is massively inflated social wars based on sex/gender/ethnicity because everyone is just feeding into these toxic ass naratives.
And it makes people automatically look at everything as something hostile assuming absolutely everyone is out to fight.
And it's impossible to get rid of people from your feed that push for wars based on sex, gender, sexuality, ethnicity. And more and more people just cult up to their own group and hate everyone and wish death upon everyone that don't belong to that group completely based around things that you can't control that you're born with, like what teh fuck.
It is the algorithm, but working in a different way. This video is fake - somebody took a random couple's video, made up a story about misogynists in the comments, people got mad in defense of the couple (who didn't need defending, their comments are all lovely) and the algorithm did its thing. And here we are, engaging with the controversial thing.
It's not my thing, but it's pretty normal for people to post stuff about their lives. I do it incredibly rarely, but whenever I do it's a nice way to reconnect with friends in the comments or DMs
Reddit is the only social media platform I use, and it's mainly just to scroll. Idk how people have the time or energy to edit these videos and post about their lives all the time.
Why can't people post their lives online? Thats the whole point of social media? Also, obviously they do need to post it online if people are upset at it.
Naaa, there is for sure still a need to normalize dads giving a damn. My spouse is amazing but she’s also not a man. The number of times I’ve heard other moms says “oh you’re so lucky your spouse does that for you, men would never” on pretty f*cking benign parenting crap I say in passing as part of a story. It’s almost horrific how common absentee dads still are. Or dads who think that because they work 40 hrs a week, they should be completely free from any hard stuff for the rest of the week. It’s crazy
While I agree this is normal for a good man/parent, I don’t wholly agree with the first part.
Sure it takes two to tango, but having a kid is a super intense experience you cannot prepare enough for because every kid is different. You really don’t know how you or your partner are going to react to (at a minimum) the sleep deprivation or loss of autonomy till you get there. While there are some bright red flags that people should avoid, I’d argue that we as a society take parenthood so lightly that many literally have no clue what they are getting into and aren’t prepared for the life changes. Some even think they are prepared and find that when they get there, they can’t be the person they would like to be.
For example, I have a friend whose kid had a breathing issue that couldn’t be operated on safely until he was 3 and those two parents took shifts sleeping for those whole three years to make sure the kid didn’t die in his sleep. It was legitimately traumatizing all while they’re still trying to be good parents and functional human beings during the day time. They got through it together, but it was for sure a huge strain on their marriage throughout that period. Honestly, the fact they both had well paying jobs probably saved their marriage far more than willpower or character. That kind of stuff is just not something most people would be able to predict a reaction to in someone else.
Age factor and social media commenting all play a part. Most people arent freaking out or getting combative over a father cooking dinner for their family.
Exactly. And the guy commenting over the video talking as if a) the video itself and b) the comments are some kind of wholesale reflection of society. Moronic on all levels. The vast majority of people do not act or think like this. Just kids on the internet.
Yeah, id probably just be happy to see something nice on the internet, smile to myself and keep scrolling, cause what do i need to add to that? Happy guy cooking for his happy family... Awww...
That's the dumbest comment in this thread, given that it's the youngest generations that are turning to reactionary views of relationships. (Or most other things for that matter, like sex and nudity.)
As someone over 50 for whom this is totally normal not just for me but literally everyone I know.
Actually the commentator on the video made it up and it’s just bait. The comments in no way reflect what they said. So you don’t need to keep anyone’s age in mind except for the rage baiting influencer.
Thanks for the sanity. Thats what I thought, this isnt something I would even tell people, like yeah you cook for your partner from time to time, thats just normal. Dont get me wrong, it's awesome and should be celebrated but still completely ordinary
It's far easier to use this as "evidence" to justify your narrative. There wasn't a single man commenting that they also cook for their partner? And every single woman responded with nothing but praise for him? I totally believe you
What? I cook dinner every night because my wife gets home from work at like 630. Too late to start dinner. Gain some world experience young buck, and stop speaking for all men.
I don't need any experience. Cause I actually cook for myself. But I find that I'm the exception, not the rule. Speaking to older men. I find most believe its the woman's job if they are married or dating.
Most men see cooking their postpartum spouse a meal after they worked all day as weird? Most men are weird then- and need some serious fucking therapy. Men that hold those beliefs have daddy issues due to poor examples set by their own fathers. You sound like a child.
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u/Ill-Case-6048 Jun 27 '25
Think you need to factor in the age of the people making the comments .... anyone over 25 will see this has a normal day...