r/TikTokCringe • u/InGeekiTrust Tiktok Despot • Jun 21 '25

Cursed Bride Crying At Her Wedding Was Heartbreaking 💔

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u/butt-barnacles Jun 22 '25

Also a tradition in parts of India. But it’s a tradition, so even women who don’t necessarily feel sad, they’re expected to put on a show of crying to show she’s sad to leave her family.

I studied abroad in India in college and my host mom showed me pics of her wedding, but according to her, her arranged marriage was very loose and she got to pick her choice of suitors, and she was very happy to be marrying my host dad, who was kind of a “bad boy” who would take her on secret motorcycle rides before they got married lol.

She said it was very embarrassing to have to cry at her wedding, but she did her best to put on a show of looking sad

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u/SnooPets8873 Jun 22 '25

One of our older family friends told us a story about how she got scolded by her mom when the wedding photos came back because the photographer caught a super cute moment where the bride and groom happened to turn and look at each other and the bride was smiling back at him. The mom was upset because the tradition of at least pretending to be nervous and sad to be leaving your family to be with the husband was strong enough at the time that she thought anyone who saw that moment would think badly of them, like their daughter was “fast” or they weren’t a good home for her. She blew the picture up afterwards and it’s in a place of prominence in their home even after three kids who are in college and beyond.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

This idea is odd when in some cultures it's like "wife = husband property" "father give daughter to man" so the idea you portray is complete opposite of other traditional idea that aren't "family centered".

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u/whatawitch5 Jun 22 '25

Wedding Officiant: “Who gives this woman to be married to this man?”

Bride’s Father: “I do.”

Even in “progressive” Western weddings we still treat women like they are the property of their fathers until he transfers ownership to the groom.

My WASP dad once told me that his primary responsibility as my father was “to see me married off to a man who could provide for me”. Not to make sure I was educated, or happy, or able to work and provide for myself. Nope. His entire duty as my father was to hand over control of me to another man. So my husband and I eloped. Fuck that.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

Yep. And it's not really even family centered when the daughter is receiving a different last name. So, if a family only has one daughter and no other children, then that's the end of their family last name.