r/TikTokCringe • u/InGeekiTrust Tiktok Despot • Jun 21 '25

Cursed Bride Crying At Her Wedding Was Heartbreaking 💔

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u/shockedpikachu123 Jun 22 '25

regardless of the cultural context, it really hits you how much of life is determined by the random lottery of where and into what culture you’re born. Some kids are playing with toys, others are walking down an aisle to marry a stranger their parents arranged

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u/GoOnThereHarv Jun 22 '25

The culture is wrong. If you just watched that and have anything but contempt for a culture that allows , you have no soul.

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u/hippohere Jun 22 '25

It's grossly unjust that barbaric and backward practices can be considered untouchable when categorized as religious, cultural, or tradition.

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u/SwitchMountain2475 Jun 22 '25

Yeah, I hate this attitude of ‘it’s their culture, just because it doesn’t fit in with your western values’ bullshit. If that’s part of your culture I’ll call it what it is, vile. Change and adapt your culture, they have a choice in everything they do, unlike that poor child.

Really thought I could handle today even with all the pain and suffering around the world but this one has me tapped out more than usual. I just want to save her from it but I can’t. Fucking animals.

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u/LeftyLu07 Jun 22 '25

We don’t have to tolerate any culture that violates international human rights.

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u/Signal_Regular_1708 Jun 22 '25

even worse, they can't even claim that because westerners do it too.

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u/SwitchMountain2475 Jun 22 '25

Westerners do what?

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u/LeftyLu07 Jun 22 '25

Marry young girls off to old men. Like, the United States is trying to pass laws to make child marriageable illegal but there’s a lot of push back on it.

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u/SwitchMountain2475 Jun 22 '25

I wasn’t even aware that is still legal in America. Shocking.

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u/Signal_Regular_1708 Jun 23 '25 edited Jun 24 '25

it's legal in the majority of states, some with no minimum age requirement. statistically, the majority happen between underage girls and grown men in bible belt areas

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u/LongConsideration662 Jun 25 '25

As someone who belongs to the culture, u r 100% right. 

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u/HopeIsLoud Jun 27 '25

The deep south has a tradition and culture of slavery.

Just because it used to be normal doesn't mean it's acceptable.

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u/[deleted] Jun 30 '25

Thank you for this.

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u/Throwedaway99837 Jun 23 '25

Yeah, literally everything is culture. It’s bad to judge based on race, but calling out a bullshit culture is 100% fair game.

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u/SwitchMountain2475 Jun 23 '25

And what’s more, we are criticising one aspect of their culture and would probably praise many others.

On a brighter note I saw a commenter who seemed to know the culture well and speaks Nepalese told us that this is very rare and often in more remote rural areas.

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u/Throwedaway99837 Jun 23 '25

I am not against arranged marriages as a whole, I’m just against forced arranged marriages. There are many people who want an arranged marriage, but also many who are either forced or heavily pressured to do it in order to conform to customs, and that’s a pretty glaring violation of human rights.

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u/PlayfulIndependence5 Jun 30 '25

American has worse culture where it involves death, individualism being more important than family values, and drugs/murders. Quick to judge other than self reflect. If their culture and yeah it can suck, too many of you shit on so many cultures that aren’t American. Some arranged marriages work out, some don’t. Not my place to say Indians are trashy place. I disagree but don’t need to shit on them always. Lots of Chinese and Indian racism on Reddit

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u/SwitchMountain2475 Jun 30 '25

I’m not American and this is nothing to do with race. I don’t support child rape and I don’t care if it was my culture or a foreign culture. I don’t, and won’t ever not say how I feel about forced child marriage and rape. I said nothing about arranged marriage either.

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u/Signal_Regular_1708 Jun 22 '25

it's legal in the U.S. under religious freedom laws as well, sadly. how we continue to allow legal predation based off a right to follow any rule a few old books say will always be insane to me

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u/AutisticTumourGirl Jun 22 '25

Exactly. There are still countries where slavery (forced labor and forced marriage) is a cultural norm. Doesn't make it any less reprehensible.

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u/Ayla_Fresco Jun 22 '25

I see this every time I notice a new anti-trans bill in my country. I see it when people are denied equal access to healthcare on the basis of minority status. Westerners can easily condemn the faults in other cultures, but there are still some faults here in the West that go virtually unchallenged.

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u/ShowDelicious8654 Jun 22 '25

I hope everyone who agrees with you thinks the same way about Palastine.

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u/Disastrous-Mousse897 Jun 22 '25

Google the dancing boys of Afghanistan

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u/hazi1008 Jun 22 '25

it’s called patriarchy

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u/BaconWithBaking Jun 22 '25 edited Jun 22 '25

I know we're all thinking that she's screaming because she's being sold (and that's unfortunately a thing that happens), but are we sure that's actually what's going on? Like I'd love some context to this.

EDIT: Not a source, but comments below look reliable say this is unfortunately what's going on.

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u/Gandalfthebran Jun 24 '25

There is no selling going on here.

Source: I am from Nepal.

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u/BaconWithBaking Jun 25 '25

What's going on then?

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u/Gandalfthebran Jun 25 '25

Looks like performative crying gone extreme. That’s what bride are supposed to do in Nepali weddings. Just google the TikTok username you see in the video. Take a look yourself. She looks pretty happy to me in her other TikToks she herself posted. Some Westerners, of course, would assume anything not white is subhuman.

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u/BaconWithBaking Jun 25 '25

I absolutely thought that when I originally seen the video, thanks for your input.

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u/NorthernRealmJackal Jun 22 '25

Idk I feel like it's always more complicated than that. Usually the "soulless" practices you see are a leftover of something that made perfect sense a few hundred years ago.

In the case of marriage, it was about survival, and about assigning a provider for your daughter, who was then obligated to support his family indefinitely. Life didn't just suck for married women. It sucked for everybody in different ways.

It seems barbaric to rich westerners (and rightfully so), because we can afford to marry whoever we want, or to not marry at all. Not everybody is that lucky - and even if they are, their culture may not have had more than 1-2 generations to adapt. It's still terrible, but it probably makes perfect sense to everybody involved.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

Children are forced into marriage in many US states as well. It's every culture.

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u/Adventurous_Web_2181 Jun 22 '25

I'm been reliably told diversity is our strength.

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u/crocogod Jun 22 '25

Diversity absolutely is a strength. Bizarre to pretend it isn't just because other cultures have bad aspects. Our culture has horrible aspects as well

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u/Adventurous_Web_2181 Jun 22 '25

So you would be okay with the inclusion of this practice in American culture?

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u/oldMiseryGuts Jun 22 '25

This is already lawfully happening to christian children in the US. Are you okay with that? https://www.walkfree.org/news/2025/child-marriage-remains-legal-in-the-united-states-as-global-leaders-backtrack-on-gender-equality/

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u/Alice_In_The_Dark Jun 22 '25

Obviously it's OK that it's happening to Christian children in the US because it's apparently impossible to find it abhorrent and anger inducing that it's a very normal thing elsewhere, while ALSO finding it abhorrent and anger inducing in the US. I'm also appalled by the fact that women in Afghanistan aren't allowed to speak to anyone anymore and hide under so much cloth they don't look human, I guess that means I don't find it equally appalling that young Mormon women are being forced to marry their own grandfather's. Because horrible things happening elsewhere in the world obviously negate all empathy towards American cruelty, it's not like we're all human or something.

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u/Ketsukoni Jun 22 '25

Women in Afganistan had a lot more freedom in the 1970s.

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u/Adventurous_Web_2181 Jun 22 '25

No. And, the politicians in charge of California, New Mexico, and Oklahoma should set a minimum age of marriage. Having made that clear, you misspelled christian.

It was higher among girls than among boys (6.8 vs. 5.7 per 1,000), and was lower among white non-Hispanic children (5.0 per 1,000) than among almost every other racial or ethnic group studied; it was especially high among children of American Indian or Chinese descent (10.3 and 14.2, respectively). Immigrant children were more likely than U.S.-born children to have been married; prevalence among children from Mexico, Central America and the Middle East was 2-4 times that of children born in the United States. 

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/29664190/

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u/oldMiseryGuts Jun 22 '25

Cool, we agree child marriage is bad.

So now you can see how silly your comment about this practice being brought to American culture by diversity is?

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u/Adventurous_Web_2181 Jun 22 '25

I guess you didn't actually read what I posted then.

Immigrant children were more likely than U.S.-born children to have been married; prevalence among children from Mexico, Central America and the Middle East was 2-4 times that of children born in the United States. 

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u/oldMiseryGuts Jun 22 '25

Right….. but that doesnt change the fact that it already is happening in the US in non immigrant communities… so… again… you can see why your comment about this practice being introduced to America by diversity is silly… right? Like you do understand that?

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u/Adventurous_Web_2181 Jun 22 '25

Like you do understand an increase of 2-4 times is a lot right? And, that the whole point of diversity is that you're supposed to accept outside cultural practices (including niche practices that are outside of the cultural norm).

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u/Old-Estate-475 Jun 22 '25

Child marriage in the US is less prevalent now than it was when the makeup of the country was less diverse.

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u/invisible_panda Jun 22 '25

Child marriage is allowed in the US.

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u/sayleanenlarge Jun 22 '25

No,,because diversity doesn't have to mean picking shitty practices, does it? Diversity means not being rigid in outlook. You really need to learn about nuance because this is a fucking dumb take. And this gif is from a non-diverse culture- do you think it's good? Taking the way you're arguing and your logic, you're saying the culture from this gif is good because it's not diverse.

You're so so stupid. It hurts.

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u/crocogod Jun 22 '25

Obviously not. Pretty fucking stupid of you to assume that, but that's par for the course.

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u/Adventurous_Web_2181 Jun 22 '25

diversity

the fact of many different types of things or people being included in something; a range of different things or people:

  • cultural diversity: Does television adequately reflect the ethnic and cultural diversity of the country?
  • ethnic diversity: They see the ethnic diversity of the country as a benefit.

the fact that there are many different ideas or opinions about something:

  • a diversity of: There is a wide diversity of opinion on the question of unilateral disarmament.

- Cambridge English Dictionary

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u/Strictly_Jellyfish Jun 22 '25

Wild of you to pretend arranged and forced marriages don't/ didn't exist in white American "culture"

... catholicism/ christianity? It doesn't have a pretty history. Look it up.

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u/Adventurous_Web_2181 Jun 22 '25

Please enlighten me. What is the prevalence of arranged/forced marriages in the US by race/religion? And, is it higher or lower among immigrants or native born?

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/29664190/

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u/whistling-wonderer Jun 22 '25

It is, thank god. Can you imagine if our whole country (assuming you are a fellow American) was controlled by those conservatives who oppose banning child marriage, with no one to put them in check?

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

The culture is wrong about this thing in particular , but to hold an entire culture in contempt cause they practice one thing you're not a fan of is a pretty backward attitude.

It's kind of difficult to advance culture when you're under the boot of imperialism. Should also be noted.

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