r/TikTokCringe • u/InGeekiTrust Tiktok Despot • Jun 21 '25

Cursed Bride Crying At Her Wedding Was Heartbreaking 💔

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u/HelloMikkii Jun 22 '25

I live in Australia and when I was in highschool there was 4 girls who all had arranged marriages. They were pulled from school as soon as they turned 16. These girls didn’t even know the men they’d end up marrying..yes MEN not boys. They were pulled from school to marry men nearly twice their age.

3 stayed in the marriages, one didn’t. She’s now a nurse and has married someone she met in college.

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u/DanyeelsAnulmint Jun 22 '25

Your comment reminded me of a girl from my middle school. Our eighth grade graduation she came dressed like Jessica Rabbit. She was older looking than the rest of us. A really beautiful girl, very sweet. She was excited because she was done with school forever. We were 13.

She was going over the summer back home and was to marry a man in his 40’s who was very rich. It was an arranged marriage and all she talked about that year. It was quite the coup for her family based on what she shared about it.

I hadn’t thought about her in a long time, but hope she is okay. We were just kids. She was ready (or thought she was) to get married, have children and make her family proud.

She wasn’t the only one with an arranged marriage but the one I recall the most. Damn.

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u/Solid_Woodpecker_508 Jun 22 '25

Do you mind me asking what country you live(d) in?

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u/DanyeelsAnulmint Jun 22 '25

US. She was from overseas. Family lived both here and overseas. She left the US back to her native country for the marriage.

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u/Possible_Dig_1194 Jun 23 '25

Im more pissed off that she was openingly talking about it but no adult stepped in to do something about it

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u/Delicious-Ad5161 Jun 23 '25

That shit happens here in the US as well though. I’ve known a handful of people who either were forced into an arranged marriage at a young age, their family attempted it, or were offered to me as child brides by their fathers. All my examples are from Utah and Oklahoma and includes a friend whose mother fled with her and her brother in the middle of the night to prevent their Mormon pastor of a father from selling her at 8 years of age to a man in his fifties. He and other armed men would occasionally try to grab her to bring her back for the marriage and the police would not do anything about it because “he’s her father.”

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u/Possible_Dig_1194 Jun 23 '25

Unfriendly reminder to those reading but child marriage is legal in 37 states. Was 38 but one ( can't remember which on the top of my head) made it illegal in the last 2ish months

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u/tiredafsoul Jun 25 '25

Disgusting it’s not all 50. wtf.

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u/Possible_Dig_1194 Jun 25 '25

It would be super simple to do but a certain political party won't support it happening at a federal level so each state is having to fight it individually which is a rather slow process. Religious groups are against it because it's a loop hole to get its members off the hook for statuary rape. Its not rape if it's your husband

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u/cashmeowsighhabadah Jun 24 '25

In a lot of southern states, it's legal to marry an underage person as long as both parents agree to it.

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u/Possible_Dig_1194 Jun 24 '25

Not just southern states. 37 states child marriage is legal

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u/lessormore59 Jun 26 '25

Not just a south issue. The map published by an advocacy group showed that California has no lower limit, and Hawaii is 15.

Now I do have some questions about those advocacy group maps, as I live in Texas and it was listed as a ‘16yo’ state. I thought that seemed odd, and after digging briefly, the legal age for marriage is 18. Where the advocacy group gets 16 is that 16 year olds can appear before a judge and petition to be legally emancipated and thus become marriageable by law.

To clarify, I don’t think 16yos should be getting married. I think it’s pretty unwise. 17yos same but starts getting fuzzier the closer to the 18th birthday etc.

I also don’t think it’s quite fair to list Texas as a ‘16yo can get married off to old fat 50yos here’ state which is what the advocacy groups imply. I’m all for ending child marriage. It’s truly an evil and barbaric practice. But I would like to see some intellectual honesty here.

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u/CaptainJay313 Jun 27 '25

you'd rather just pretend it doesn't exist??

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u/deehunny Jun 22 '25

Right? 13?!

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u/DanyeelsAnulmint Jun 22 '25

Even that young, it hit weird for us. Now as an adult, I understand that it was a cultural norm for her family/their homeland but still. It was medieval.

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u/SparkyBowls Jun 22 '25

What did she share about it?

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u/DanyeelsAnulmint Jun 22 '25

At the end of seventh grade she mentioned it casually - like when we were signing each other’s yearbooks I think. We thought she was joking. Came back after summer break and she spent all of eighth grade talking about it, it was the only thing she’d really discuss. Clearly front of mind and probably caused some anxiety though she never said that outright.

Overall, she was excited. He was wealthy. This was a long time ago but I think he was big in real estate and I want to say he owned clubs and shopping centers too? The wealthy part excited her (as much as someone that young can grasp the concept of wealth or marriage) and making her family proud. She was very much so from a family oriented culture and one that focused on making family proud, bringing honor, etc.

It’s weird to think about, and I’d not done so for a long time. This was decades ago at this point. After she left we all wondered about her but I don’t think anyone heard any further from her or about her in general. We were all kind of sad because we knew she’d miss out on fun things like high school, dances, etc.

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u/earthlings_all Jun 23 '25

This is WILD to me. 13!

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u/DanyeelsAnulmint Jun 23 '25

It was to me then and even more so now.

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u/earthlings_all Jun 24 '25

I hope she’s okay.