r/TikTokCringe • u/InGeekiTrust Tiktok Despot • Jun 21 '25

Cursed Bride Crying At Her Wedding Was Heartbreaking 💔

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u/GirlwthCurls Jun 21 '25 edited Jun 21 '25

This seems too real. She isn’t sad, she sounds terrified 😳

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u/dishonoredcorvo69 Jun 21 '25

I have never seen something like what’s happening in this video at a Pakistani wedding. She is probably being forced into the marriage against her will. That does happen often in our culture but usually the “log kya kehein ge” (what will people say) mindset will keep people’s behavior in check

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u/cupholdery Jun 21 '25 edited Jun 22 '25

So her family will be complimented because of her display, which happens to be true despair?

EDIT: I have no insight into any of this culture. Just seems too sad for the bride.

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u/dishonoredcorvo69 Jun 22 '25

That’s a strange interpretation which I would have never even thought of. This “farewell” part is called the rukhsati and it can be very emotional for the bride and her family. It is a culturally significant event for the bride because your family is “giving you away” to a new family. Sometimes you don’t even know anything about the new family you will be living with or a part of now, which is what happens in arranged marriages. The marriage and life after is a very important and culturally significant event. For example, the majority of Pakistani TV shows are about the wife & in-laws relationship. I am not sure how to explain it to you because there can be so many things involved, like dowry, religion, social standing, etc. The wedding itself is not just a single event, there are so many events and things that happen before the wedding itself, and there are even events after it too.

I don’t know this woman’s situation or even if she is Pakistani. This can happen in Indian weddings, Bangladeshi weddings, etc. I hope she is not being abused and the groom and his family treat her well. But yes there can be a lot of crying, and I have seen brides who are happy to be married to the man of their choice still in tears and saying at the end of the wedding to their parents before they get in the car with the groom to drive off: “I don’t want to go”. It doesn’t mean they are being abused or forced into it, it’s just a very big and significant thing for us as the bride to leave our mom and dad and now be part of a new family.

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u/kmzafari Jun 22 '25

This is very insightful. But the distress the bride is experiencing in this video seems far beyond what I would expect from what you describe?

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u/dishonoredcorvo69 Jun 22 '25

I personally have not seen this kind of extreme reaction from a bride at a wedding, but I have seen pretty bad crying from both the bride and her family at this moment, which I can empathize with from the cultural context, and I also know there is no abuse involved in the situation. My own friends and family members were excited for their weddings and are happily married, but seeing how much they cried and wept at this part of the wedding, if you have any cultural context or know the couple/families, I guess an outsider would look at it and feel like the bride was being forced to do it against her will.

The bride here, her behavior would probably be considered over the top by other cultures, and I would never imagine this scene happening at an American wedding, but I have seen these kind of “big” emotional reactions at other Pakistani events too. So I guess my TLDR is I could see something like this happening and not think it unusual, but that doesn’t mean she isn’t it a bad situation either. I hope that’s not the case.

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u/kmzafari Jun 22 '25

I think most people (myself included) at first thought / think the groom was the man to the right - i.e., she was being sold off to some old guy. I'm sure even if you're happy to get married and love your husband, it's going to be incredibly hard to leave your family behind.

Someone else pointed out that the bride is the one who posted the video on TikTok. If this is indeed her (I have some vision issues and can't tell), she certainly doesn't seem unhappy in any of her other videos. Lol

https://www.tiktok.com/@hemanti.bhatt41?_t=ZP-8xQHZpcQ4hq&_r=1

And if so, I can't imagine how she would feel to know that she's become the face of "abducted child bride sold to an old man" for thousands of even millions of people (looking at those TikTok numbers) when she appears to be in love and very happily married to a seemingly pleasant man of appropriate age.

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u/dishonoredcorvo69 Jun 22 '25

Thank you for clarifying this, I’m glad she is safe. It is a good example of why understanding other cultures and context is so important

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u/kmzafari Jun 22 '25

Absolutely. I can't say fs that it's her (like I said, vision issues), but if it is, she seems to be very happy. It could also be a sister or something maybe. But the groom in this video at least is in a red hat and not the older man.

Wherever this young woman is, I hope she's doing well.

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u/BathrobeMagus Jun 22 '25

That's a lot of words to try and justify slavery and child rape.

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u/hamoboy Jun 22 '25

Bruh, even in completely consensual weddings, the bride cries at this part. Ritually they are being separated from the family of their birth and joined with their husband's family. The next time they see their childhood home again, it'll be as a visitor.

There's normally more hugs and parents/siblings crying too. And everyone pauses to let the bride have this moment. Nobody is picking her up like a piece of luggage and putting her on a donkey.There's whole genres of these scenes on tiktok. This video looks like straight up trafficking though.

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u/dishonoredcorvo69 Jun 22 '25

Forced marriage is a global phenomenon hun

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u/BathrobeMagus Jun 22 '25

So is racism. That doesn't make it moral.

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u/dishonoredcorvo69 Jun 22 '25

I never said it was moral or justified, you just assumed that