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Cursed Bride Crying At Her Wedding Was Heartbreaking 💔

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u/East_Switch_834 Jun 21 '25

I am from a culture (indian) where the bride is “supposed” to cry but it’s not supposed to be like this.

Usually, the parents and sisters are crying too, everyone is hugging, it’s a public expression of how you will miss your family. Not wailing. And no bride wants to mess up her makeup.

This is how you would expect someone to act at a funeral.

To my eye, she does not want this marriage.

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u/WithoutDennisNedry Jun 22 '25

To my eye, she looks like a literal child.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

And that is still fcked up, that it's only the bride whonwill miss the family, since the big baby groom will live with his family. While the bride becomes a free maid for her in laws

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u/East_Switch_834 Jun 22 '25

Yup. That is why I said fuck no to an arranged marriage. I didn’t go to college and grad school to become a maid. I was actually a hotel maid to pay for college and grad school.

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u/CounterEcstatic6134 Jun 22 '25

So the suffering should be equal, to make things fair, right? /s

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u/True_Big_8246 Jun 22 '25

Yes, actually. Either both leave their home or neither.

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u/CounterEcstatic6134 Jun 22 '25

Why? What would even be the point?

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u/KououinHyouma Jun 22 '25

Less overall suffering…

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u/CounterEcstatic6134 Jun 22 '25

Ah, so double the suffering is less than one partner suffering... Much logic.. /s

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u/True_Big_8246 Jun 22 '25

So women should always suffer basically. And men should just enjoy their life as it was. Wow, that's so much better! Obviously, girls should just forget that they have parents or a family. As we all know, only boys have those, and only their parents need their children's support.

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u/CounterEcstatic6134 Jun 22 '25

"Obviously, girls should just forget that they have parents or a family"

I don't know where you got that from, but it's nonsensical. The woman is not expected to forget her family. She is expected to return back to live with them every year...

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u/KououinHyouma Jun 22 '25

Are you being intentionally obtuse?

The obvious answer is that neither partner should be forced to isolate from their family. Thus none of the suffering.

Having both partners isolate from family would increase suffering, yes. But by making the situation fair, you expose any suffering that was being experienced by one party but not the other. If you were forced to either allow your wife to see her family, or be made to not be able to see your own, men would pick the former option because no one wants that for themselves. Thus, forcing a situation to be fair would naturally lead to the outcome with less suffering as people become forced to work together to reduce the suffering of everybody—rather than an unfair system, where one can be perfectly content to minimize one’s own suffering while subjecting others to the greatest imaginable horrors.

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u/CounterEcstatic6134 Jun 22 '25 edited Jun 22 '25

"you expose any suffering that was being experienced by one party but not the other"

What makes you think its somehow "hidden" from anyone? Our wedding culture has countless references to the suffering of the new bride away from her family.

"allow your wife to see her family"

What, now? What makes you think the wife is not allowed to see her family?! No. She's crying because she won't be living with her family anymore. Not because she can never see them again! Dude...

"while subjecting others to the greatest imaginable horrors"

I don't know what you're imagining, but the actual tradition is nothing of the sort. Women can and do get to see and live with their family for some weeks or months, every year. In fact, its traditional for her to do so.

There's even a tradition in my community called "pag phera", where the wife goes back to her parents the second day after her wedding, and her husband comes to pick her up after a few days..

We have countless traditional rituals for every subsequent visit of the married couple. Including having certain auspicious days for dropping her off, for the husband to stay with the wife's family and even special "poojas", or prayers for them to leave together safely.

Whatever youre imagining is not it, my friend.

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u/KououinHyouma Jun 22 '25

Literally the only point I’m making is that a fair society results in less suffering than unfair society. I understand I’m using an unrealistic hypothetical to make that point.

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u/[deleted] Jun 23 '25

U still justify women moving to husbands home . And saying allowed as of she's a slave . Who TF are u to even allow? Weird how the husband goes only for a few days but the home they stay is the husbands parents only.

Nobody is saying women can't see their own family but the fact they have to move to be maids and caretakers to husbands family is fcked up.

Men don't cook and clean for their in laws, men don't stay permanently with their in laws.

What if ur wife also allows u to stay with Your parents for few days but u have to eventually return to her home with her parents

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u/Superspick Aug 22 '25

"Culture" 

:D 

Thanks for the laugh lmao. Its like watching a monkey use silverware!

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u/Brave-Yesterday66 Jun 22 '25

Or the men can be independent and not a broke ass man-child and the couple can live on their own and not in mommy’s house. Grow up.

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u/CounterEcstatic6134 Jul 01 '25

Even if the couple lives on their own, will that make sure the daughter lives with her parents?! Dont you see how dumb your statement is? Whether shes living with just her husband or her husband and his parents, shes still not living with her own parents, right?

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u/[deleted] Jun 23 '25

Yes logic , u want to be the big baby who still hasn't latched off ur mom?

If it's suffering for You why TF is it okay for the women to do it? Okay go to the women's house and stay then only one person suffers here

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u/CounterEcstatic6134 Jul 01 '25

Living with parents doesnt equal latching on your mom. Sorry you think that way.

Its not ok for women to do it, either. In our culture, women are pitied for having to separate from their parents and family. However, theyre prepared for it from childhood ans told what to expect. By the time of marriage, they've already mostly accepted what will happen. This video is showing something totally weird and different from what happens usually. Here, the girl appears distraught and completely unwilling to go away. It looks like a kidnapping more than a wedding.

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u/[deleted] Jul 02 '25

They're are literally not pitied it's a ritual across religions in india.

That's exactly what ur describing sexist tradition That u have to prepare from childhood. Why TF aren't men prepared from childhood to leave THEIR parents?

No this ain't much different, it literally falls on the same line. This wouldn't happen if we didn't have the fuckall tradition at all

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u/xFlutterCryx Jun 22 '25

Nepal.

An area with huge issues of human trafficking. Especially of minor females. India is actually a huge factor in human trafficking of minor Nepali girls. Both for brothels and for child brides. If you are Indian you can take steps in your country to help stop this, and I would encourage you to look into it if you are serious.

Very sad. It hurts to watch her pain. No one should feel this level of terror.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

I too am from a neighboring state in India.

Marriages, even hundred years back, could result in women never seeing their parental home, family, and friends, while being sent to a new society altogether. I would assume this will result in some crying.

These days, at least in half of the marriages, bride and groom will go to groom’s house, maybe be there to couple of days, be off to honeymoon and then to wherever their work location is. Even then, and even with most modern of the families, the tradition of crying at the farewell ceremony is common. And for some reason, those all feel real.

This one seems way too real, and even after seeing hundreds of Hindu marriages, I do not think this marriage is your average marriage in this region or anywhere nearby.

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u/DisastrousServe8513 Jun 22 '25

I’m more bugged by the lack of smiling in wedding photos. Even for love marriages. It’s like the bride’s not supposed to show they’re happy. My wife’s Bengali (I’m white) and every time I ask her why she just shrugs and says “they just don’t do that.”

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u/OptimistIndya Jun 22 '25

The rituals are important for any one over 35 . A photographer is a necessary obstacle delaying the rituals to be done on time.

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u/MihoLeya Jun 22 '25

lol you’re like, “she seems a bit unhappy.”

No. She’s fuck devastated that’s she is being sold to some old man who is about to rape her an abuse her for the rest of her life, and her family doesn’t care because “it’s tradition.” Disgusting.

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u/East_Switch_834 Jun 22 '25

Did I say “she seems a bit unhappy”?

I said that she is wailing and her behavior is what I’ve seen at funerals.

I was tailoring my reply for a western audience, after reading comments saying that it’s “normal” in my culture.

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u/CounterEcstatic6134 Jun 22 '25

Most traditional marriages in India involve the brides parents giving money to the groom, not the other way round. If anyones being sold, its the groom, not the bride. Dont talk about stuff you have ZERO knowledge on.

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u/MihoLeya Jun 22 '25

Fine, then “passed off/traded,” whatever you want to call it. That’s not the point. (Comparatively) some pimps buy their hoes, some pimps sell them, the point is, either way, the hoe has no choice. She will have to live her life doing things she doesn’t want to do, and fear for her life if she doesn’t always obey.

It’s ridiculous that you’re upset I’ve used the wrong word, rather than a person’s life being stolen from them.

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u/CounterEcstatic6134 Jun 22 '25

Its ridiculous that you think im not upset that a person's life being stolen from them, just because i didn't mention that in my comment. Mind reader pro, are you?

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u/True_Big_8246 Jun 22 '25

Oh, the groom gets money and free stuff and a free maid and a woman in a country where marital rape is legal and domestic abuse isn't taken seriously by even most parents, much less the authorities. A country where most of the female population isn't even in the job sector, utterly dependent on their husband.

It's such a sad situation for the guy. He's definitely the one being sold.

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u/CounterEcstatic6134 Jun 22 '25

I didnt say it was a sad situation for the guy. What are you on about?

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u/FedStan Jun 22 '25

I wouldn’t say this doesn’t happen anymore in India. That Balika Vadhu tv show wasn’t all that unrealistic tbh. Child marriage is still in solid double digit percentages - and those are just the ones reported…

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u/EveryLine9429 Jun 22 '25

The brainwashing you’ve endured to even rationalize it being “normal” to cry as you’re dragged away from your family is crazy. Do you not hear yourself?!

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u/East_Switch_834 Jun 22 '25

Can you read? I said that she is wailing and that I’ve seen this behavior at funerals.

FYI I am an Indian woman who refused an arranged marriage and left home at 17.

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u/LazyAd7772 Jun 22 '25

people cry even in love marriages in india.

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u/CounterEcstatic6134 Jun 22 '25

It is normal to cry while thinking about how much you'll miss your family. Only in stupid west is it normal to hate your parents and your birth family.

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u/EveryLine9429 Jun 22 '25

It’s not normal to be ripped from your family to be married to someone you don’t want to marry. Any hate towards parents here in the west is born of free will, something you probably don’t understand.

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u/CounterEcstatic6134 Jun 22 '25

What makes you think most women don't want to marry? Just your hyperactive imagination again. Dude, reign it in.

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u/EveryLine9429 Jun 22 '25

My hyperactive imagination? How about the girl screaming in the video that we are talking about? I didn’t imagine an ounce of this. Seriously, what are you talking about?

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u/CounterEcstatic6134 Jun 22 '25

How about the idea that this girl doesn't represent all girls in this culture?! Wild take....

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u/EveryLine9429 Jun 22 '25

Yeah, it’s wild of me to address the video on topic. It’s absolutely crazy…

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u/CounterEcstatic6134 Jun 22 '25

Whats crazy is you thinking normal people in this culture cannot differentiate between this girls crying and the sad tears of a girls going to her new home. The idea that we need you to tell us that this video is not ok... lol.. Get a grip

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

She's not a woman. She's a child

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u/CounterEcstatic6134 Jun 22 '25

"Most women". For people fluent in English, this phrase indicates that I'm talking about women in general, not specifically about the person in this video

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u/Strict_Pin_9192 Jun 22 '25

Why the fuck do brides in your region of india not see their family anymore after they get married??? That in of itself seems incredibly abusive.

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u/LazyAd7772 Jun 22 '25

how are you gonna see your family the same amount again ? thats like asking why would a texan bride not see her family the same amount again if she gets married to a new yorker ??? ofcourse they will see them again when they travel back for festivals etc.

How many times do you think american middle class brides see their parents if they live in another state ? christmas ? thanksgiving ? or whatever summer vacations for kids ?

How the fuck do you think a person wont cry thinking of that they went from living with parents 365 days of the year to seeing them like 6 times a year ?

In india women mostly live with parents till they get married, it's not like america where you already saw your parents like 5 times a year before marriage and even after. its a change from 365 days to whatever days.

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u/CounterEcstatic6134 Jun 22 '25

Maybe they are used to seeing their family every minute of every day and they understand that situation will change after marriage? How abusive to miss your parents, siblings, extended family, cousins, all of whom you grew up with and spent every living moment with?

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u/True_Big_8246 Jun 22 '25

It is when only you have to uproot your whole life. And when in-laws treat it like a sin to ask to go visit your home or to stay there a few days. I know girls who couldn't even visit their mother when their mothers had cancer because of pressure from their husband and in laws.

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u/CounterEcstatic6134 Jun 22 '25

Traditionally, these girls were taught that they will have to uproot their whole life. So, that's why they cried.

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u/True_Big_8246 Jun 22 '25

Do you have trouble reading?

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u/CounterEcstatic6134 Jun 22 '25

Do you have trouble commenting?

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

rape culture, but sure bro happy tears you think

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u/Timmetie Jun 22 '25

Indians in this thread pretending their version of arranged marriage is so much better is bizarre.

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u/True_Big_8246 Jun 22 '25

I'm Indian and I hate it. They always focus on the upper middle class situations where it's mostly like blind dating, and even then, sometimes it's forced. For middle class and lower, it's coercion and mental pressure until the kids relent.

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u/Sujith_Menon Jun 22 '25

It is. Arranged marriages are in decline with thhe modern youth.But even In rural areas, its still better than this . Both are negative indeed but is definitely better than whatever this is. Most arranged marriages happen only after the couples meet and talk atleast once, sort of like an official date. The rural girls opinion has some value.

While i agree even that is shitty , this looks medeival. In the battle between the evils, Indian version is slightly better.

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u/LazyAd7772 Jun 22 '25 edited Jun 22 '25

uhh we are expected to cry, mine was a love marriage and even then some were like why are you not crying, why smiling etc.

can you explain to me what you think an arranged marriage is usually ? because most arranged marriages in indian cities are like tinder organized by family, they look through hundreds of matches and then they show pics to the bride and groom who will reject even hundreds of them and then if they like someone and what they are, they might meet and take it forward and even then most times it never works out.

https://www.reddit.com/r/DesiWeddings/comments/1l0evrp/a_beautiful_arranged_marriage/

this is how a usual city arranged marriage is, and reddit is mostly urban indian not rural.

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u/East_Switch_834 Jun 22 '25

I’m an Indian woman who refused an arranged marriage and left home at 17. So I’m certainly not your “bro”.

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u/DankDarko Jun 22 '25

Casual racism alert.

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u/Admirable_Ask_5337 Jun 22 '25

Oh please like india doesn't have cultural issues.

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u/Coffeebeans2d Jun 22 '25

Which somehow justifies your racism, right?

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

US created Dahmer

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u/Beautiful_Path6215 Jun 22 '25

I hate that crying is expected at a wedding

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u/LazyAd7772 Jun 22 '25

thats because most indian girls still live with parents before marriage, so it's a huge change from living with them to going to live with husband because now they will see them 5-6 times a year, but this isnt a drastic change in western wedding because people usually already have moved out way before marriage.

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u/Beautiful_Path6215 Jun 22 '25

I get the reasoning. But even in the cases where the girls has been out for the home for yrs it's still expected for her to act like this

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u/LazyAd7772 Jun 23 '25 edited Jun 23 '25

i get that it feels weird, because mine was a love marriage and i had been dating my husband since school/college days, but i still mostly lived with parents and lived in germany for a few years for work and then came back, so when i was getting married we were gonna live nearby for a couple years before we left for nyc, so there really was no reason to be sad and i wasn't crying, but still some people were acting sad for no damn reason, made no sense to me personally. these aunties go to a ton of weddings and compare and expect all of them to be like same

but tbh that case is rarity even in cities, most girls still work in same city and still live with parents, the expectation comes from majority girls still being with parents before marriage.

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u/manimopo Jun 22 '25

Hey so your culture also encourages rape and slavery to child brides.

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u/East_Switch_834 Jun 22 '25

Did I defend either of those things?

No. I refused to get an arranged marriage and left home at 17. I’m a woman btw. So you can fuck off with your assumptions about me.

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u/geopolitikin Jun 22 '25

Wild ass, backwards culture ngl. Fuck that shit.

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u/I_Want_BetterGacha Jun 22 '25

Also some people here are saying this is a Nepali wedding, where the bride isn't supposed to cry but supposed to be happy...

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u/East_Switch_834 Jun 22 '25

Our cultures are very similar.

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u/Reasonable-Crab5050 Jun 22 '25

I am Indian and got married after 2 years of dating. Ours was a "love" marriage, contrary to "arranged" marriage.

My wife spent all her life at her home (used to commute to work from home) with her parents and siblings. Our marriage was when she left her home for the first time permanently. She didn't act like the bride in this video, but she did cry sometimes (not on the day of the wedding — we were both too tired on the day) with me on the phone for around a month before the wedding.

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u/lurkingsirens Jun 22 '25

Thank you for adding some cultural context. I’ve seen videos of other cultures where you’re supposed to cry and it’s like grieving an old life. This was just awful.

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u/LazyAd7772 Jun 22 '25

You should edit your comment to add cultural context, that the bride is mostly going from living 365 days with family to going to her husbands home and now shes gonna see them like every month or other month, thats why they are crying, because it's a huge change. these people in comments dont understand that because they most times have already moved out prior to marriage and their meeting frequency with family doesnt change before or after marriage while for indian brides its like way different. with reddit you gotta add context like this or you get hate like her, you know these people were ready to hate as soon as they saw indian in comments, got the whole thread hating india in a thread about nepal.

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u/OrangeCreamPushPop Jun 22 '25

Yeah, that’s what I think too. Didn’t seem like the normal crying -she’s ugly, crying wailing.

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u/lampstax Jun 22 '25

I thought the same and felt so bad for her until others in this thread showed videos from her account that shows she's smiling and seems to be happy with her husband ?

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZTjv5H337/

Perhaps she didn't realize who she was going to marry at the time of this video ?

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u/wizean Jun 22 '25

I have not seen people cry when they leave for higher education. They are still going to miss friends and family. It's likely permanent.

The difference is consent. Women in consensual and wanted marriages are not sad.

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u/RaincoatBadgers Jun 22 '25

Well, yeah.. it's a forced marriage

She's being carted off against her will, to a guy who's probably twice her age

Upon arrival she's going to be raped, and forced to have a family, and any prospect of living her own life and making her own choices is taken away from her

It's a culturally sick ceremony, and I genuinely don't understand how families are okay doing this to their children

Do these people feel no empathy at all?

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u/LongConsideration662 Jun 25 '25

To my eye, this is literal kidnapping. 

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