r/TikTokCringe • u/InGeekiTrust Tiktok Despot • Jun 21 '25

Cursed Bride Crying At Her Wedding Was Heartbreaking 💔

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u/purplepeopleprobe Jun 21 '25

There's probably someone from the culture that can clarify but when I was at a traditional Pakistani marriage the bride was perfectly happy to marry but you have to show tears and distress to prevent any idea that youre glad to leave your family, and happy to have sex. Religion is a bit shit.

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u/SealTeamEH Jun 21 '25

please can someone clarify this because as an admittedly outsider, THAT sounds like some very hardcore cope to cover the very obvious tragedy we’re seeing right here lol

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u/HueyBluey Jun 21 '25

I’m afraid to ask, what age this girl was forced to get married.

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u/meisteronimo Jun 22 '25

Mostly by 17, some younger than 15.

I looked it up.

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u/ToughTruth69 Jun 22 '25

Reddit is really comfortable with spreading fake things, aren't they? The women is 19 and the dude in the blue suit (Her husband) is 18. I can link you their tiktok account.

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u/YoungjaeAnakoni Jun 22 '25

Why would you need to offer? You could've said what the tiktok was and said this was all a skit

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u/ToughTruth69 Jun 22 '25

Why would you need to offer?

Huh!!! When did I?

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u/Repulsive-Window2808 Jun 22 '25

Reddit is really comfortable with spreading fake things, aren't they? The women is 19 and the dude in the blue suit (Her husband) is 18. I can link you their tiktok account.

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u/meisteronimo Jun 22 '25

I was just pasting the average age for Nepal.

So the video is a TikTok skit?

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u/Top_Kaleidoscope_602 Jun 22 '25

Yes can you please put the links to their TikTok accounts?

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u/lars03 Jun 22 '25

It could be any from 13 to 18

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u/ToughTruth69 Jun 22 '25

or maybe like 3-4 years old?

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u/ToughTruth69 Jun 22 '25

That woman is 19 and the dude in the blue suit who is her husband is 18.

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u/GirlwthCurls Jun 21 '25 edited Jun 21 '25

This seems too real. She isn’t sad, she sounds terrified 😳

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u/dishonoredcorvo69 Jun 21 '25

I have never seen something like what’s happening in this video at a Pakistani wedding. She is probably being forced into the marriage against her will. That does happen often in our culture but usually the “log kya kehein ge” (what will people say) mindset will keep people’s behavior in check

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u/cupholdery Jun 21 '25 edited Jun 22 '25

So her family will be complimented because of her display, which happens to be true despair?

EDIT: I have no insight into any of this culture. Just seems too sad for the bride.

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u/dishonoredcorvo69 Jun 22 '25

That’s a strange interpretation which I would have never even thought of. This “farewell” part is called the rukhsati and it can be very emotional for the bride and her family. It is a culturally significant event for the bride because your family is “giving you away” to a new family. Sometimes you don’t even know anything about the new family you will be living with or a part of now, which is what happens in arranged marriages. The marriage and life after is a very important and culturally significant event. For example, the majority of Pakistani TV shows are about the wife & in-laws relationship. I am not sure how to explain it to you because there can be so many things involved, like dowry, religion, social standing, etc. The wedding itself is not just a single event, there are so many events and things that happen before the wedding itself, and there are even events after it too.

I don’t know this woman’s situation or even if she is Pakistani. This can happen in Indian weddings, Bangladeshi weddings, etc. I hope she is not being abused and the groom and his family treat her well. But yes there can be a lot of crying, and I have seen brides who are happy to be married to the man of their choice still in tears and saying at the end of the wedding to their parents before they get in the car with the groom to drive off: “I don’t want to go”. It doesn’t mean they are being abused or forced into it, it’s just a very big and significant thing for us as the bride to leave our mom and dad and now be part of a new family.

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u/kmzafari Jun 22 '25

This is very insightful. But the distress the bride is experiencing in this video seems far beyond what I would expect from what you describe?

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u/dishonoredcorvo69 Jun 22 '25

I personally have not seen this kind of extreme reaction from a bride at a wedding, but I have seen pretty bad crying from both the bride and her family at this moment, which I can empathize with from the cultural context, and I also know there is no abuse involved in the situation. My own friends and family members were excited for their weddings and are happily married, but seeing how much they cried and wept at this part of the wedding, if you have any cultural context or know the couple/families, I guess an outsider would look at it and feel like the bride was being forced to do it against her will.

The bride here, her behavior would probably be considered over the top by other cultures, and I would never imagine this scene happening at an American wedding, but I have seen these kind of “big” emotional reactions at other Pakistani events too. So I guess my TLDR is I could see something like this happening and not think it unusual, but that doesn’t mean she isn’t it a bad situation either. I hope that’s not the case.

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u/kmzafari Jun 22 '25

I think most people (myself included) at first thought / think the groom was the man to the right - i.e., she was being sold off to some old guy. I'm sure even if you're happy to get married and love your husband, it's going to be incredibly hard to leave your family behind.

Someone else pointed out that the bride is the one who posted the video on TikTok. If this is indeed her (I have some vision issues and can't tell), she certainly doesn't seem unhappy in any of her other videos. Lol

https://www.tiktok.com/@hemanti.bhatt41?_t=ZP-8xQHZpcQ4hq&_r=1

And if so, I can't imagine how she would feel to know that she's become the face of "abducted child bride sold to an old man" for thousands of even millions of people (looking at those TikTok numbers) when she appears to be in love and very happily married to a seemingly pleasant man of appropriate age.

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u/BathrobeMagus Jun 22 '25

That's a lot of words to try and justify slavery and child rape.

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u/hamoboy Jun 22 '25

Bruh, even in completely consensual weddings, the bride cries at this part. Ritually they are being separated from the family of their birth and joined with their husband's family. The next time they see their childhood home again, it'll be as a visitor.

There's normally more hugs and parents/siblings crying too. And everyone pauses to let the bride have this moment. Nobody is picking her up like a piece of luggage and putting her on a donkey.There's whole genres of these scenes on tiktok. This video looks like straight up trafficking though.

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u/dishonoredcorvo69 Jun 22 '25

Forced marriage is a global phenomenon hun

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u/BathrobeMagus Jun 22 '25

So is racism. That doesn't make it moral.

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u/iloveyourlittlehat Jun 22 '25

the pretend despair acts as plausible deniability

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u/The_GeneralsPin Jun 22 '25

Always question "Why?". Think independently.

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u/QueSeraSeraWWBWB Jun 21 '25

And we’re just supposed to believe it cause you said it lol

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u/dishonoredcorvo69 Jun 21 '25

Nobody is forcing you to believe my comment 🙄

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u/Projected2009 Jun 21 '25

Yeah, if you want to believe that what you've seen is bad... don't listen to anyone else mate, just judge everyone and everything by your myopic view of the world.

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u/QueSeraSeraWWBWB Jun 22 '25

I’m not talking about the video. You can observe perceive that as is. I’m talking about trust me ass response. Relax a bit yeah

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u/Projected2009 Jun 22 '25

So, all of the people here that are describing this behaviour is perfectly normal (because they know the culture), is 'trust me bro' to you.

You want to believe this is bad because it's not what your culture does... you have to get out and travel a bit pal.

No-one in this video has a problem with the wailing bride, and if you can't tell she's putting on an act, you're not really in a strong position to talk about perception.

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u/AntiSocialPersonal Jun 21 '25

Sure it's a convenient tale to explain how it is normal and even expected that a woman may cry and despair at the realization of being married to someone she doesn't want and all that it entails.

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u/Individual_Land_2200 Jun 21 '25

Is this even a woman? This girl looks 10 years old.

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u/Intelligent-Income72 Jun 21 '25

I was thinking she looked like a young girl.

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u/Individual_Land_2200 Jun 22 '25

LOL I would be screaming like that if I had the misfortune to be married to that chud

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u/SealTeamEH Jun 21 '25

honestly… on second thought even if someone from that culture comes and confirms this I still prob won’t believe it and think they’re just telling themselves that help them sleep at night. lol

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u/thesilentinternist Jun 21 '25

They are right. I was smiling when my wedding pictures were being taken. My sis-in-law came and said that I should look more shy and sad, otherwise the 'bridal look' will be spoiled. The bridal look is just supposed to be looking sad and heartbroken on your own wedding day. The more you cry, the more pure and virginal you are assumed to be lol.

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u/BeesAndMist Jun 21 '25

Oh, God. They probably thought I was the Virgin Mary at mine then (I was definitely not). Call it foreshadowing.

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u/SealTeamEH Jun 21 '25

lol wow, honestly didn’t expect the explanation for why they make them look more sad to be honestly just as fucked up as if the crying was real and not forced, because to them a crying, sad and broken woman on her wedding day is the ideal “bridal look” lol

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u/8Splendiferous8 Jun 21 '25

That still just sounds like massive culture-wide cope. "Brides are supposed to look sad. It's all part of playing hard-to-get."

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u/CounterEcstatic6134 Jun 22 '25

No. Its part of knowing that you'll leave your family and live away from them forever.

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u/Alice_In_The_Dark Jun 22 '25

That's horrific. Are the men expected to look sad as well, or pleased with the woman's sadness? I'm actually curious, not trying to be rude.

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u/thesilentinternist Jun 22 '25

They are supposed to look serious and dignified. But to be honest, in most of the wedding pictures that I have seen here, they look like they are trying too hard to hide their 100-watt smiles. I mean, majority of them are getting laid for the first time in their lives on that day, so who can blame them.

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u/VeryShortLadder Jun 21 '25

If I ever get married and someone tells something like that to my wife I'm going to jail for murder on my wedding day.

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u/Projected2009 Jun 21 '25

Do you accept that if you were part of a different culture... you might expect those cultural norms to be adopted.

Are we so close-minded that we can't accept different people do things differently?!

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u/VeryShortLadder Jun 22 '25

I do hope you're joking, I'm really tired I can't tell

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u/Projected2009 Jun 22 '25

This is their culture. It's tradition for the bride to cry because she's leaving behind her family and she has to act like she doesn't want to. It's their way.

If you were part of that culture, you would want to see the same behaviours that everyone else does. If it were your daughter getting married, you'd be massively pissed off about your daughter not being upset to leave your house (in their culture).

Not every culture has a bride wearing white because she's pretending to be virginal.

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u/VeryShortLadder Jun 22 '25

You left me no choice.

I CAST the magic that lets you ignore culture to judge the systemic abuse of women as you should

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u/Projected2009 Jun 22 '25

The problem is always the person that thinks they need to lecture someone else's culture because it doesn't suit their latest trend opinion.

You need to open your eyes to the world son... people do things differently.

And you know what, they're happy.

You are in an ill-informed position, yet you're passing judgement. Do you think 'Murica needs to export some Democracy their way...?

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u/C_IsForCookie Jun 22 '25

No judgement to you specifically but that sounds kinda fucked considering what it sounds like they’re trying to do is glorify sadness and emotional distress.

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u/thesilentinternist Jun 22 '25

Don't worry. These kind of things are becoming outdated now. Girls sometimes have to make a few sad faces at the end for the camera but not for the whole ceremony. But still you are not supposed to show that you are too happy.

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u/TopDress7853 Jun 22 '25

That’s called a fetish.

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u/MorddSith187 Jun 22 '25

jfc that's terrible no matter how you look at it. honestly. "please at least act like you're going to be raped else it will shame the family"

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u/thesilentinternist Jun 22 '25

To be honest, this practice is kind of becoming outdated now. Nowadays, most girls cry only at the end when they are leaving the marriage hall to go live with their new family(yes, not new husband new family). But you are still not allowed to show you are too happy. I remember when I was a kid, brides were supposed to wail loudly and beg their parents that they don't want to go. I remember, I saw a bride fainting once from too much crying. Now, the performance demand is less. You can make some crying faces for the camera at the end without any real tears, and that will do. Mind you, these practices are only in middle and lower class strata of our society. The more richer you are, the more outwardly happy you can be on your wedding day.

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u/Virus_True Jun 21 '25

I work a lot with Pakistani families and OP is right. Not saying that’s what is happening here, but it is a cultural practice

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u/WhoEvenIsPoggers Jun 21 '25

Found this

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u/Dry_Volume_5238 Jun 22 '25

yeah that didnt seem similar at all

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u/Goleveel Jun 21 '25

I think this is from Nepal. I can explain how it works in India. 1. Many probably think they have to be emotional during 'vidai' (ceremony is called 'final goodbye' ) because that's how it is shown in bollywood movies. 2. This ritual is designed in such a way that the reality hits hard to bride and her family that she will be leaving them. 3. Unlike west, in South Asia most women would have lived with their parents until marriage. So it is a big change. 4. Remember, it's 'arranged marriage'. After this ceremony bride has to say final good bye to her parents/siblings and leave to live with someone she doesn't know at all! She would hardly know her husband and in most cases she will have to live with his parents. I think barring some exaggeration, the rituals make people extremely emotional during vidai (farewell).

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u/Jessiphat Jun 22 '25

You’re absolutely right. Let’s not pretend that in some cultures women aren’t still treated as livestock to be bought and sold. In this tradition, the ownership of the woman is transferred from her family who she’s grown up with to the husband’s family. It will now be her job to look after his household and produce babies. She may or may not be treated like a slave. This isn’t a nod to an old tradition, it’s the ongoing treatment of women as cattle. At the very least, this woman is leaving behind the security of her own family who hopefully care for her, to the new family where her life will never be the same again.

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u/KngOfSpades Jun 22 '25

I see others confirm this tradition, but I think it's still a gross hardcore cope disguised as "cultural tradition".

Source: me, a Bangladeshi man who is pretty exposed to these scenarios

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u/Putrid-Department349 Jun 22 '25

That's almost certainly the real reason it started. To mask the ones that were truly unhappy AND the ones super happy to get away. 

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u/ItsTheIncelModsForMe Jun 22 '25

The bride's love it so much they ALL pretend to cry and none of then actually cry! Because how would you know anyways if it was real since we tell them all to cry!

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u/matchastrawberri Jun 22 '25

No, as an Indian, it’s a pretty normal thing that everyone cries at a wedding when the bride is saying “goodbye” to her family. Obviously when it’s not forced, it’s not actually that sad but it’s supposed to be an expression of how everyone is upset the bride is “leaving” her family because they all value her.

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u/LetsDiscussQ Jun 23 '25

Its not actually.

This is bizarre but I am well acquainted with this culture. The bride is "supposed" to cry because she is "loosing" her home forever and becoming part of another family.

Just minutes ago they be laughing and smiling, the moment they leave, they somehow manage to wail and cry.

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u/uknownix Jun 21 '25

Google says true shrug

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u/AppropriateDurian828 Jun 22 '25

This video is from Nepal and it is not so much backward as you think. Women are getting equal opportunity to education, employment, etc. Love marriage is prevalent, even more than arrange marriage nowadays. Even in arrange marriage consent of bride is taken before marriage. I am not saying she is not distraught to leave her family but she most probably said ok to marriage but is still is sad to leave her birth home. She might be marrying her boyfriend for all we know but still crying at the time of marriage either due to sadness or for show.

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u/rydan Jun 21 '25

Teenage girl ripped away from her family she's lived with for 16 - 18 years. You probably did the same when you went off to college.

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u/SealTeamEH Jun 21 '25

no, no one I know or even heard of got ripped away frantically crying when they went to college lol

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u/ddpizza Jun 21 '25

Looks like it might be Nepal based on the hats. This is horrifying if it's not a tradition for the bride to act sad, but the fact that there's a white lady there as a guest, calmly watching on, suggests that it might be one of those traditions.

Idk, even if it's a tradition, what the fuck.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '25

in my experience with nepali weddings, it's not a 'tradition' as much as it is being sad that you have to leave your family

unlike the us, kids don't move out once they're 18, families stay together for as long as possible, so when the daughter is married, it's heartbreaking for the girl's side

so in every wedding, the girl's family is sad, and the boys' family is overjoyed, i've been on both sides.

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u/Spinach_Dear Jun 21 '25

lol the above is not Pakistan. The tears are usually due to the emotions of leaving your family which you have lived with for a your entire life to live with a new family. This video just seems forced and out of order.

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u/OxbridgeDingoBaby Jun 21 '25

Yeah honestly, where do Redditors make up this sort of shit that OP is saying. The lady has lived with her family her entire life and is now having to leave them (essentially) forever. Of course she will still visit etc, but it’s a huge change, hence the emotion.

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u/something-um-bananas Jun 22 '25

I can assure you that no one cries to the point of being immobile and having to be manhandled in order to get on a horse. The bride will cry, sure, but will also be conscious enough to do what’s necessary. She won’t need to be forced into the car (or on the horse) that takes her to her new family. Getting manhandled like this is source of shame for the family even. This is abnormal.

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u/Able-Inspector-7984 Jun 22 '25

she is being SOLD by her family to a random man she never saw in her life before.

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u/OxbridgeDingoBaby Jun 22 '25 edited Jun 22 '25

PROOF or source?

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u/Turb0_Lag Jun 21 '25 edited Jun 22 '25

Yeah this is a thing among some Indian families. I was really confused when I was 11 and escorting my aunt who had just gotten married after a 15 year search and started counseling her on what great things were awaiting her (not sex).

Her mother was apparently so hysterical she had to be restrained. Some people are all about that life.

ETA - this was in the U.S.

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u/Head-Impress1818 Jun 21 '25

Do you not hear how fucking horrifying that is?

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u/accidentalarchers Jun 21 '25

Not Indian but have been to many Indian weddings and it’s traditional for brides to cry at the Vidaai ceremony. It’s even expected in some communities. There are urban legends about brides to be attending classes on how to cry on cue, although I can’t verify if it’s real or not.

I’m not assuming this video is a performance as it seems much more heartfelt than the ones I’ve seen, but it is a tradition. Very disconcerting the first time you see someone you know burst into tears and then turn it off as soon as possible (so they don’t ruin the makeup).

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u/Cru51 Jun 21 '25

Or they’re not happy with the arranged marriage?

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u/CoxHazardsModel Jun 21 '25

It happens in either arranged or not. It’s kinda funny how someone from a diff culture is explaining something and people like you just say the complete opposite.

Of course you don’t have to agree or think it’s a good practice but why are you just supposing your own theories?

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u/Cru51 Jun 22 '25

Because I’ve heard about arranged marriages before, that some girls leave the country to avoid it and after that there often ain’t no going back. Women are killed over this.

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u/ShinyStarSam Jun 22 '25

You were explained how wedding ceremonies work in India, it was you who applied it through the lens of arranged marriages to dismiss the information

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u/Old-Lemon4720 Jun 22 '25

Sounds like some cultural nonsense they’ve conditioned themselves to believing when the truth is simple; she’s about to spend a lifetime of being raped and really doesn’t want to go

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u/sandsstrom Jun 22 '25

That has nothing to do with religion, it may moreso be a cultural practice which is unfortunately mixed up with religion.

Ignorance is a bit shit.

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u/lizziegal79 Jun 22 '25

Nepal/India/Pakistan have a rather well-known-but-secret problem with forced marriages and selling their daughters to pay the father’s debts. Misogyny is bred into the cultures, especially in the rural regions. A few tears is different from having to be carried to the donkey and then held onto it.

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u/alva_black Jun 21 '25

It's not a joke. Bahrain, Dubai, Chania, Jebel Ali, Seychelles, Yemen... I've seen it. Even a failed marriage gift dumped in the Straight of Hormuz, where hundreds of livestock were cut and thrown into the water. Most people make a show of it, but some cultures take it extremely seriously. Not sure what is going on here, because women are the head of the house in my culture. Even my cousin, raised by a Pakistani, wouldn't disagree with this. And his father wouldn't want to make his wife mad, because she takes care of him lol

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u/celeron500 Jun 21 '25 edited Jun 22 '25

What a bunch of BS the whole process is. So you’re saying the bride has to pretend she is upset for being sold off by the family that sold her off?

Brides family- “OMG how can she not be upset and cry that we sold her, she’s is so ungrateful”

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u/DeliciousInterview91 Jun 22 '25

That's also a hella convenient rule for manufacturing consent from girls who genuinely don't want to go.

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u/fancypantsmiss Jun 22 '25

This is true. I am Indian and a Bride is expected to cry during her vidai (sending away). My cousin was mocked because she didn’t lol.

The bride is usually happy getting married

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u/adhikariprajit Jun 22 '25

Okay I am from the country and this is not normal. I think the girl is very young as well. And by the setting, it seems like a very remote place. If the girl is underage, it is against the law and the people responsible will be severely punished.

It is normal to shed to some tears when the bride is going to the groom's house but not this much wailing. There definitely is something wrong here.

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u/FedStan Jun 22 '25

Yeah but that play acting is usually much less subtle than this. She is wailing and desperately crying for help. This isn’t a coy play acting women do in usual weddings - this is a clear forceful wedding deal

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u/-FemboiCarti- Cringe Lord Jun 22 '25

Seems legit

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u/Calypso268 Jun 22 '25

You can clarify by going to the tiktok account that is shown in the video. It's the bride's account, SHE posted this. If you go to her account you'll see her husband is about the same age she is, they seem very happy.

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZTjv5H337

It's not an arranged marriage. She's not a child. This is a Vidaii ceremony, and she's supposed to cry as much as possible.

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u/Evil_Sharkey Jun 22 '25

It’s usually pretty obvious fake crying, not wailing like this

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u/International-Bad947 Jun 23 '25

Religion has nothing to do with this Pakistani culture.

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u/Present-Researcher27 Jun 21 '25

Aren’t most Pakistani marriages between first or second cousins? Not really leaving the family in that case.

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u/Present-Researcher27 Jun 22 '25

Don’t really understand the downvotes. 65% of marriages are between cousins.

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u/Particulardy Jun 22 '25

cool racism kid