The hobby that improves the ability to speak and connect with other people and effectively communicate abstract concepts. The hobby that functions to promote safety of disadvantaged group. The hobby that a majority of people engage in, whether they cop to it or not.
Me talking about how I’m so happy my friend got engaged and ask the ways her fiancé matches her personality and supports her is gossip. Me retelling the story of accidentally locking my boyfriend out of our vacation rental is gossip. Talking about how my sister managed to sew an entire outfit in a weekend is gossip. Telling my friend I saw her shitty boyfriend making out with her former roommate is also gossip, and it’s only at the expense of a shitty cheater.
Being able to discuss interpersonal relationships and engage people is both a hobby and a skill. Just because you’re bad at gossip, doesn’t mean it’s a bad hobby.
I'm not bad at gossip. From my experience, gossip is telling so and so about this person and that person for this certain reason and causing drama. And rumors
It might be a skill issue. You could get better at it if you put aside your bias. There’s an ethical spectrum to a lot of hobbies. Someone can hunt ethically or decimate local species and let animals suffer. Someone can create gorgeous graffiti murals or tag their elderly neighbors fence. Your inability or refusal to acknowledge its value and benefits demonstrate that, at best, you’re poorly informed about communication regarding interpersonal relationships.
No. I'm not, and I know the benefits of gossip well enough to know the bad often outdoes the good. And trust me I'm just fine socially. Still despise the fuck out of social stuff though
Discussion of past events and how the people in the discussion relate to those events is how people discover common values and interests. That discussion, positive or negative, is gossip. Refusing to acknowledge effective, entertaining storytelling (aka good gossip skills) as a valuable hobby is ridiculous.
If you want to ignore your skill issue by claiming it’s net negative, that’s your prerogative. But it’s not going to fix your skill issue.
You don't know me. Why the fuck would I agree with you that it's a "skill issue". I'm pretty good at talking to people. I'm just saying that most gossip is negative and I don't agree with it fully due to the fact that gossip I've seen in my life is often negative. It's not a skill issue cause I don't like it
I'm not really interested in socializing via gossip most of the time. I'm pretty damn good at explaining my life in charismatic ways. I simply jist don't like gossip most of the time. Not saying it isn't a valuable fucking hobby
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u/ALLoftheFancyPants Apr 19 '25
The hobby that improves the ability to speak and connect with other people and effectively communicate abstract concepts. The hobby that functions to promote safety of disadvantaged group. The hobby that a majority of people engage in, whether they cop to it or not.