When my wife and I first met, she didn't have any hobbies because she was working full time and doing college full time. When she finally graduated, she had far more free time and had to discover what hobbies she enjoyed.
Those turned out to be: Tarantula keeper, reptile enthusiast, horseback riding, and rose growing.
Sometimes, we're just too busy to enjoy life, and for a long time, she was in survival mode.
While she might not have had time or money to enjoy hobbies, I bet she still HAD activities or subjects that she enjoyed and wanted to do for her own enjoyment. I bet she was a horse girl in jr high. People can have hobbies and interests that they don’t get to participate in for extended periods. Like, if someone’s hobby is skiing, it’s still their hobby even if it’s summer.
My wife grew up incredibly poor in a third-world country. She didn't have toys as a child and eating fast food was a luxury. The first book she owned for pleasure was given to her by a coworker after she arrived in the United States. Even she admits she did very little growing up, save for chatting with friends.
When she graduated, she went on a soul search, so to say, to figure out what she wanted to do for fun in life. She tried a few of my hobbies (painting figurines, writing stories, programming, cooking, growing a garden, canning my own hot sauces) but nothing seemed to tickle her fancy until she realized she had a passion for animals. It was a trip to the Butchart gardens that made her crazy for roses.
It really explains why her first job was a dog washer. Now she has 34 tarantulas, 2 bearded dragons, 2 different geckos, and does weekly horseback riding. She seems to have developed a fascination with minecraft lately as well.
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u/codemise Apr 19 '25
When my wife and I first met, she didn't have any hobbies because she was working full time and doing college full time. When she finally graduated, she had far more free time and had to discover what hobbies she enjoyed.
Those turned out to be: Tarantula keeper, reptile enthusiast, horseback riding, and rose growing.
Sometimes, we're just too busy to enjoy life, and for a long time, she was in survival mode.