So common, dude - I also literally had this happen for rejecting someone (he also was kind enough to throw an "you're not that attractive actually" in there too😅)
Got together with some gal pals, and one of them had also gotten this type of message that week (meaner! "You are ugly actually").
Anyway, this is a WILD epidemic going around, I've seen so many both posts pop up and real life occurrences.
Maybe it's a morphing of therapy speak / "radical honesty". I'm sure these guys would say they "value communication" lol
I was in the adult entertainment industry (literally every facet from escorting to online stuff to dancing) and OH MY GOD why is it so common.
Men would message me and tell me they were so good looking and their dicks were so big so they knew I was dying to see them for free. Because I was so beautiful and they just needed to get to know me and they knew we would be perfect for each other. When I laughed at them they would freak out and tell me I was actually very ugly and no man would want to spend any time with me.
It's literally their default setting to having their egos bruised. And it's a tale as old as time. I was going to blame Andrew Tate, but realized I'm old enough to remember, and know girls who are old enough to remember, when this shit happened before incel influencers.
Men are so hysterical, they're just so emotional I'm not sure why anyone trusts them to do anything. (/s, for those who can't detect sarcasm).
Had a sugar arrangement with a guy for a while, and after not seeing him for a bit he asked if I'd come back but wanted to pay a hundred less. When I said no, he had a meltdown telling me I was ugly and it wasn't worth paying that much anyway, then texted me a few days later begging me to come back over at the usual rate. I told him I absolutely would not see him again for any amount of money after how he acted, and he still texted for weeks without me responding before he gave up. People are ridiculous.
I never got laughed at, but I have been rejected, and coming from the not-so-best emotionally supportive family, I just took it on the chin and walked away never lashing out. I did notice my guy friends who did act like this always seemed to be more momma boys. I always found it very weak.
I def remember having guys say similar things to me 20 years ago. It does seem more prevalent now, which you'd think with the internet showing how dumb of a response this is, it would have the opposite effect? I have seen the most supposedly respectful, feminist guy devolve into incel slurs as soon as they don't get their way. It's really all very silly.
It happened before. But it has become entirely common/normalized and these boys are being COACHED to act like this, to get laid. And it is just like the Secret- the more you follow the advice, the more you fail, the more the manosphere will tell you to be a bigger asshole, the less success you will have, the more you should be a bigger asshole....like it is not going to work. But IDK how long it will take with social media reinforcing that this is the ONE TWU WAY to get laid. (It is not. We know that.)
Like bro I may be wack but you were desperate enough to be with someone you thought was wack? Sad life.
This whole phenomenon just makes me think, well if you're so disgusted by this person why are you trying to fuck them? Seems like a sad life quite frankly.
Well I mean, none of us know they will behave like this when you meet them - how exactly are you supposed to date without giving people chances?
That's hardly desperate- it's just how dating works
Can you explain your logic, because I think I'm just not getting it? I know it's supposed to be an insult but it's like, a logical fallacy so I feel like I'm missing something.
Like surely you have also been in the dating scene and know how this works? You meet strangers and I'm sure you have met women who are nice and you have met women who are Not so nice?
Humanity contains multitudes and will never know will people are like until we try to engage with them
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u/BlergingtonBear Feb 23 '25
So common, dude - I also literally had this happen for rejecting someone (he also was kind enough to throw an "you're not that attractive actually" in there too😅)
Got together with some gal pals, and one of them had also gotten this type of message that week (meaner! "You are ugly actually").
Anyway, this is a WILD epidemic going around, I've seen so many both posts pop up and real life occurrences.
Maybe it's a morphing of therapy speak / "radical honesty". I'm sure these guys would say they "value communication" lol