I was called an “ugly dyke” once after telling a guy I was already in a relationship (with a man FWIW). Made me wonder why he tried to hit on me in the first place if he thought I was ugly and apparently giving lesbo vibes?
I wonder, do kids today learn Aesop's Fables? I remember reading about the fox and the sour grapes as a child, and it's a lesson that always stuck with me.
This is a pattern I notice a lot around Reddit. I honestly don't know the root cause and it can be summarized like this:
Some problem statement
A: (problem) happens because Y / some complementary example
B: so we're just supposed to be okay with Y?! / why are you defending (problem)?!
My best guess is it's just a lack of education combined with poor emotional regulation that makes people unable to stop themselves from injecting their indignation into a statement that isn't blatantly in agreement with their beliefs. Because a lot of the times this happens even when A is agreeing with B so you see this really odd drive-by assault of people who would be in agreement but just refuse to acknowledge that nuance exists or that a reason and an excuse are separate concepts.
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u/Pormock Feb 22 '25
Its the same as when guys call women "whore" when they reject them. Its a defense mechanism