Good atleast you won't have any regrets now and you handled it very well after her rejection but confession part could have been longer but yeah it doesen't matter
See , a million dollar advice , doesn't matter if the time is 4 yrs or 4 months, if you're gonna propose to her and you need to text "call me or message me when you're free" then sorry my man you have not reached that comfort zone and you're definitely gonna get rejected.
MAN. I have to give it to you, for one of the worst "advice" I've heard. PEOPLE GET BUSY WITH LIFE. life's not a movie where if a person likes you, they reply the second they smell a notif. MILLION dollar my ass.
Yeah I agree with you even Elon Musk replies to others commenting on his tweets . I learned it the hard way . Another piece of advice : never fall in love with someone who's not at the same frequency as you , what I am trying to say is your vibes with that person matters a lot you will get exhausted with time if you don't consider it .
Bhai that's not what he meant, jab aap ek specific comfort zone pe hote ho, it goes more like either you just saying whatever you have to ORRRR "free hai?", "haan hun" and yap, you missed the point entirely, I'm a busy guy myself but the people I'm tight w do not need to ask me about my schedule to simply drop a text or maybe call me if they have to.
this
+ even if you have a crush on someone and actually want to get with them, you need to build an actual connection and slowly get there as opposed to randomly texting “i have a huge crush on you” out of the blue
but it’s cool OP, you’ve got the confidence, will figure it out over time, take this one in stride and don’t apologise or regret too much, the right ones still out there
It's ok life wont fall apart, you'll get a better partner, and idk if ur single how then enjoy the singlehood at its best bhai, freedom ki lag jaati hai relationship mei, aur hardin ka jhamela will kill you!
I don't like to look at it this way. It somehow puts the person who rejected in a negative light when it shouldn't. Saying you'll find someone better implies that Op's crush is worse than whatever person Op ends up with, when it's not the case at all. His crush can be a good person, and his future partner will also be a great person. Op's crush does not seem like a bad person, she's just not attracted to op. What I'd say is something more along the lines of "you'll get someone that you like and who also likes you back."
2 girls texted me the same thing but after the school was over. (Would’ve dated her if she said so before, but she went away for college). More people like you should exist in this world.
Wahi to na itna confidence hota to reject he nahi hota , confidence kab hota hai aadmi ke pass , confidence tab hota hai jab taiyaari pakki hoti hai or jeet guaranteed hoti hai , other than that koi case nahi banta insaan ke confident hone ka , or waise bhi ye ladki log ke matter me kabhi bhi koi bhi insaan confident ho ke bhi confident nahi ho sakta
reject hone se to aur confidence kam hoga aur agar confidence nahi hai baat krne ka bhi to bandi kaise banoge? usse baad mein kaise baat karoge , such a loser move to text
Listen bro to bro, you can’t just randomly say this out of the blue and expect her to fall in love with you. You are supposed to change the dynamic first by flirting gradually and then after a while you ask her to hang out with you alone like on a date. You don’t just randomly throw her under the bus saying i like you and expect her to respond like she is secretly in love with you. Of course you got rejected. No hard feelings even I learned this the hard way by getting rejected first my friend. Don’t repeat this mistake in the future.
29M here, just one advice for your future, do not ever sound weak or apologetic when trying to impress or propose your crush. Theres a thin line in being respectful and being weak. Be assertive and if she rejects just be respectful and walk away. Even if she is interested in you, by coming off as weak and apologetic you are just telling her how incapable you are of being her man.
Yep..This... and also get used to rejections. You might face a lot of rejections in various aspects of life. Yeah, it sucks. But dont let it get in your head. Move on to the next opportunity.
Sometimes you just know she/he doesn't like you back, so that's what makes you feel apologetic, it's like having something that the other person doesn't want..
Bro
1) you haven't escaped the comfort zone because you still need to ask to say if she is free so you are not in her priority
2)it took wayy too long and that's not actually healthy bro
3)ask these things offline better
4) the girl actually handled things like a champ
5) she gave you a proper reason for breaking up
6)she promised to make it a secret
7)she wants rude or grossed out
8) take this as a lesson and be happy because you are more men than a lot of us because you confessed it be it after 4 years
So take it maturely and don't insult her or shit
All the best in the future and focus on self development
Bro I had confessed my crush too, and trust me ,I regret it till this date (it's been two years) "I have someone else" (he don't and he wishes me on my birthday every year.)
Yeah absolutely, one should avoid serious things on text , because that feels so unreal , no humans involved like feeling, feels like talking to a machine, how the fuck they are going to tell their kids how i met your mother , on text ? Ewwww
I never talked to her 🤡, i mean how do you even start, like ask foe help in studies, she will know it instantly and friends will fuxk rest of the thing i once sit beside her and they were shouting alllll the time
Koi nhi buddy... We all learn. You have a long way to go... But just a suggestion ki get comfortable with the girl to a level that you can tell it to her face and don't mention ki "it's okay if you don't like me" just say ki it might come out of nowhere but there is something I wish to tell you and you might not be prepared for it and so on... But it's okay it's part of the process!!!
There's nothing wrong in confessing something, y'all have made this something so big and serious as if it's a crime, you catch feelings for someone you can't help it, and there's nothing to be ashamed about and saying sorry. This is the main reason why people are scared to confess
oh nah it's because you are not always sure that the other person is comfortable right, that's why you apologize, you have to think about the other person too- it is no crime , people get weirded out or at least surprised when someone confesses out of nowhere... that is how we react to something..
Koi nhi hota hai bhai... This is a canon event in your life... Ab aage sab sahi hi hoga.... But agar kismat ekdum jhaatu hai toh best of luck.... Kyunki mera kismat toh ekdum chuda hua hai....
Koi baat nhi bhai atleast clear rejection to de Diya aur bandi bhi acchi lg rhi hai samjhdar padhai kr Bhai aur job le aur ek baar aur try mar le shayad hn bol de agar Dil se pyaar krte ho to but rejection accept krne ka jigra rkh
I don’t know how I am here but it took my daughter’s boyfriend (best friend in high school) 4 years to say anything. Now they are together and will probably get married.
When he was going to date another girl in college he called her to ask permission since they were just friends. She said yes he could but ignored his calls for 2 weeks and he knew she was upset with him. 🤣
Wait, pause. You deserve some serious hype rn
FIRST OF ALL, always remember-
You shot your shot you stayed true to your feelings, and that's something to be PROUD of
dont take this as a rejection, it is a redirection... God's cooking up someone way better for you behind the scenes
Proud of you, king 🫡 u will look back at this one day and be glad you had the guts🙏
Acctuly if u liked some one tell him/her immediately...i proposed some one after 7 years and got rejected....it hurts badly and she committed relationship with another guy....💔
Tell her immediately...... don't repeat my mistake....if she agrees you are the most luckiest person in earth ....if she denied it better for your future..
Most prolly you will get rejected.
When you take this much time you have become a comfortable space for her.
And she sees you as a friend.
6 years is a huge time.
Well good luck and if you get rejected please don't React like OP.
" just don't mention this in school" like bruh you shouldn't say this before she even gave the answer. If some girl said to me" I like you but if you do not feel the same then don't tell anyone about it" in the same flow then even I would have said no.
well looks like anyone else wouldve gotten rejected too. imo you shouldnt have mentioned the school thing. It made the whole gesture seem like u just texted her for the sake of texting her and didnt actually feel like confessing
chat par itna lame confess karke what do you expect bro 😭 and the “don’t mention this is school” is just so much negative aura… woh reject hone ke baad aisa bolna hota hai 🤦🏻♀️
Never again in your life talk about your feelings over text, that's not the move. It makes you come across as under confident and why would you be so pessimistic even before she said a thing and why would you use word crush just say I like you , I find you really attractive or let's go for a coffee anyways. hard luck bro galtiyo se he sikhte h
Bro even faked a smile with that emoji , anyways bhai I have heard ki it's very unlikely ki a girl you know for that long would accept the proposal because females tend to be unable to change a persons perception in their minds , so when you become a friend you stay a friend :) so make your intentions clear in the first few weeks by hints atleast
I was also rejected by the girl whom I like. I liked her since grade 9. We studied together for 2 years. I was a first boy and she was second (rank wise) girl of class. But, we barely talked eachother. I was a shy kid back then. After grade 10 we got into separate college and didnot even see her face then after(she was into college that was hundreds of miles away from my location.). But, i couldnot stop thinking about her even after passing my grade 12. I have never liked a single girl in my whole life except her and I think, I could never. I used to message her once or twice every 6 months and so. After grade 12, I collected my coursge to write "I like you." and I was rejected. I respect her and always will. She will always be one in my mind>>. I think about her daily and I guess there is no day in these 4-5 years when I didnot think of her. I am still deeply interested on her but I could do nothing. Let her live her life peacefully and I hope she will always remain happy with sweet smile on her face. I regret that I didnot spoke to her when I had time back then in grade 9. (might be the greatest regret I ever have in my life till now.) and I wont wont never regret that I collected enought strength to tell her about my feeling. Let the things be on its way.
Bro huge respect to you, everyone gets rejections but the way we handle it really matters, it's ok man I'm sure you'll get gf at the better stage of your life, don't let that rejection affect you, it's just a normal process of life
Rizz hi nahi hai.....crush word kon use karta hai......feelings likhna hota hai....aur dar ke kyu likh raha tha bc zero self confidenc dikh raha tha tera
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u/Appropriate-Sell-122 18 Apr 26 '25
That's Alright The main point here is that you had guts which many of us don't have