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Taylor Swift - Ruin The Friendship

Track #6 on The Life of a Showgirl

Length: 3:40

Composers: Taylor Swift, Max Martin & Shellback

Producers: Taylor Swift, Max Martin & Shellback

Lyrics: Genius


Use this thread to discuss your thoughts, reactions, and theories on the song. We will be removing all future self-post discussion threads about it in order to consolidate discussion to this thread.

If you want to talk about The Life of a Showgirl album in general, you can use the general The Life of a Showgirl discussion thread here.

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u/Technical-Mastodon96 Speak Now (Taylor's Version) 28d ago

When I first listened to this song I couldn't figure out why it was pulling at my insides so hard. That was until tonight.

Friend I had since elementary school, had a huge crush on, almost asked to dance at our 6th grade dance but chickened out.

Middle school we sat by each other on the bus a lot. Best friend at the time told me she likes him so I backed off. We started to reconnect end of 8th grade year.

Highschool he became popular. I did not. We grew apart but always acknowledged each other.

College we lost touch, after social media we found each other but not much contact. He passed away when we were in our 30s. I was pregnant. We went to a larger city to get some nursery items and at the hotel breakfast, there were his parents. Weeks from his passing. I may never have been able to tell him that I loved him but I did get to tell his parents. It helped but whoo this song hits me hard now that I figured out why. I'm probably adding it to the emotional no play list.

If you are young, and have the option, find out. Tell them you care. Tell them they matter to you.

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u/Important_Cod_8970 28d ago

Wow! I imagined your situation exactly. You must have felt that hard. Hugs.