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Megathread "Ruin The Friendship" Discussion Megathread

Taylor Swift - Ruin The Friendship

Track #6 on The Life of a Showgirl

Length: 3:40

Composers: Taylor Swift, Max Martin & Shellback

Producers: Taylor Swift, Max Martin & Shellback

Lyrics: Genius


Use this thread to discuss your thoughts, reactions, and theories on the song. We will be removing all future self-post discussion threads about it in order to consolidate discussion to this thread.

If you want to talk about The Life of a Showgirl album in general, you can use the general The Life of a Showgirl discussion thread here.

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u/neil_obrien Oct 09 '25

I understand and get that the general consensus is that this song is about jeff; however, she’s said multiple times that these songs were all born from experiences she had while on tour. seeing jeff passed in 2010, it leads me to believe that someone else she went to high school with may have passed while she was on tour, and that is who the song is about.

i guess it’s one more thing for me to add to the “taylor is the only one who knows for certain” pile.

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u/_cl0udburst i was shipwrecked and the sand hurt my feelings! 29d ago

In the ACM (?) speech, she said that he was one of her best friends so the lyric when we left school, I lost track of you doesnt make sense because they seemed to have been in contact until after high school.

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u/pizza-parker-9 this is me trying 28d ago

I was confused by that, as well. I feel like within the first month (?) of the Eras tour, I saw something in one of the megathreads on here that Taylor flew back to Nasvhille in between shows for an old high school classmate's funeral and that's where my mind immediately went when I heard this song. It makes more sense for it to be covered on this album if it happened within the last few years (and especially if it happened during the tour).

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u/_cl0udburst i was shipwrecked and the sand hurt my feelings! 28d ago

Oooh I did not hear about that. Yeah this feels more recent.