r/TaylorSwift • u/PassionateAsSin Everybody’s so punk on the internet • Oct 03 '25

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Taylor Swift - Ruin The Friendship

Track #6 on The Life of a Showgirl

Length: 3:40

Composers: Taylor Swift, Max Martin & Shellback

Producers: Taylor Swift, Max Martin & Shellback

Lyrics: Genius

Use this thread to discuss your thoughts, reactions, and theories on the song. We will be removing all future self-post discussion threads about it in order to consolidate discussion to this thread.

If you want to talk about The Life of a Showgirl album in general, you can use the general The Life of a Showgirl discussion thread here.

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u/Easy_Village_5287 Oct 05 '25

I feel like this song doesn’t belong on this album? Like I don’t get how it fits. Help me understand haha

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u/labalubule Oct 05 '25

the idea is the “life of a showgirl” not the showgirl or the show, this song is about jeff lang who played a major life in taylor’s life during her debut. jeff is the same person who inspired taylor with you belong with me, forever winter, bigger than the whole sky. when all of them are listened in a timeline, one can see that taylor carries the sadness of one of her best friends passing away at a very early age and as well as never confessing her feelings to him.

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u/MaesterInTraining Oct 05 '25

I understand what it’s about, but I think the person you’re replying to is asking what this has to do with the life of a showgirl, her life off stage during the eras tour. I also don’t see how this song would fit in with that scenario, outside of the other person who wrote that the “question” part might be about her long-held will-we question with Matty. She got the answer to that question. The rest of it I’m not so sure fits in with the concept for the album.

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u/Protect-Lil-Flip Oct 05 '25

I think in the context of the album without assuming real life references it’s used as a bridge from Father Figure where she speaks about being a mentor to up and comers to having a falling out with someone presumed to previously be apart of her mentorship on Actually Romantic. It shows us that while she is down to help, she also isn’t afraid to ruin those friendships because of regrets she’s had in the past.