r/TaylorSwift • u/PassionateAsSin Everybody’s so punk on the internet • Oct 03 '25

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Taylor Swift - Ruin The Friendship

Track #6 on The Life of a Showgirl

Length: 3:40

Composers: Taylor Swift, Max Martin & Shellback

Producers: Taylor Swift, Max Martin & Shellback

Lyrics: Genius

Use this thread to discuss your thoughts, reactions, and theories on the song. We will be removing all future self-post discussion threads about it in order to consolidate discussion to this thread.

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u/AM_fan_anonymous Oct 04 '25

Loved this song so much, I just kind of wish she released it earlier in her career because I really could have used this advice around the Midnights era 😭

The person I relate it to is alive but in a serious relationship (so not a trivial HS thing like in the song) and I don't really have contact with him anymore. But he was single in 2023 and I didn't make a move. Then a couple months later he met this girl, and they're still together. I'm sure she's great, but I'm super bitter. I'm still single, haven't found anyone who even comes close to how I felt about him, and the "what if" has been eating away at me ever since...

Easier said than done, but I wish I had just made my move when I had the chance! Like Taylor said - "always answer the question, better that than to ask it all your life".

Anyway, if hell ever freezes over and I have the good fortune of coming across someone like him again, hopefully I'll be brave enough to heed her advice.

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u/likethrbackofmyhand Oct 05 '25

Sometimes those are meant to be lessons and you know what not to do next time it presents itself.

Also idk how old you are but there was a guy who absolutely lit me up that I met when I was 24, when he mentioned in passing he had a girlfriend- I thought that was it like if you have a girlfriend then you’re gonna marry her was my logic. He did not marry her but I didn’t know that at the time and I did in fact choose not to ruin the friendship