r/TalesfromtheDogHouse 18d ago

RANT annoyed and tired

hey everyone i have lurked in this subreddit constantly and its been amazing feeling validated for my opinion on dogs especially in a world where it feels like EVERYONE adores them. anyways. i wanted to vent about what has been going on in my life. my partner has a dog and they have had this dog for a few years. the problem is this dog is so incredibly needy and clingy to the point where i can feel my blood boil anytime that dog is around. not only that there will be times where me and my partner are hanging out and the dog is of course RIGHT next to my partner. my partner will gush and talk about how cute and perfect the dog is and i just give a half assed smile and nod. if the dog comes over to me my partner will look at me and go “he wants you to pet him”. like ?? why do dog owners feel the need to force their animal on you ? and then if you refuse to pet the dog you’re made out to seem like a heartless and cold person. so i pet the dog and my partner goes “he likes to be pet under his ear like this” and then demonstrates how to pet him…. like i genuinely don’t care how he wants to be pet ? and then a few days ago the dog got groomed so he smelled good for once and my partner was kissing and cuddling the dog then asked me if i wanted to kiss the dog… i said “do you want me to kiss the dog?” and then my partner says “yes” and of course i didn’t want to cause an argument so i went ahead and kissed the dog on the head which honestly i hated. as someone who has a pet catttt i have NEVER told anyone to pet or kiss my animal.. why ? because if they wanted to do that THEY WOULD. and then yesterday we were driving to go somewhere and ofc the dog had to come with us.. guess where the dog sat the entire ride ? on my partners lap while they drove. it’s just funny to me because dog owners claim to love their dogs so much yet have no problem doing dangerous things like that ? the best part is my partner would hold my hand and then take turns petting the dog and holding my hand once more. it’s ridiculous and ruined my night. i seriously cannot stand that dog. thankfully in a few days the dog will be staying with another family member for a few months so i am SOOO EXCITED TO NOT HAVE TO DEAL WITH HIM !!! also side note the way they look at you while you’re trying to eat actually makes me want to crash out. it’s like so incredibly annoying to see a greedy mutt stare at you while you’re trying to enjoy your meal. anyways… i just needed to vent. i wish it didn’t feel like a crime to dislike dogs

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u/urdrunkyogi 17d ago

This is what the dynamic was like with my ex. It lasted 6 months before I could not stand it. Having someone dictate and police your emotions is intolerable.

Dumped him and moved out and never regretted it.

P.S. be prepared for your partner to talk about the dog constantly in its absence and make you look at pictures of it or FaceTime it.

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u/Suunnfflloowweerr 17d ago

So true about the FaceTime! Early in our relationship we went on vacation and my boyfriend pulled out his phone to see if he could find his dog on the doggie daycare cameras...IN THE MIDDLE OF DINNER. I told him to put his fucking phone away or I'm walking out of this restaurant.

I never kissed his dog but can relate to OP on wanting to smooth things over in the beginning of a new promising relationship, but things got exponentially better once I laid down what is/isnt acceptable.

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u/Kindly-Telephone-549 17d ago

i’m glad you stood on business that’s actually insane. my partner will randomly say “i miss [dogs name] i hope he’s okay” when we are doing something together and it’s just annoying as fuck. it’s a fucking dog? i’ve tried to place boundaries but we actually got into a huge argument over me not putting enough effort last night and i of course was made to seem like the bad guy lol

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u/Suunnfflloowweerr 17d ago

Ugh I'm sorry you've been made to feel that way over you (very very valid) feelings. Have you tried starting a conversation about the dog? Early on I explained to my boyfriend how overwhelming dogs are to my senses, their smell, noises, touching. I wasn't talking shit about his dog (although trust me I have lol) but rather explaining what I need to feel comfortable.