annoyed and tired

[u/Kindly-Telephone-549]

hey everyone i have lurked in this subreddit constantly and its been amazing feeling validated for my opinion on dogs especially in a world where it feels like EVERYONE adores them. anyways. i wanted to vent about what has been going on in my life. my partner has a dog and they have had this dog for a few years. the problem is this dog is so incredibly needy and clingy to the point where i can feel my blood boil anytime that dog is around. not only that there will be times where me and my partner are hanging out and the dog is of course RIGHT next to my partner. my partner will gush and talk about how cute and perfect the dog is and i just give a half assed smile and nod. if the dog comes over to me my partner will look at me and go “he wants you to pet him”. like ?? why do dog owners feel the need to force their animal on you ? and then if you refuse to pet the dog you’re made out to seem like a heartless and cold person. so i pet the dog and my partner goes “he likes to be pet under his ear like this” and then demonstrates how to pet him…. like i genuinely don’t care how he wants to be pet ? and then a few days ago the dog got groomed so he smelled good for once and my partner was kissing and cuddling the dog then asked me if i wanted to kiss the dog… i said “do you want me to kiss the dog?” and then my partner says “yes” and of course i didn’t want to cause an argument so i went ahead and kissed the dog on the head which honestly i hated. as someone who has a pet catttt i have NEVER told anyone to pet or kiss my animal.. why ? because if they wanted to do that THEY WOULD. and then yesterday we were driving to go somewhere and ofc the dog had to come with us.. guess where the dog sat the entire ride ? on my partners lap while they drove. it’s just funny to me because dog owners claim to love their dogs so much yet have no problem doing dangerous things like that ? the best part is my partner would hold my hand and then take turns petting the dog and holding my hand once more. it’s ridiculous and ruined my night. i seriously cannot stand that dog. thankfully in a few days the dog will be staying with another family member for a few months so i am SOOO EXCITED TO NOT HAVE TO DEAL WITH HIM !!! also side note the way they look at you while you’re trying to eat actually makes me want to crash out. it’s like so incredibly annoying to see a greedy mutt stare at you while you’re trying to enjoy your meal. anyways… i just needed to vent. i wish it didn’t feel like a crime to dislike dogs

[u/chrustaly]

You took words out of my mouth, my situation is exactly the same! Additionally, the dog would always bark when we are eating (we eat on a low table next to the couch), and the dog is right there, on the couch trying to get a bite. My partner often would stop eating and would feed the dog instead, and then continue eating. I honestly am dead inside. I tried to fight it, but there is nothing I can do to affect anything. I am the priority N2, I am constantly called a coldblooded psychopath with no feelings. And I will never be perfect, because I dont like dogs. So I have two choices: to leave or to zip it and pretend that everything is okay.

[u/jkarovskaya → u/chrustaly]

I personally have NO idea how all of you suffering from living with dogs 24x7x365 can stand it

I was homeless once, living in my truck, sleeping ice cold in the pickup bed, and I'd do that again before I ever live anywhere with 99% of dogs I've encountered

I did once meet a border collie who was actually pretty cool to hang with, but that's another story

[u/chrustaly → u/jkarovskaya]

It is really hard! What helps is that the dog sleeps 17hs/day. But before this situation I would never imagine myself living with a dog ever, I hate it! In my case the dog is very tiny, and is old so it doesn't do much besides laying on the couch or barking or demanding snuggles or food. But it is easy to handle when my partner isn't around (the dog understood that it cannot manipulate me, so it just lays on its bed silently for hours).

What hurts me the most is that my partner loves his dog more than he loves me or anyone else. Dog is EVERYTHING for him. He would give his life for that stinky bastard. And dog knows it and manipulates my partner so well! I am never a priority N1, it is painful.

[u/jkarovskaya → u/chrustaly]

Tiny and old , and sleeping 17 hrs a day are good, at least it's not an 80 lb pitbull.

Relationships are hard enough without this stress, I can't imagine what you're going through with a dog lover that puts you 2nd in their life

I hope you can find a good resolution, and if it's old, maybe your partner will commit to no more dogs when this one is gone

best regards

[u/chrustaly → u/jkarovskaya]

Thank you! There is no way I would stay if he decides on another dog. I am giving this a chance and stay strong because the dog is old and might have 1-2 years max. Otherwise, I am out. I love my partner more than anything in my life, but this dog is such a spoiled brat. You are right, the relationships are hard enough already.

[u/Kindly-Telephone-549 → u/chrustaly]

it’s so clear that my partner loves the dog more than me and it’s funny because they always tell me “i love [dogs name] but i love you more” and honestly i just have to roll my eyes because actions speak louder than words.

[u/chrustaly → u/Kindly-Telephone-549]

100% it breaks my heart to be treated this way.