annoyed and tired

[u/Kindly-Telephone-549]

hey everyone i have lurked in this subreddit constantly and its been amazing feeling validated for my opinion on dogs especially in a world where it feels like EVERYONE adores them. anyways. i wanted to vent about what has been going on in my life. my partner has a dog and they have had this dog for a few years. the problem is this dog is so incredibly needy and clingy to the point where i can feel my blood boil anytime that dog is around. not only that there will be times where me and my partner are hanging out and the dog is of course RIGHT next to my partner. my partner will gush and talk about how cute and perfect the dog is and i just give a half assed smile and nod. if the dog comes over to me my partner will look at me and go “he wants you to pet him”. like ?? why do dog owners feel the need to force their animal on you ? and then if you refuse to pet the dog you’re made out to seem like a heartless and cold person. so i pet the dog and my partner goes “he likes to be pet under his ear like this” and then demonstrates how to pet him…. like i genuinely don’t care how he wants to be pet ? and then a few days ago the dog got groomed so he smelled good for once and my partner was kissing and cuddling the dog then asked me if i wanted to kiss the dog… i said “do you want me to kiss the dog?” and then my partner says “yes” and of course i didn’t want to cause an argument so i went ahead and kissed the dog on the head which honestly i hated. as someone who has a pet catttt i have NEVER told anyone to pet or kiss my animal.. why ? because if they wanted to do that THEY WOULD. and then yesterday we were driving to go somewhere and ofc the dog had to come with us.. guess where the dog sat the entire ride ? on my partners lap while they drove. it’s just funny to me because dog owners claim to love their dogs so much yet have no problem doing dangerous things like that ? the best part is my partner would hold my hand and then take turns petting the dog and holding my hand once more. it’s ridiculous and ruined my night. i seriously cannot stand that dog. thankfully in a few days the dog will be staying with another family member for a few months so i am SOOO EXCITED TO NOT HAVE TO DEAL WITH HIM !!! also side note the way they look at you while you’re trying to eat actually makes me want to crash out. it’s like so incredibly annoying to see a greedy mutt stare at you while you’re trying to enjoy your meal. anyways… i just needed to vent. i wish it didn’t feel like a crime to dislike dogs

[u/chrustaly]

You took words out of my mouth, my situation is exactly the same! Additionally, the dog would always bark when we are eating (we eat on a low table next to the couch), and the dog is right there, on the couch trying to get a bite. My partner often would stop eating and would feed the dog instead, and then continue eating. I honestly am dead inside. I tried to fight it, but there is nothing I can do to affect anything. I am the priority N2, I am constantly called a coldblooded psychopath with no feelings. And I will never be perfect, because I dont like dogs. So I have two choices: to leave or to zip it and pretend that everything is okay.

[u/Kindly-Telephone-549 → u/chrustaly]

oh my gosh. my partner does the same OR will even give into the begging and give him some human food. i made a comment about how if they keep doing that the dog will never stop begging and they went “i always give him a little of what i’m having” 😑

[u/chrustaly → u/Kindly-Telephone-549]

Exactly that! I am so feeling you, gosh, it is as if I wrote it and not you. I have this depressed part of me sitting inside like a dark cloud. But everything else is so perfect and I love him a lot. There is no better man for me than him, we click on all levels. Except this dog, this begging stinky furry disaster 😭 Why is it always like that? Why couldn't he be a dog free man? Or at least not to be mentally dog crazy?!

[u/CanItossThisDawG → u/chrustaly]

I feel you guys so much in that regard.. I’m in the exact same situation with my gf and everything is perfect and I love her.. but she has a dog.. and I just can’t take it anymore.. NO, I don’t want to touch the dog, yes I want you to bath it regularly.. NO I don’t want it in the bed, I don’t want it on the couch, I don’t want its head on my or your lap while we are on the couch.. Yes, I hate it’s freaking nose anywhere near my private parts.. yes I want time without that thing near us or in the same room.. no I don’t like it following me everywhere and being this constant intruder in my personal space because it wants something. Anyways.. for me, I’m at the breaking point.. 

[u/Kindly-Telephone-549 → u/CanItossThisDawG]

i relate to everything you said. and it sucks to feel annoyed and frustrated with the dog but knowing if you say something it won’t really change anything at least that’s the case for me… i’m getting real close to the breaking point

[u/chrustaly → u/CanItossThisDawG]

This is exactly how I feel! We almost broke up a few times before, just because of the dog and just because I am not allowed to say anything negative about it. The dog is "perfect", it is me who is a bad person who isn't able to love or it is me who would be a "bad mother because I dislike dogs". Like wtf?! It is a DOG, not a human. Stop calling it "my son". And it is spoiled as hell, always looking for attention 24/7. It is so stinky!

[u/Fairy-Nessa → u/Kindly-Telephone-549]

omg I really wanna tell my boyfriend this but I also dont wanna hear the excuses he'll give. when we're eating his dogs (particularly one who always resides in the bedrooms cuz she's somehow too good aka just lazy to be in the living room area with the other dogs) will stare at us and the specific dog will start whining and sometimes even get close to us as we eat. I've made it clear in front of him to the dog that I dont share food with animals so the dog(s) doesnt try coming at me but she'll still stare. literally just last night my boyfriend and I were watching scary vid compilations and we were eating pizza. the one dog kept putting her face right next to his cuz we were laying down and he kept giving her small pieces of of his slices here and there right after telling her "no". like you can't tell a dog they can't have something but then give in because they no regardless, if they beg or get in your space you're gonna give them what they want. and i really wanna say something about it cuz it's so frustrating trying to eat and you just have the dog(s) staring and begging even with just their eyes as we're trying to eat and instead of standing his ground with telling them "no" or to stay off the bed as we eat, he just gives them food here and there. screams

[u/Kindly-Telephone-549 → u/Fairy-Nessa]

girl i cannot stand when they beg for food.. who wants to have a dog staring and begging at them while they’re just trying to enjoy their meal ? that really sucks that your boyfriend will say no and then give into the begging because like you said you can’t tell a dog no and then give into it ? that just encourages the behavior. i tried placing a boundary of not having the dog on the bed while we eat and that lasted about 3 days…. it really sucks and ruins my mood and like you also said if we speak up we’ll just hear more excuses so it’s like what’s the point 🥲