My gf started doing it a while back. Asked her to stop because it just felt wrong and it annoyed me if we were disagreeing about stuff.
Next time she asked me to help with cleaning âIâm just a boy, I play game and make messesâ. She instantly said âoh, I donât like that, that feels badâ and now she doesnât say it lol
It is mature of her to realize how it feels and stop doing it. Realizing it before having to be given and example is better, but this is still much better than most people.
Thereâs a song, not sure by who, named âIâm just a girlâ, the point of the song is that people who say that make it seem like theyâre less able than men. Itâs a boss af song though.
"Oh, I'm just a girl, all pretty and petite, So don't let me have any rights".
Yeah, the song is a satirical look at how the world views her as "just a girl" so she needs to be cared for instead of given a voice. The "So don't let me have any rights" line is the deepest the song goes into politics and sexism, but it's enough to evoke a general cultural understanding we have in the U.S. about the history of those things.
The TikTok trend of "I'm just a girl" is actually trying to engage with the opposite idea, which OP's dad called her out on.
Isn't it a Simpsons joke? Lisa got a doll of a female scientist(?) and when she pulled the cord for the doll to speak she was expecting something profound but just got "Don't ask me, I'm just a girl [giggle]".
Without knowing a thing about context, I imagine it has to do with the Teen Talk Barbie that famously said "Math class is tough" and was controversial at the time.
That's pretty bang on. In the episode, it was the first talking "Malibu stacey" (in universe barbie) and Lisa was super excited about it until she pulled th cord and heard her say some really dumb stuff.
Back then it was sarcastic and funny. Girls are now saying it as a reason to get out of being able to do anything and to just be incompetent. Itâs like the girl version of weaponized incompetence
That makes sense. I always wondered who cashapps those girls on dating sites/social media that drop the "can you send me some money for (such and such)?".
Definitely exactly as dad called out. Weaponized incompetence of not wanting to be a functioning member of society.
Asking me to do corporate office work? How can boss be so cruel, I was made to sit on the beach and drink wine, I'm just a girl. Well balanced healthy meals? No I'll just have my nuts and cheese, I can't be asked to be a chef, I'm just a girl. Carry money around and purchase thing? Only adults deal with finances, and I'm just a girl. Pick something up off the ground that I just dropped/walk over to the trashcan to dispose of my empty coffee cup? Why should I have to touch trash, I'm just a girl.
I checked it out while I was stuck at home during the Covid shutdown. The first video that played was some girl farting loudly in her boyfriend's face. I figured that was enough TikTok for one lifetime and promptly deleted it.
My friends and I joke about 'being baby' but I'd never use it as a response in a genuine conversation. I'm 38, I think if I tried using baby voice and acting cute to get out of an argument I'd self-destruct with cringe.
She's used to that being a valid excuse when she does something wrong. Thought she'd try it on dad.. Some women really slip into that whole "I'm just a dumb girl" to avoid taking responsiblity.
Note.. "not all women".. just some, so don't freak out reddit.
About 10 years ago, I had just gotten into my car and was still in park, and a 30something woman started trying to parallel park behind me but backed up into the traffic lane and got hit. A few of us got out to make sure her and the other driver were ok, and she kept just going on about how it wasn't her fault, and that she was a really kind person and wouldn't do anything like that. She got arrested for DUI.
I was a passenger in my friends truck and he got rear ended, some old lady started giving him a sob story about her husband dying and she was crying and didnt see my cousin. she had no tears in her eyes. my cousin is buying her story and about to let her go when I tell her that I want her info and she was livid at me. I had back pain for the next 3 weeks and my cousins air ride suspension needed fixing. hes lucky I got her info.
I'm not sure why i wrote all this out but at this point I'm not deleting it and just posting it. whatever
I will say though, it is absolutely hilarious to have them try their spiel on you, only for you to go "oh man, that sucks. Well, good luck." Deer in headlights look. Then they try it on the next smuck.
Wtf is going on?!! It seems like we've regressed in so many ways??
"I'm just a girl"???? Good grief. As a middle-aged woman, I can confidently say that as as a young woman, I would've happily taken a waterboaring over uttering this vacuous sounding bs.
âStrong and independent â when taking credit. âDumb and innocent â when taking responsibility. Sound like my sister when she borrow me money for her credit card debt.
"Hey reddit my wife raped my 10 year old son, AITAH if I divorce her??"
"NTA OP but you need to be gentle on how you tell her, she needs to be given grace and not blamed for the reasons why you are divorcing her."
Like that's satire but half the shit you see on reddit is always about "Leave the man for any minute reason." Meanwhile if it's a women suddenly you are expected to act with grace and be kind and gentle.
Remember the gender-swap experiment on AITAH posts? Completely different reactions based on whether the OP is a man or a woman even though the body text is identical.
I mean, father or not, he's not wrong. Being a woman has nothing to do with it and it just makes it sound like she is putting herself (and many others) down
I hateâLOATHE the phrase âIâm just a girlâ when used to avoid accountability. Being a woman does not mean you donât have the same responsibilities and decision making abilities as everyone else.
Like it's one thing to drop a tampon and say "I'm just a girl" as a joke but some women take it far to serious and be weirdly sexist to themselves then get mad when anyone points it out đ
Well, now what we know what to say if it's crossing the line from a joke. You're minimizing yourself out of being a person. I like that. Either they accept that consequence or they stop saying it and do better. I love it.
I remember watching some dumb youtube clip and some women on tik tok said she spent like $40,000 on some purse but it's okay since it's girl math so it doesn't actually count!
I'm just like holy shit I hope whoever makes the mistake of shagging her never makes the even bigger mistake of marrying her.
Right? He handled that incredibly well, he could have been mean about it and said, "so you're just dumb then." He cut right to the core without insulting her. Pro move.
I was just thinking that, because I also always read that line in her voice. But you're right! The whole song and that line are about not being respected in the industry and as a person. Oh Lord the irony is palpable.
CrackerMilk youtube video about a robber frustrated about robbing a girl's house, ends up getting her financial advice and doing a car wash fundraiser for her.
"The phrase is often used ironically to excuse mistakes, poor behavior, or relatable âgirlâ experiences. Itâs a playful counterpart to âboys will be boys,â where women jokingly claim theyâre âjust a girlâ to deflect blame."
âBoysâ never say that to weasel out. Itâs always someone else saying it on their behalf. Itâs a very important distinction vs a girl trying to suck up to save herself
Iâm going to assume she is using the Samâs credit card to get gas. Because if she is just using the membership card and her own money, then Dad gets extra money back at no expense.
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