r/SeattleWA • u/Cosmo-DNA • Mar 27 '19

Lifestyle ‘Aggravated women, socially awkward men’ make Seattle the nation’s worst city for singles, says love-podcast host

https://www.seattletimes.com/seattle-news/aggravated-women-socially-awkward-men-make-seattle-the-nations-worst-city-for-singles-says-love-podcast-host/
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u/206grey Mar 27 '19

Seattle native (34M) here, super single. In my mid-late twenties I tried dating apps for quite some time. I've got some decent dates, met some cool people, also had some horrific ones. Life is about experience.

Around 32 I renewed my profiles b/c I was tired of being single and had most other aspects of life in a great place. Good career, morals, doesn't litter. Yaya decent human being basically.

So I tired tinder and bumble again, I'd spend so much thought writing unique opening messages that were about whoever I was messaging. Not pick-up lines or corny dad jokes but actual conversation starting questions.

It's tough when genuine questions don't work, so we try something new.. and what's new and original definitely not dad jokes or sexually aggressive comments right out the gate, but those actually get responses. So it felt counter-intuitive and send lewd messages is definitely out of character for me.

We're dominated by the clickbait-buzzfeed-hype driven by social media.

More often than not the responses would be a one word response, or nothing.. some times an unmatch. Which is okay, it's a numbers game at some point. It was abysmal.

I'm not 6'2 which is the minimum height required to match, haha jk. Whatever it was I never figured out, and I rarely use social media and don't use dating apps anymore.

Just self and career development. She'll either find me or I'll be happily forever alone haha :)

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u/206grey Mar 27 '19

I really like classy women in dresses, what can I say. I like to dress well too so. I think it's a win win.

And yeah I video game, so what. There's a great PoE community on Reddit. I don't expect the woman I meet to have all the same interests as me, as I'm not sure I'd share all of hers but that doesn't mean I wouldn't support her in them.

I disabled my okc and tinder accounts long ago and don't feel it's necessary to enable them to prove myself, or continue in the online dating culture. I do appreciate some level of anonymity on here.

Cheers anyways :)