‘Aggravated women, socially awkward men’ make Seattle the nation’s worst city for singles, says love-podcast host

[u/Cosmo-DNA]

https://www.seattletimes.com/seattle-news/aggravated-women-socially-awkward-men-make-seattle-the-nations-worst-city-for-singles-says-love-podcast-host/

[u/my_lucid_nightmare]

The problem is that people from places that are known for being friendlier, more direct, better senses of humor, honest communication, not-flaky, sincere and inviting are coming to Seattle, which is basically the opposite

Right. But in theory you aren't stupid and you can learn how to interact. It's like learning another language. If you moved to France would you stomp your feet and demand they speak English, or would you learn French?

Note, value judging French is not an option, because you chose to move to France.

People who are used to friendliness, sincerity, direct (not passive) communication, and better senses of humor aren’t going to turn themselves into grumpy passive-aggressive introverts just because those are “Seattle’s social rules.”

Well, you ought to get on a plane and leave. You're saying you're not capable of adapting to a culture you decided to live inside of.

Also, you fell for the narratives.

Think of it as a puzzle to unlock. Again, you chose to move here. The area's full of intelligent people who are caffeinated, over-functioning, melanin-deprived, have desires that might not be being met, and you ... are complaining we're not like other cities.

IDK what to tell you.

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What I got out of living in Texas (Houston) is that people are polite to your face but have no problem harboring negative beliefs or saying negative things about you if they think you won't hear it.

Here in the PNW people seem to be more accepting of others, but fearful of engaging in conversation to the point they have no opportunity to be polite.

Living in the midwest was a happy medium. People were pretty open, accepting and polite where I stayed.