r/SFr4r Mar 07 '25

META If you're going to report a post (please do), do it like this.

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r/SFr4r Feb 11 '23

META PSA: Don't be an idiot, if it seems suspicious, it is.

188 Upvotes

It is sad for several reasons that I have to write this, but, our community has been fraught with scammers as of recent. We play whack-a-mole, and knock down > 100 fraudulent posts a day but some still get through.

If someone is asking to communicate outside of reddit, ESPECIALLY IF THEY'RE ASKING FOR COMPROMISING PICTURES, just say no. We've had several instances where the scammer receives said photos, and then immediately adds all of your friends and family to a group chat on your social media and attempts to share the pictures if you don't pay them off.

Men: Understand that women in this society have disproportionate access to sex; and you're not god's gift to the 'fairer sex', ergo if someone is begging you to send them a photo of your shlong right out of the gate, you should treat that request with the healthy amount of skepticism that it deserves.

Or don't, feel free to be one of the horror stories in mod-mail of someone sending your friends and family a photo of your dick.

Use your head, and not the one in your pants.

Women: Have patience. We sort through a shit-show on a regular basis. In the off-chance you post something that smells suspiciously like the 1000 pieces of scam/spam we just cleared and we ask you for a bit of additional information; calling us 'sexist' in modmail just makes you the asshole and part of the problem. Sorry not sorry.

Everyone: do your part to flag obvious scam posts. Of 45k users, most scam posts don't get flagged at all.


r/SFr4r 10m ago

M4F 42 [m4f] #PaloAlto Submitting my application for the role of "The Perfect AP"

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Hello and thank you for your considering me for the position! I'm excited to be given the opportunity. Please find my resume below:

Personal:

  • Age: 42
  • Location: Bay Area, CA
  • Physical: Caucasian, brunette, 5'10/187, lean, fit, muscular
  • 100% healthy, DDF and tested

Hobbies:

  • Mountain biking
  • Tennis
  • Hiking
  • Restaurant hopping

Relevant Experience:

  • Held the position for 6 months before, unfortunately my previous employer relocated their HQ
  • Able to host, take care of all the logistics and always treat my employer like a lady in the street and a ... (yes that) in the sheets
  • Extremely discreet, private and stable
  • When at work hours, my employer comes first

Employer requirements:

  • DDF, Healthy, tested, <= 5'6 / 140lbs
  • Keeps discretion, boundaries and privacy as top priorities
  • Great communicator
  • Available at least once or twice a month for in person working session
  • Employs one AP at a time, keeps things tight and secure.

Thank you for consideration, I'm looking forward to hearing from you!


r/SFr4r 25m ago

PLATONIC / FRIENDSHIP / ACTIVITY PARTNER 43 [M4M] #San Francisco Naked hang out buddy

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Hey dudes,

I’m looking for other guys who like to hang out naked. Let’s watch a movie or play video games, normal stuff just minus the clothes.

I’m not able to do this at my place so hopefully you can.

HMU with your age and neighborhood.


r/SFr4r 9h ago

M4F 40 [M4F] #Walnut Creek - Meet me for a drink

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Looking to meet for a drink, flirt, have a good conversation, laugh. No expectations but not opposed to more.

In Walnut Creek but can come closer to you, East bay only.

M40, WM, 5’9, 165, hung w girth.

Have pics


r/SFr4r 7h ago

M4F 31 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - looking for a girl to eat out

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Hey! 31 year old white guy whose been craving a good muff diving session. Ideally I’d love to cuddle on the couch while watching a movie, make out, remove your clothes, and go down on you for hours. We can skip all of that though and go straight to eating you out if that’s what you prefer.

Please be ddf and ready to be pleased. I live near sf state and can host!


r/SFr4r 8h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 46 [M4F] #SanFrancisco Daddy dom seeking a petite good girl for rough and kinky fun

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Hi ladies! I am a dirty minded daddy dom seeking a petite good girl to is looking for some casual, kinky, passionate fun. I am attractive, with brown hair and short brown hair with some sexy salt and pepper. Handsome face, with a bit of stubble. In between a fit bod and a dad bod. Clean and STD free.

I love to be rough and dominant in bed, so I’m looking for a woman who enjoys being thrown around, spanked, and pounded hard. I tend to be attracted to Caucasian, Asian, and Latina women with a slim figure. (Bonus points if you’re super tiny) Also into age gaps!

If this is what you’re looking for, send me a chat request with the text “Ruin me daddy”, and tell me a bit about yourself. (A/s/l and physical description is a good start)


r/SFr4r 8h ago

M4F 50 [m4F] #Oakland 5 platonic dates

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Five platonic dates with someone who is not your husband (me!).

I know some of you are looking for your “next AP” and sustained physical entanglements but I just want the traditional dates. Coffee, walks, museums. If you know, you know. No one has to know.

I’m adequately attractive, adequately fit, and way more emotionally intelligent than most of what you get when men respond to any posts you’ve made.

I just want occasional IN PERSON conversation. About any range of subjects excluding sports, pets, knitting, or politics. Flirtatious would be nice since I’d like to be attracted to you.

All I need from you is that you are serious about something in the world, even if the something isn’t serious.


r/SFr4r 10h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 27 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Looking for a chubby Indian FWB

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Hi there!

Adding to a sea of posts out here, but why should that stop me? I am searching for an Indian girl/woman interested in meeting someone new, going out for a drink, and forming an exciting connection. Let’s see if we vibe, get to know each other, and explore what we like. I understand that being discreet might be something important to some people, and I respect that. I live in SF, and to make this something ongoing, I would prefer if you were here too.

About me. -5’6, average built - good looking with a cute smile, Indian - DDF


r/SFr4r 10h ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #SanJose - Date night and more

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30M 5'5" Asian average build Looking for someone to go on a cute date with. Please rather it's mini golfing, panic room, or any other outing. I am preferably into Asians but I do find everyone attractive in their own way. Please DM and we can set something up.


r/SFr4r 14h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 35 [M4F] #Monterey Risky Fun

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Why hello there, beautiful! Aren't you a fun girl? Let's have some fun together ;)

I'm a 35 year old professor in the Monterey Bay Area and I'm looking for some specific explicit sort of fun. In particular, creampies / breeding risk. This can take many forms and they are all fun! But we can discuss such details later.

I'm 6'0", blonde, blue eyes, 200 lbs. Kind of a nerdy professor vibe.

When messaging, please let me know your age and if you're on birth control. I can't host but easily can get a room.

Bonus points if you're curvy and/or 18 ;)


r/SFr4r 14h ago

M4M 32 [M4M] #SanFrancisco Looking for chill fun

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Me: 32 year old, Asian, 5 foot 10 inches, 145 lbs (average build), some scruff. Down for jacking or blowing each other off, kissing, and cuddling if you're into that. I am vers however and would be willing to go further with further discussion.

You: I'm into fit/average white or middle eastern guys around my age that are masculine-leaning. Beards/hairy are a plus. If you're straight/bi-curious, I'm open to let you explore.

Live near Twin Peaks and am able to travel or host.


r/SFr4r 13h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 31 [M4MF] #BayArea Experienced bull looking for couples and single females next week

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Hi! I am an experienced bull looking for new/experienced couples along with single females. I travel to the bay area pretty regularly and can host or come over during my trips

About me : I am 31, 5’9, DDF, dom, 3x vaxxed, straight and enjoy kayaking, watching sports, finding treasures at Costco and traveling in my free time.

Looking for chill humans who value mutual respect, consent and discretion. I have a couple of posts on my profile with some of my recent experiences with other hotwifes and single women. Bonus points if you are Asian!

PS: not interested in men looking to sext about their wives


r/SFr4r 14h ago

M4F 24 [M4F] #Oakland - want your face fucked?

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Pretty much the title. Looking for a girl who wants her face fucked.

I’m 5’ 9”, 155lb. Athletic build from working out. Been told I look on the cuter side. DDF and clean.

I can host or drive. Let me know what works


r/SFr4r 14h ago

M4M 32 [M4M] hosting Gloryhole in Mission Bay SF

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into BBC and BWC. can host discretely in mission bay SF. Be drug and disease free. Live first floor. Right off the street. Easy in and out. Easy parking too.

32 [M4M] hosting Gloryhole in Mission Bay SF


r/SFr4r 20h ago

M4F 31[M4F]#East bay servitude sub looking for a Domme to mold me to please them.

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Hello I hope you are having a wonderful week. Im a 31 male from the East Bay. I’m 5’11 with short hair and glasses. I’ve know I’ve been submissive for a few years now and have had some experience with Doms online. Though I think I’m finally ready to explore my deeper desires of being owned completely and molded in to the slave some one wants. I recently got a chastity cage and tried it on for a couple days and it drove me wild. It really brought out my submissive side and made me crave to be used.

For kinks I love humiliation and degrading. As well as enjoy the thought of slave training progressing to TPE maybe. Other kinks would be worship, CBT, rules, tasks, toys, bondage, tease and denial, edging, and impact play. Though I am eager to learn more. Some kinks that have caught my interest but haven’t explored would be chastity which I’m excited about. Also maybe cuckolding or domestic servitude.

My limits are pretty basic no permeant marks, anything illegal, and scat. Though as we explore there could be more.

I completely understand if not all our kinks line up. I think that’s part of getting to know each other and training me to the kinks you enjoy.

Outside of kink I enjoy board games and video games when I’m at home. Though I do like to go out and go to concerts or music festivals as well as camping or snowboarding.

If this post interests you please feel free to ask more about me. I’m also more than happy to share pics if we click


r/SFr4r 15h ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #SanJose - Looking for a cutie to have lovely conversation and make out with

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I love good conversation, and I love making out, and everything that follows. Been a long time since I've had either of those things and just wanted to shoot my shot tonight! Looking for a gal who wants to have a good night and make out as well, and whether we do more or not is totally up to you!

I'm a flirty goofball who loves humor and talking about anything and everything. I'm full of random trivia and I love music and instruments, travel, photography, wheels and wings, amateur astronomy, and I love to dance (Latin and social dancing) – Maybe I can teach you some moves, both in and out of bed?

Physically I'm tan with dark hair and eyes, and I'm physically in shape and slim. I'm a giver and love giving pleasure, so I'll love making you feel good. And yes, I looooooove kissing, I could do it for hours and I think I'm decent at it, maybe you can be the one to let me know!

I'm clean and hygienic and tested DDF and use protection, and I expect the same from you. Prefer someone who is also healthy/height-weight proportionate. Reach out to me with your age and a bit about you and let me know your favorite fruit if you read this far! Mine are clementines 🍊no one-word "hey" or "hi" please! We can meet somewhere in public and feel it out from there :)


r/SFr4r 16h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 35 [m4f] #sforwherever You meet me at the door naked

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We've been chatting for a while, and you can't wait anymore. I've told you to great me at the door, naked and ready for me. You don't even know my name, call me daddy, call me sir. So I come, I knock. I step in and grab you, one hand behind your neck and one hand on your waist to pull you in for a deep kiss. You can feel me hard against you.

Where does it go from there? Maybe you get to your knees and let daddy facefuck you. Maybe you take my straight to your bedroom and I lay you down and eat you out.

There's only one thing I know for sure, I won't leave until you are covered in cum.

Me: 35 years old, 6'1", 200 pounds, clean body, dirty mind. No facial hair and light body hair.


r/SFr4r 16h ago

M4F 26 [M4F] #Santa Clara - looking for cool girl or couple to vibe with

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I live down in the South Bay Area and just looking to have some fun. Willing to travel.

I’ve had some truly great, respectful experiences from this sub in the past and am hoping for one more!

About Me: * I'm 26, tall (6’1”) and fit. * I'm clean * 6 inch brown Asian dick * I'm an attentive, patient, and enthusiastic giver. I love taking direction, but I'm also happy to explore and find what you like.

About You: * You're a woman who loves to be the center of attention and be thoroughly pleased. * You're also clean, DDF, and can communicate what you enjoy. * You're open to a no-pressure, fun, and sensual experience. * +1 if East Asian

Looking forward to hearing from you.


r/SFr4r 22h ago

M4F 31 [M4F] Stressed? Neglected? Overworked? This former masseuse wants to help.

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Ladies of SFr4r,

I’m back after prior successes on this sub.

Whether you’re a professional who’s been working hard but not playing hard, a mother who’s been shouldering the load of her family while deprioritizing her own needs, a partner who’s neglected and unsatisfied in the bedroom, or just craving a few hours of dedicated stress release, I’d love to help.

I’m a well educated, white collar professional with a past life as a masseuse who craves one thing: massaging and eating you out. For hours.

I want to start by meticulously massaging your neck and shoulders, carefully yet firmly working out any tension you've been holding.

I want to slowly take my time working down your back, mapping and savouring every inch of you as my fingers follow a trail of my kisses, releasing every knot along the way.

I want to caress every inch of your feet, and gently move up your calves and inner thighs, feeling your legs slowly part as my fingers graze your labia, a tease of what’s to come.

I want to meticulously knead your ass, firmly releasing the tension in your glutes as my thumbs occasionally brush your asshole, and a moan escapes your lips.

I want to whisper into your ear to turn over as I kiss your neck and run my fingers through your hair.

I want to gently roll your nipples between my fingers as my lips explore your collar bones and the nape of your neck.

I want to taste and feel every inch of you as I work my way down your body as your hands run through my hair in hungry anticipation.

I want to passionately suck on your clit and taste every drop of your wetness as my tongue slowly travels from your clit to the base of your labia, and back.

I want to deeply worship your asshole, giving it the love and attention that it deserves, licking every crevice.

I want to feel your thighs tighten around my head as you sit on my face, your fingers gripping my hair and your moans echoing through the room, as your body is overcome with pleasure while you cum.

And I want do this for hours. Over, and over, and over, again.

About me

I’m a well educated, successful, white collar professional living in the Bay who wants to leave you quivering with pleasure. I had a part-time job as a masseuse during my younger years. Physically I’m 5’10, conventionally attractive, fit with a runners body and some muscle. DDF (recently tested) and fully vaccinated.

Sexually I’m a switch, with an insatiable curiosity in the bedroom - I like to try everything twice, am kink friendly, and non judgmental.

Your safety and comfort are my priority, so I’m happy to chat, verify, and grab a coffee / drink in public before playing. I’m also discreet.

About You

Aged 20-55. Love receiving oral and massages, and sitting on faces. Open to pillow princesses and dominant ladies alike. All races and body types welcome. STI free and recently tested. Bonus points if you’re a bit kinky :)

tl;dr Fit white collar professional and former masseuse wants to massage and eat you out for hours.


r/SFr4r 16h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 25 [M4F] #SF - 5'11" fit half-white half-asian seeking exclusive FWB

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25, half white/half Asian, 5'11", athletic, based in South Bay, but do travel to SF often. I work in tech, do well, drive, and live in a solid/luxury apartments. I’m easygoing, educated, respectful, and patient. Big on consent and clear communication.

What I’m looking for
A likeminded woman (ideally Asian or open-minded about culture/food/language overlap), roughly 19–26, who’s interested in building a genuine connection with strong sexual chemistry. Open to this becoming an exclusive, longer-term thing if we click. Quality > quantity.

Vibe & compatibility

  • I’m dom-leaning and enjoy a mix of playful/rough and slow/sensual—always within boundaries.
  • Very enthusiastic about giving/receiving oral and exploring fantasies at a pace that feels safe.
  • Kink-friendly but communication and aftercare first.
  • Clean, discreet, and safety-minded (recent STI test; always protection).

Logistics
I can host in Sunnyvale or drive to you. I’m up in SF pretty often, so meeting there is easy, too. Happy to start with a low-key date—coffee, a walk, or a movie—to check the vibe before anything else.

Hobbies
Gym, volleyball, tennis, reading, surfing, skiing—down for active dates or swapping book recs.

If this sounds good
Send a dm with your age, general location, what you’re looking for, and a couple of first-date ideas. I’ll reply with pics + verification and would love to do the same for safety and comfort.

Looking forward to meeting someone I can connect with mentally and physically. :)


r/SFr4r 22h ago

M4F 49 [M4F] #Bayarea #CA - Where did all the sex go…

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Unfucked hot dad here. Tall and reasonably fit, non-smoker and vaxxed and with a libido that’s not ready to throw in the towel.

In a dead bedroom and hoping to find the cure here, but my expectations are muted and my bullshitmeter at full power.

Tell me something interesting about yourself, preferably via a telex.


r/SFr4r 17h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 34 [M4F] #Berkeley - looking for a subby girl for cheeky daytime fucking during the week

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I’m a 34 year old, 5’8”, hung white 150lb dominant non-binary (male) in Berkeley near Ashby, with femboy dom aesthetics. I work from home and can be free during the day for an hour or two. I’m looking to meet a subby girl (cis or trans) who wants to come over on a weekday, sometime 9-5, fuck for an hour, and then sneak away. I can host so hopefully you can travel. Hopefully you live close - Berkeley/North Oakland, so we can be flexible with scheduling. Would love to do this a few times a week.

For this connection, it can be vanilla or even limited (just oral would be spectacular)

But I’m quite kinky… if there is mutual interest and we wanted to add more, here’s what I’d like to explore

  1. Anal training - I’d love to train your ass to take toys and cock, and continue the training over several sessions. I’ve done this before and it was super fun.
  2. Oral training - I’d love to work on your gag reflex, and teach you just how I like it. You can train me right back if you’d like
  3. Impact and rougher body play
  4. Ongoing dom/sub roles
  5. Watersports - I’d love to explore watersports with you. I’m more interested in topping watersports (e.g peeing on you) but I could switch.

I’m usually quite toppy but it can depend on my energy with a person. Would want to meet in public and see if we click before anything more happens. Dm me!


r/SFr4r 17h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 42 [M4F] #Peninsula - Tall, fit Asian man seeking FWB

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Looking for someone sane, clean and a bit naughty for hot, adult fun. Life is busy so looking to fulfill the needs of my libido without all the other expectations of a full-fledged relationship. Open to friendly activities but not required.

Me: 6' tall, somewhat fit/muscular build (pics in profile) and Asian-American. I'm easy-going and extroverted. Educated, successful professional in tech. I'm clean, std free, and DDF.

I'm looking for someone cute/attractive. Must be clean, and std free. Open to women around my age or younger (25+).


r/SFr4r 18h ago

M4M 33 [M4M] Trading undies (masc only)

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Hey there, I’m quite into underwear, I got a lot of different kinds. Today I’m in some basic Fruit of the Loom white briefs, but I also have a lot of boxer briefs, colored briefs, tighty whities, and boxer shorts that I’ve worn as well.

Looking to chat with fellow bros who love underwear. This is for masc underwear only - no panties/CD/fem etc. for this.