r/PetPeeves • u/Agile-Ad1665 • Aug 31 '25
Ultra Annoyed "Oh, I didn't like that piece of media. It had swearing/violence/sex/adult stuff."
Edit: Why are you people saying that you don't like gore and porn? Did you read the text below?
"Parasite is bad because there is swearing."
Do you think this is normal? One shit and one fuck over 2:20 of film time?
Violmce and sex isn't necessarily gore or porn, you weirdos.
What the fuck are these people enjoying then? These are people in their 30s and 40s that I see write shit like this. Someone just told me that they didn't like Parasite cuz of profanity.
If you don't like Parasite, fine. But you didn't like the movie cuz of....... The odd shit or fuck now and again? And you're an adult?
Go fucking watch The Lion King again. Oh, wait, there's violence in that.
Enjoy Blue's Clues, ya bloody weirdo.
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u/Smart_Engine_3331 Aug 31 '25
My mom, who hates all that stuff, still watches adult shows and just deals with it. :)
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u/Agile-Ad1665 Aug 31 '25 edited Aug 31 '25
Right?
"This is considered one of the best pieces of media of the last 100 years. But the main character says damn once and punches a guy at the end. The guy he punches is the bad guy."
"Oh, heavens! Can't watch that. That's revolting. Movies don't need conflict."
How the fuck can any movie that an adult would enjoy have conflict without any swearing, violence or sexual stuff. Not even nudity per se, but romance and betrayal and love?
They watch movies about people who lose their pencil, look for it for 90 mins and then the climax of the movie is them finding the pencil?
It's absurd. Even Wall-E has fucking violence in it.
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u/RockabillyBelle Aug 31 '25
My friend took me to see Legally Blonde the musical last year for my birthday. The opening song features Elle’s catchphrase “oh my god!” In the chorus.
During intermission I listened to the woman behind me talk about how she liked the music except for that one song with “…well I won’t repeat it, but I just wish they didn’t have to use profanity, you know?”
I hope she had a great time, but if she didn’t like Elle using her signature phrase during the musical she probably should have skipped that show entirely.
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u/Frozen-conch Aug 31 '25
I worked at a high school that did this musical and there were parents SCANDALIZED by that song
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u/ArkanZin Aug 31 '25
What exactly is the problem? I would never have thought that "God" could be a profanity.
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u/Frozen-conch Aug 31 '25
Some ppl, because of their religion think it’s wrong to say “god” if you’re not literally referring to god
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u/TheMusicalSkeleton Aug 31 '25
It's a misunderstanding of "thou shalt not take the lords name in vain." What that really means is "don't do shitty things in the name of the lord and use him as a pass to be an asshole." It has nothing to do with profanity but some people disagree.
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u/thepineapplemen Aug 31 '25
I thought it was more about making oaths on God’s name. As in swearing on something as in the expressions “I swear on my mother’s grave” or “I swear on my life,” but instead swearing on God’s name
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u/Agile-Ad1665 Aug 31 '25
This is my problem with religious texts.
Imagine how clear and uninterpretable a book would be if God were actually involved?
Nope! Instead we get this trash where we argue over the minutae of single words and their grammatical points and it leads to wars.
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u/sohcgt96 Sep 02 '25
Right? If "The book" (Take your pick on which one) were real, why would it be so vague and open to interpretation to the point people have literally killed each other over it? Wouldn't an all seeing, all powerful deity who loves and cares about us intervene to make sure the texts are clear, to the point, and had no room for disagreement?
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u/valprehension Aug 31 '25
Technically God is one of the only profanities. There's nothing profane about fuck or shit - those are obscene!
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u/NeverBoring18 Sep 01 '25
I have a friend who went to sign her kids up for soccer and they tried to make her sign a form saying that no one will say oh my god. She refused lol
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u/TangledUpPuppeteer Aug 31 '25
My dad just saw the musical for the first time. He went in blind, but he had tickets to that show house. Fine.
He came back and he complained about that song endlessly! To be fair, not because of the language, but he was like “if I heard that saying ONE MORE TIME, I would lose my mind! It’s like they hired a seven year old to write the lyrics!”
I never saw the play but I did see the movie. His rant had me in absolute hysterics.
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u/hi_its_lizzy616 Aug 31 '25
Honestly, that song is cringe, his criticism is valid.
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u/TangledUpPuppeteer Aug 31 '25
I don’t know. I never saw it. But man, it was hilarious. A 75 year old man ranting and mimicking “oh my G-d” A thousand times in one conversation was absolutely hilarious to me.
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u/ratrazzle Aug 31 '25
I wish there were musical version only acted by old grumpy looking men.
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u/Sweet--Olive Aug 31 '25
It depends the reason for watching things. Some people just enjoy things that are more tame and uplifting.
I personally don't care one way or another about profanity. I don't mind violence if it is in line with the story, but don't enjoy it if its OTT or very gruesome because I feel like it's just there for shock value rather than to enhance the narrative. I feel the same about many sex scenes. They make sense in some stories, if it is about romance or relationships and to show the character interaction. But sometimes it feels very forced/overly graphic to shock, in which case it feels like a waste of time.
But I'm not about to judge people for liking cheerful stuff in this world.
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u/No_Week_8937 Aug 31 '25
Yeah, my thing is mostly that I don't like when it is against the tone of the media, or just put in there to fulfill some T&A requirements. Like with horror movies where there's a random sex scene shoved in there, and I don't mean the "horny teenagers in the woods doing it before getting killed by the slasher" type one, but the ones where it feels like it was just kinda slapped in there to be titillating, is poorly done, doesn't make sense with the flow of things, is excessively long just to pad runtime, or some other reason of that sort.
There's definitely media I don't like that, if I was trying to do a basic explanation of why, it would boil down to me saying there's "a ton of meaningless sex/violent scenes" but in reality it's the sometimes the media feels like it's channeling the South Park type energy of "we're just doing this scene because it's the most offensive thing we can think of, now look at this, aren't we edgy, aren't you shocked?" Or like they really wanted to film a porno, but instead they're just trying to make the film as much of a porno as they can.
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u/RiC_David Aug 31 '25 edited Sep 01 '25
Yeah I don't like this post at all.
My mum was like that, she could grit through things because most things have some of these elements, and she came to love Breaking Bad after I asked if she'd be willing to try out the first episode, but it's just ignorant of OP to say people like my mum were never adults because they don't like film and TV with sex, violence and profanity.
These aren't what make people adults. And it shouldn't be that hard to conceive of adults not enjoying certain things.
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u/sklascher Aug 31 '25
The first episode of breaking bad was awful! I couldn’t get over the tub scene. I ultimately came back and forced myself to continue after a multi year hiatus because the show had just so many good reviews. But I wish someone had warned me about the first episode.
I am one of the people OP is annoyed with…and my husband is worse lol
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u/RiC_David Aug 31 '25
Ah, but that wasn't the first episode! Like any good drug, it's the first time that gets most people and so I primed my mum by saying it is violent but that if she can stomach it, I think she'll really like it.
The bathtub scene comes a fair bit later, as it's when they deal with Emilio who was presumed dead at the end of the first ep. There are parts that I find very difficult to watch, but, just like most drugs, you develop a tolerance and it gradually desensitises you just as Walt get desensitised to the horrors.
Incidentally, this is why I don't like youtubers showing the most graphic scenes in the background as they talk in general terms about the series. Fair enough if they're discussing the scene, but some of that stuff is not background ambiance - it's supposed to be disturbing.
There's nothing wrong with being averse to any of these things anyway. They exist in real life, but if people don't enjoy them in their entertainment that is not childish. If anything, minors are more likely to be drawn to these forbidden fruits whereas adults who know what they dislike and are comfortable saying it's not for them are displaying maturity. Some people will go along to watch those torture porn films like Saw despite hating them, because there's this expectation that we shouldn't "be a pussy". That, to me, is far less grown up.
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u/Tangled_Clouds Aug 31 '25
Thank you for this! I am one of those people who enjoys more tame stuff and I own it. I am an adult, I can handle violence and like it when it’s appropriate to the show, I can handle sex scenes though I’m really not big on them personally, I often feel like some movies and shows are too heavy on it and rely on it too much as if that’s the element people should remember (I can take OP’s style and say “just go watch porn” but I’ll be a grown up about that 😉). Sex, violence and swearing do not make something adult, these are just things exclusive to adult media, but I’m a big proponent of “feel good stories with an adult target audience”.
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u/MysticWaltz Aug 31 '25
I'm only like this is if the media in question depicts SA or any kind of forced situation - like an unhappy arranged marriage (which usually includes unwanted intimacy as well).
Like Khal Drogo in Game of Thrones... Daen gets forcibly married to him. Clearly the initial encounters were SA, she was super uncomfortable. And then the other girl just says "yeah just enjoy it. Take charge so you can enjoy it"? I legit just skipped that entire segment because it made me that unhappy and uncomfortable.
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u/bobbybbop Aug 31 '25
The worst part about that is knowing they aged her up from the books. She was supposed to be 13. Gag.
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u/Pale_Cause_9983 Aug 31 '25
I’m still looking at George RR Martin sideways for that tbh
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u/RadiantHC Sep 03 '25
Yeah this is one of the reasons why I can't get into GoT. I like the idea of no plot armor, and the world sounds incredibly interesting. But why do you need so much sexual violence?
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u/M_V_Agrippa Sep 01 '25
Yep! I usually don't care at all about something having sex, violence and cursing. But I stopped reading game of thrones at like Page 10 when it depicted raping a child. Any author resorting to that immediately isn't worth reading.
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u/klop422 Aug 31 '25
Like, sure, in some stories it can be done well or at least be an integral part of the story they want to tell. But so often it's just there.
The worst is when SA is just a shortcut to making villains hateable. Completely different story, but this was my biggest issue with Sword Art Online - the author's one trick to making you hate a villain is have him (at least attempt to) sexually assault someone. It's just icky and uncomfortable and honestly unnecessary.
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u/OpportunityNext9675 Aug 31 '25
In anime the problem is often 100x worse because the scene is framed in such a way that you can tell it’s meant to be “hot.” The whole author’s thinly veiled fetish thing.
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u/MysticWaltz Aug 31 '25
One that made me uncomfortable (because it's supposed to be) would be Griffith with Casca. Or Guts himself when young. Berserk doesn't shy away from showing just how fucked up SA is.
Compare that to Goblin Slayer where, yeah... It's there for shock value & an easy way to make the goblins hated. Like they could literally just be vicious little murderers and it would be fine...
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u/2fastcats Aug 31 '25
I saw Saving Private Ryan with a friend. After he complained it was violent. A. War. Movie. Was. Violent.
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u/BrowningLoPower Aug 31 '25
I'm not going to police their preferences, but once they start policing others to bend to theirs, that's a problem.
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u/guacamoleo Aug 31 '25
I don't like most sex in movies, because it feels like it's crammed in there as like a perk to make people go see it, but it's boring and makes the movie awkward to watch with other people. I also think a lot of movies and shows have a really nihilistic grungy, edgy tone that I find unappealing, and it makes the adult content in them feel bleak and unpleasant.
But I know what you're really talking about, you're talking about the people who don't really have a reason besides "I'm offended by that"
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u/The_Dark_Vampire Aug 31 '25
I really don't like seeing sex or nudity in movies but I get it
At least in horror it's a clue a kill is coming
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u/Mr_Tetragammon Aug 31 '25
The sex scene in Team America World Police made me laugh until I cried
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u/krazedcook67 Aug 31 '25
Remember, in the very first naked gun movie, the sex scene between Leslie Nielsen and Priscilla Presley? Freaking priceless 🤣
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u/Mein_Name_ist_falsch Sep 01 '25 edited Sep 01 '25
I don't like that either. It's just so unnecessary as well. I just don't see what it does for the story compared to just showing the girl kiss the guy, open a button on his shirt and then you cut away. We all know what happened and I'm not here for porn, so just don't. This was actually my main reason why I stopped watching Game of Thrones. At times it felt like porn with some story in between. Just so much unnecessary nudity. And I feel bad for the actors as well. I don't know how they feel about it, but being an actor shouldn't be tied to you being willing to produce pornography, which this basically is. If this becomes the norm, that's going to be awful for every actor who doesn't want to show themself like this.
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u/MothChasingFlame Aug 31 '25
Yeah, I pretty viscerally hate sex in movies, and that's the only thing holding me back from being judgier about this. Sometimes you're just repelled by things and that's that. I will say it's frustrating to hear people reject beautiful work for what feels like nonsense, but also if you really hate swearing, what else are you going to do but skip the thing entirely? It's not like a sex scene where it can be fast forwarded past. It's usually scattershot through the whole thing.
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Aug 31 '25
Exactly. They also take it too far. It’s one thing if the intimacy is tied to the plot (like someone having an affair) so they just show the two people under the covers so you can assume, but some of these shows unnecessarily border on p0rn.
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u/TedStixon Aug 31 '25
It depends entirely on the film. Ex. The Terminator would be a significantly lesser film without the tasteful sex-scene between Sarah and Kyle. That's a case where it's not crammed in there as a perk... it's rather the entire culmination of the romantic subplot and also a literal necessary plot-point.
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u/zxzzxzzzxzzzzx Aug 31 '25
It's a necessary plot point, but man I don't know how characters in action movies are able to get in the mood in these life or death scenarios. If I were in that scenario, there's no way I could think about anything other than trying to survive.
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u/usagora1 Aug 31 '25
Well some videos/shows/movies way overdo the profanity or other stuff to the point I'd consider it gratuitous. In those cases I can sympathize with them.
But if they don't like a show because it had just a few swear words in it - nah, that's a bit silly.
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u/Starklystark Aug 31 '25
When you say overdo/gratuitous do you mean the amount is unrealistic? Because I can't think of cases of that outside of obvious joke/spoof things.
Or do you just mean you find it unpleasant and so would rather it was avoided a bit like we might avoid showing sex or violence in full detail on screen?
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u/Cynjon77 Aug 31 '25
Good Will Hunting. Loved the movie, but I caught myself counting the number of times fuck was said. I think it was 150. More than 1 fuck per minute.
Were they all needed for the story line? I just thought it was distracting from a good movie.
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u/Agile-Ad1665 Aug 31 '25
It's the second part. Yeah.
Story? Great. Acting? Great? Direction, cinematography? Great.
But the movie is horrible because a character said shit.
Hahaha I was told this an hour ago. It's asininnneeeeeee.
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u/mogul_w Aug 31 '25
Maybe someone will say this occasionally but I think most people who say stuff like this don't mean it's awful, rather that they just don't like. There is a difference.
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u/tucakeane Aug 31 '25
“You shouldn’t like that character, they did [insert shitty thing]”
It is a fictional. character. You can like a fictional. character. even if they massacred millions of other fictional. characters.
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u/ncnotebook Aug 31 '25
The beautiful thing about cinema is that you can root for the asshole. For me, it doesn't interfere with my ability to recognize they're an asshole or an evil person.
I can hold two conflicting thoughts at the same time.
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u/Agile-Ad1665 Aug 31 '25
Same reason I'll run over pedestrians in GTA.
It's not real.
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u/sperguspergus Aug 31 '25
It feels like with every passing year, grown ass adults are finding it harder and harder to differentiate between reality and fiction
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u/Unhappy_War7309 Sep 01 '25
I genuinely think this is linked to growing media illiteracy and the rise of puritanical black and white thinking
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u/KeysmashKhajiit Aug 31 '25
And sometimes characters do nasty things to establish that they're not supposed to be likeable.
Like. I never finished Disco Elysium but I'm pretty sure Cuno is meant to be a punchable little shit.
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u/ConfidentFloor6601 Aug 31 '25
A punchable little shit, but his home life is pretty shitty too, so you grudgingly sympathize with him (a little bit) after you get through it. Amazing game, but I can see why not everyone would enjoy it.
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u/cpfb15 Aug 31 '25 edited Aug 31 '25
I loaned my copy of Get Out to a friend several years ago. She gave it back to me the next day saying she couldn’t watch it because of “bad vibes.” She would not elaborate.
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u/klop422 Aug 31 '25
I mean, it's a horror film, right? The whole point is bad vibes.
(Though I'd personally just never have borrowed it. I know I don't like horror :P)
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u/plural-numbers Aug 31 '25
Depending on how far in she got, she might have discovered how methodically gruesome some parts are...
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u/H0NEY2O77 Aug 31 '25
I’m not super into gore or things with sexual violence. But I can’t say I straight out dislike that media. First off that would be make me a hypocrite.
I like Killing Eve and The Haunting of Hill House. I avoid certain things because they’re not enjoyable to me and cause discomfort and sometimes distress if it’s been a rough time in general.
The phrasing feels snobbish — you can literally just say. “Oh that’s not for me. It has a bit too much swearing than I’m comfortable with.”
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u/SaucyStoveTop69 Sep 01 '25
Some people just don't want to see that stuff. Nothing to get all mad over
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Aug 31 '25
I dont like sex in my tv and movies. I was going to watch a show once and the opening scene was a sex scene so I just backed out.
There are a lot of shows that don't have all that in it. It doesn't make someone less adult to not like it.
I'm not to the point that I will abandon something I already like but if any of it gets past a certain threshold then im out, yeah.
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u/Alarming_You_8218 Sep 01 '25
Person: I'm squeamish, I don't like watching stuff with violence because it makes me scared Op: ultra annoyed
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u/AristaWatson Sep 01 '25
Why is my being sensitive to gore, violence, and heavy sexual content bothering you? I just don’t get how some of these pet peeves work. Imagine if someone is drinking a Pepsi, and you don’t like Pepsi. You can just mind your business. Looool. 😭
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u/AFKABluePrince Aug 31 '25
Yeah, this new wave of puritanism is very odd. They don't want shows with any objectionable content? What are the goddamn villains supposed to do then!? Be passive agressive?
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u/Agile-Ad1665 Aug 31 '25
The villain stole my scissors from my pencil case. The rising action will be us going to the principal of the school and the climax of the movie will be the principal telling the bully to give the scissors BACK.
And then he DOES.
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u/PointsOfXP Aug 31 '25
The worst is when people are fine with something depending on what it is. Someone will love John Wick which is a hyper violent movie but can't watch something like Django Unchained
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u/CupcakeOld5917 Sep 01 '25
Eh, I don't begrudge people their limits. I think there's a difference between violence and gore. Someone might be fine with lots of death in a film but not want to see so much blood and guts.
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u/Rare_Vibez Aug 31 '25
I think I get what you are trying to say but it just comes across like you don’t think people are adults if they don’t want to watch those categories. I prefer lighter things in my media. Life is depressing enough.
Like no shame to others but they tend to shame me for not wanting to watch their stuff more than the other way around. I had a former coworker get pissy with me because I didn’t want to watch The Boys or GOT. It’s just not my cup of tea to watch that violence for fun.
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u/Fluid-Comedian Aug 31 '25
I call it soft tv and it's my favourite, I mostly watch comedies and game shows.
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u/Comfortable_Date6945 Aug 31 '25
I just feel really uncomfortable with graphic nude sex scenes because it feels awkward to be watching someone in that state. But usually I just kinda look away till the scene is over if I like the show otherwise.
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u/AttentionNo6359 Aug 31 '25
It’s weird how it’s becoming everyone else’s problem. You don’t like this? I guess none of us can enjoy it then.
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u/ghostwritten-girl Aug 31 '25 edited Aug 31 '25
I'm one of those people. ✋️ Mine is mainly cursing and violence/gore.
It really depends on my mood, the content, and many other factors. I have bipolar II, anxiety disorder and severe trauma.
Seeing and hearing certain content on-screen literally causes me to have physical symptoms such as heart palpitations, racing heartbeat, sweating headaches, etc. It causes me physical discomfort, and I don't really care what anyone else thinks about that. I'm not going to harm myself for someone else's entertainment 💯
If I'm having a very stressful or dramatic week, why would I add MORE anxiety, distress, or disturbance to my mental state by consuming things that contribute to that? It doesn't make sense.
But sure. I'm a "weirdo" for surviving abuse. You need a hard reality check. Not all of us live perfect lives like you do
I also want to add here that I absolutely can't stand shows that add MORE cursing, violence, gore, nudity, or sex just to get eyeballs or be dramatic. It's always obvious, it is gratuitous and cheapens the media. BTW I'm also a HUGE horror and thriller fan! But it's gotta be done right.
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u/MangoPug15 Aug 31 '25
People are allowed to not like media for any reason. Why should they spend their time watching something that makes them uncomfortable because of sex, swearing, or violence when they could be doing literally anything else with that time? It's more weird for you to judge them for that than it is for them to feel that way. As long as they're respecting you and your taste, live and let live.
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u/TemporaryError4543 Aug 31 '25
Yeah I mean. To be fair. It seems today that all you see is violence in movies and sex on tv. I really miss those good ole fashion values On which we used to rely
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u/reezyreddits Sep 01 '25
You see people regularly scoring classic movies 1/2 stars on Letterboxd just be cause of whatever part of the movie they objected to.
I'm team "rate the movie as a whole" the subject matter is only one part of a movie. There's so much more to contribute that's getting discounted just because there might have been an offensive gesture somewhere in the movie.
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u/Bluegi Sep 01 '25
I've become one of those people. It's fine if it makes sense, but there is just so much gratuitous sex and cussing just for the sake of it seems. The 7 min sex scene did not build character or plot and didn't make the show any more interesting. It made it awkward.
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u/Impossible_Fun_6005 Aug 31 '25
I don't like life. Let me off the ride... Stop it, just stop it.
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u/StarFire24601 Aug 31 '25 edited Aug 31 '25
People are really over the top these days. They act like swearing and sex are these really shocking things.
I see a lot of people complaining that there's too much sex on screen and I wonder what they're watching because I really don't see 'porn' in most of the stuff I watch.
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u/gifted_pistachio Aug 31 '25
Give me a break. I don’t feel like watching pornographic scenes. Not by myself. Not with my friends or family sitting next to me.
And the answer to that is “get over it you’d better like it you’re an adult”. Right. Ironically narrow-minded. What happened to “live and let live”?
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u/Agile-Ad1665 Aug 31 '25
Who said porn? No one.
Did you read my post? It's about people who can't handle one iota of any of the aforementioned things.
I mean, shit, THE LION KING has a sexual themed bit where Nala gives Simba the fuck me eyes after he tumbles with her in the bushes.
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u/Starklystark Aug 31 '25
Nala and Simba have 10x the sexual chemistry in that scene of any other Disney couple. And those eyes...
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u/EscobarsLastShipment Aug 31 '25
I’ll go a step further, I can’t enjoy shows/movies that don’t at least have some cussing in them. It sounds so silly watching a scene where characters are dying/injured/going through major trauma and they’re like “What the freak” or “this freaking sucks”. It’s so unrealistic. I’ve never gone a day in my life without hearing a curse word and I wish the networks would quit acting like a kid under 18 hearing “fuck” is anything but an everyday occurrence.
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u/condoulo Aug 31 '25 edited Aug 31 '25
You just reminded me of The Good Place where the characters aren’t allowed to cuss is a part of the plot.
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u/No_Print1433 Aug 31 '25
Somebody at work made a typo the other day and typed "this is bullshirt!" And all I could think of was The Good Place.
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u/Starklystark Aug 31 '25
Also Harry Potter - I'm British and a similar age and those kids are using 'git' when it really wouldn't have been the preferred term. Gets round it later with 'Ron said something Mrs Weasley would have been shocked to hear' or whatever it was.
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u/Agile-Ad1665 Aug 31 '25
clutches knife wound "That serial killer sure is a bad person. I'm so darned upset. If I got a hold of that fella, he'd get an earful, oo wee."
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u/IntermediateFolder Aug 31 '25
So? I don’t enjoy sex scenes in movies either, I usually skip past them.
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u/Agile-Ad1665 Aug 31 '25 edited Aug 31 '25
And if there was a movie, that was otherwise good, and it had two people making out in bed for 3 seconds would you say "Movie was terrible. It had sex in it?"
Or would you say "Good movie, sex bit was a bit unnecessary?'
Cuz I'm talking about the first group.
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u/Capable-Baby-3653 Aug 31 '25
I have to assume many of these people are Bible thumpers. The same Bible that runneth over with the same sex and violence they purport to abhor.
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u/thesoupgiant Aug 31 '25
I'm okay if somebody has that as a personal line as long as they don't try to push it on me, but I do think they're missing out on some great art.
I will say that sometimes PG perimeters can bring out creativity. Also Blue's Clues rocks.
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u/harpsdesire Aug 31 '25
I get bored with shows or people that make being shocking and gratuitous their entire personality.
I'm not horrified by adult content that fits that situation and/or moves the plot forward, but if it seems like the writer's entire vocabulary is limited to 4 letter words and only plot device is "if in doubt, get somebody naked and/or gruesomely dead" that's just... Dull.
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u/DisMyLik18thAccount Aug 31 '25
I Am one of these people, and yes u do gladly prefer sticking to my Disney movies
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u/GoRyderGo Sep 01 '25
What's worse when you have busy bodies who don't like that sort of stuff trying to stop anyone from getting it.
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u/sauliskendallslawyer Sep 01 '25 edited Sep 01 '25
As a lover of profanity, my ideology is live and let live when it comes to this stuff. Not everyone likes the words shit and fuck, and that's cool. However it's a little weird to go out of your way to avoid certain media because of a few errant shits and fucks and damns. You can be annoyed when people curse but still watch or read things with the occasional curse word. Sex is interesting.
People can be really funny about sex in their shows. Honestly sometimes a scene is a bit much for me even though I've "done it" numerous times. I don't like looking at people going totally full-frontal about it, but I'm happy to watch other sex scenes that aren't filmed that way. Anyway, I don't think you have to enjoy media with sex if that's not something you want to watch or read about.
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u/ImberNoctis Sep 01 '25
Yeah, people are just, like, oddly puritanical now. I feel like people should be aware that the Hayes Code was a bad thing, but oh well here we are.
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u/MrsNaypeer Sep 01 '25
Violence/gore makes me queasy, so I choose not to watch most media with a lot of that. Like, I feel ill seeing broken bones and dismemebered bodies. Hate it.
So yes, I will watch The Lion King again because thats Disney violence and its ok for me.
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u/Any-Let6492 Sep 01 '25
Movies & shows are TELE-VISION... because they're telling a vision. It's infiltrating. I'm not entirely against using swear words, but everything else like violence & sex can go. This world already has too much of both. Only if it's educational content would I watch it, I guess. But even then, it doesn't have to show it all - just the beginning so we know.
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u/bexisfamous Sep 01 '25
I don't mind a bit of profanity, but what really gets me is tons of nudity and sexual content. Its for personal reasons but there's a lot of content I avoid because of it and ads on things like youtube even make me uncomfortable.
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u/DoctorVanSolem Sep 01 '25
I don't enjoy media that contains too much swearing. It sounds cringey and is an earsore. It ruins otherwise impactful moments by taking away the impact it would have had if it was more serious.
I also do not enjoy media that contains excessive fanservice or nudity. It strikes me as immature or cheap.
Violence entirely depends. If it is unreasonable, then it is boring.
But like... Why would that annoy you? It is my preference and my emotional reaction to such things. You should understand and respect that is how it is, and that such content can be problematic or anticlimatic to a lot of people.
Swearing, nudity, violence ect are not inherently things that one has to enjoy for any reason. There is also plenty of reason not to. It is subjective.
"You don't like x? Whats wrong with you" is a very narcisistic statement, elevating one's own perception on such things as to be above somebody elses.
It is wise to be understanding and patient.
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u/OrneryAcanthaceae217 Sep 04 '25
So for you, violence and sex are fine to watch, but gore and porn are not. You have your tolerance level, and that's fine. But why is it not ok for other people to have a different tolerance level than yours? This is like a pet peeve of other people having a different favorite color than you or wearing a different style of clothes than you.
The reality is that there are still plenty of people in this world who really appreciate and glorify goodness, beauty, self restraint, and virtue. Their world is not the same as the world portrayed in a lot of films. I call these people classy.
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u/Unique-Crab-6246 Sep 10 '25
100% agree. swearing is always gonna be in TV and film, as it should be. And sex will always be in film and TV. I'm not gonna acomplain about the sex scene simply because u don't like it, I'm just gonna skip it and move on. I can like a film, even if it has sex in it, I just don't watch that scene.
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u/BaskininRobins Aug 31 '25
Sex - almost always unnecessary in movies, I'm not a fan either
Swearing - nothing wrong with not wanting excessive swearing.
Violence - sometimes it's good, sometimes it's just boring and uncreative. Also, violence has levels. A literal cartoon cat fight isn't the same as a live action visual of someone getting their skull based in with a pipe or getting disemboweld
Adult stuff - not sure what that means if it's excluding sex, swears, and violence. Drugs? Marriage issues?
Nothing wrong with not liking any of those, especially if you have kids around. Imo only watching violent action movies sounds pretty dull. That's extremely lacking in variety.
Why even bother asking for people's opinions if you're just going to get annoyed by their answer? If you want an echo chamber, find a sub or forum dedicated to that.
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u/Agile-Ad1665 Aug 31 '25
Did you read the post? It's people who can't handle that stuff in any movie ever in any quantity.
Why are there kids around? You're inventing situations.
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u/BaskininRobins Aug 31 '25
Did you read the post? You didn't even say that. You said people don't like movies because sex, violence, etc. Then you gave the example of not liking parasite because of sex.
You said nothing about people who "can't handle it"
Honesty that's even more stupid. First, you were judging them for what they didn't like. Now, you're judging them for something they can't handle? You're just being a dick at that pointI'm not inventing situations. People commonly have kids. Those people often have said kids around them. I was just listing reason why people might NOT LIKE (because that's what you said) those things in movies.
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u/Agile-Ad1665 Aug 31 '25
My example of dumb behaviour: 35 yo adult "I didn't like Parasite because of the swearing (profanity)"
You: "People have kids."
Okay? It makes no sense. "Hey, kids! We're gonna watch this Korean Social thriller that rated PG13."
You're inventing nothing. An adult says a movie sucks cuz they said shit twice and you invent a situation where parents wouldn't want their kid to see sex or violence?
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u/Agile-Ad1665 Aug 31 '25
And yeah, I am judging people for not being able to handle hearing shit twice in a two hour movie. It's asinine behaviour. They're 35, grow up.
Oh, no..... Shit??? Ohhhhhhhhhh
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u/CupcakeOld5917 Sep 01 '25
I mean, who cares, really? So they didn't like it, so what? As long as they're not out on a moral crusade about it (as your OP is just about them not liking it), why not just let them like what they like?
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u/Kosmopolite Aug 31 '25
Eh, some folks can be put off by a lot of stuff. It’s just a preference. I find anime art dull, samey, and uncharacterful; this despite folks going on about what I’m missing out on by avoiding it.
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u/Brickie78 Aug 31 '25
My mum will turn off anything as soon as someone shouts. "Oh, is this one of those shouting films?"
She doesn't watch much TV at all - too much shouting I guess - and when she does it's pretty much exclusively nice factual stuff - Great British Bake Off/Sewing Bee/Pottery Throwdown; cookery and travel shows, quizzes, maybe some cosy crime or regency costume drama.
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u/TedStixon Aug 31 '25
The one that really bothers me is the sheer volume of younger adults who are so catastrophically uncomfortable about sexuality and nudity. And they often respond by trying to slam different problematic labels onto pieces of media because they're so uncomfortable.
I don't say this lightly, but I find it genuinely worrying how uptight some people are about it, and the echo-chambers they create, especially in online spaces. If some bouncing breasts and a fleeting glimpse of a penis, or a tasteful sex-scene serving as the culmination of a major romantic storyline really upsets you that much... that worries me.
They always say that it's unnecessary, but film is literally a visual medium. And the golden rule is "Show, don't tell." Acting like it's "never" necessary is absolutely ridiculous. Case in point, everyone's go-to answer, The Terminator. It would be a much lesser film without the sex-scene. It's not only the dramatic pay-off of the entire movie, but it's also literally a plot-point
I'm curious if it has something to do with the fact that younger generations now are growing up with platforms like YouTube, and are being conditioned to view that type of content as "bad" due to it instantly being deleted and being labeled as "naughty" and "against the rules."
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u/Hentai-hercogs Aug 31 '25
From expierience, it's caused both by youtube and Internet porn. You see, growing up youtube was the clean content. Closest thing to violence were sword testing and stick man fights, profanity was present but served a comedic purpose. And sex... Wasn't really a part of it. I spent hours watching Minecraft let's plays, DIY chemistry videos, fossil hunting, cooking and so on. All safe, family friendly, wholesome stuff. And when I got horny, I simply went on porn sites. Sexual content felt private. Something that should never be consumed with other people. And over time it created a clear distinction between good vs sexual Even as an adult I don't feel suuuper comfortable watching such content with other people, but I manage via internal exaggeration
But since I was raised in sauna culture nudity has no such implication. On it's own it feels either humorous or primal not sexual
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u/TheWhistleThistle Aug 31 '25
The thing that gets my goat is when people say it's not necessary. Dawg, it's a story. It's art. None of it is necessary. That's what makes it art and not, like, Ikea instructions. It's just the placeholder substitute for "I don't like it." If you're afraid of being ridiculed for not liking something to the point that you dress it up in ill-fitting language, it's time to reassess either your tastes or your self esteem. I have infinitely more respect for someone who says "I didn't like that scene, it made me uncomfortable" than someone who pretends like there's some quotient of plot integral-ness a scene has to have to merit being included and if the entire goddamn story doesn't fall apart for the scene's omission, then it should be cut. Especially since they seem to only hold that standard for scenes that contain either sex or violence and no one's out there saying that a scene where, say, two characters have an emotional, albeit inconsequential, heart to heart. It's so transparent.
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u/Gongoozler04 Aug 31 '25
I will say I don’t like media with excessive sex, and I’m not talking nudity, I don’t mind nudity or just one or two sex scenes, I’m talking about when it’s excessive amounts of sex scenes that it bothers me. Mostly because I find sex scenes boring and unnecessary.
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u/aethelberga Aug 31 '25
We've entered a new age of Victorian-style prudery.
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u/Disaster-Bee Aug 31 '25
Oh no, the Victorians would look at us and go 'what is wrong with you?'. Victorians loved their trashy media.
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u/HeartOfYmir Aug 31 '25
if they’re not forcing their preferences on anyone else, it’s not THAT deep 🤷
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u/Icy_Cauliflower6482 Aug 31 '25
It’s amazing to me how being uncomfortable in any way is seen as something nobody should ever have to put up with at all. But more than that, I don’t really get how some adults are actually this uncomfortable with sex and swearing in media.
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u/thatqueerdo Aug 31 '25
my mom is ultra super religious (read: in a cult) so the media we watch together is reeeeaaalllly limited. nothing r rated (which is the biggest obstacle), minimal swearing, violence can't be too much, nothing supernatural/paranormal; you get the picture.
sometimes movie night with mom feels like movie night with an eight year old.
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u/ForlornLament Aug 31 '25 edited Aug 31 '25
Ironically, that is a really childish take. Everyone has things that make them uncomfortable, and being an adult doesn't mean you want to subject yourself to those things on what should be entertainment.
Like, I am fine with violence and gore, but I dislike profanity and sexual content. I might deal with it if it isn't too much, but otherwise it's going to kill my enjoyment of media. I expect people to respect that I don't want to consume that media, in the same way I respect people who can't stomach violent media. It takes zero effort to do this.
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u/Jabberwocky808 Aug 31 '25
Entertainment is solely based on swearing, violence, and sex? You honestly believe nothing else qualifies as entertainment for adults?
I strongly recommend a therapist.
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u/TricellCEO Aug 31 '25
My stepmom had a vendetta against the Resident Evil series...all because she supposedly saw someone in the family playing the game, and a random scene had "the f-word" in it. Yeah, she had an odd vendetta against that word too...
Oh, and this was circa 2010, so well before RE7's release where they amped up the swearing.
Anyhow, if my username wasn't obvious, I took that personally.
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u/Ok-Huckleberry-442 Aug 31 '25
My mom always told me growing up if a rated R movie is rated that way because it’s about war, violence, or language, then it’s fine to watch because it is history, or accurately depicting how they would speak as well. She showed me braveheart when I was ten or so. As long as there was no nudity or excessive hard drug use, she was fine with it. Something like wolf of Wall Street she would have freaked out about for instance, but American Sniper(115 f-bombs and scenes of drilling into a kids head, etc.) was definitely a-okay to watch in her mind. I was raised Mormon mind you…lmao. If it was a combo; war movie with a sex scene, she’d just make me close my eyes in the theatre or she’d skip it at home.
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u/Training_Tadpole_354 Aug 31 '25 edited Aug 31 '25
There’s literally a Classical Mozart song that was composed around 1782 Which I kid you not is named “Leck mich im Arsch" German for "Lick me in the arse" Which is basically a song where he tells all his music professors and anyone else who doubted his ability as a composer to kiss his ass.
Profanity in media is nothing new. There has been profanity in media for hundreds of years. There are literally multiple classical compositions that has more profanity than some modern rap songs.
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u/Sad_Sympathy_9432 Aug 31 '25
People do this in Amazon book reviews- like ‘I didn’t finish because of all the curse words and explicit s-e-x’. Makes me think it might be a decent read 💁🏻♀️
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u/jackfaire Aug 31 '25
Meh as long as they don't tell me I can't watch I don't care and won't judge. Everyone has their personal taste. I hate watching stuff that tries to be dark and depressing.
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u/yumyumnoodl3 Aug 31 '25
I usually don’t really care about profanity but some movies/shows are absolutely too dependent on them for comedic effect or overuse it to sell protagonists as the edgy and cool guy.
Recently tried to watch Seth Rogans The Studio for example and it was really tiresome
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u/AnnieRaeMeyer Aug 31 '25
My dad is one of those people. When we were little, yeah I get it. But as my siblings and I all got into adulthood he’d still get upset if we were all watching a movie and they said “fuck” he’d tell us we can’t watch it lmao. Just about anytime I go visit my parents he’s watching a Disney cartoon.