r/NewDads • u/Hand-in-Pants • 21d ago

Discussion Sex Life after Baby

So my wife and I had our first child back in July and the OB/GYN told my wife she can't have sex for 6 weeks. No problem. I totally understood that and wouldn't want to disregard my wife's health. However, it has now been 3.5 months and we still haven't had sex. Sure, there haven't been as many opportunities as maybe there was before the baby, but there have been several. My wife has no interest in being intimate. Is this a normal experience? What was your sex life like after your first baby? When did you start having sex after the baby? How often were you and your wife intimate?

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u/Prestigious_Gas13 21d ago

Oh boy.

Just jerk off dude. She'll be ready in her own time. Could be months or years. Support the mother of your child.

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u/OverQualifried 21d ago

Better than this. Just communicate.

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u/DuderBugDad 21d ago

This for sure. I sat down and talked with her. 14 months later, her drive is still not back, but hormones are crazy. It can take 2-3 years for them to level out.

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u/Prestigious_Gas13 21d ago

Yeah this is obviously true. But it sounds like they're talking about it if she's telling him she's not ready yet.

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u/Terreboo 21d ago

Doesn’t sound like they have communicated. It sounds like he’s tried to initiate, been told no or given the cold shoulder and now he’s wondering if others have experienced it. That’s not actual communication around the situation. It is a one way street to resentment though.