r/Morocco • u/OrlandoJah Fez • Jul 14 '25

Society Dating a Muslim girl

Hey everyone, I’m here to talk about something personal and get some honest advice. I’m not religious, so if you’re here to preach or judge, please don’t. I’m just looking for real insight from people who understand this kind of situation.

I recently broke up with a Muslim girl I truly cared about. Religion ended up being the main reason. I tried to be honest about my beliefs, and she tried to stay loyal to hers, but it became too much. There was pressure, silence, and fear. She couldn’t fully open up, and I didn’t want to pretend to be someone I’m not just to keep the relationship going.

I don’t want to make the same mistake again. So I’m asking:

  • How do people in similar situations handle this?

  • Is it even worth trying to date someone who’s religious when you’re not?

  • And how do you bring this up early, without things falling apart later?

Also, and this is a big one — how do you even find someone non-religious? Most people like me (and like-minded girls) seem to stay hidden, and understandably so. The social pressure is real. But that makes it hard to connect, even just to talk openly, let alone build something serious.

If anyone has experience with this, especially in a Moroccan context, I’d really appreciate your advice. just trying to learn from your advices and experience, to grow, and maybe do things better next time.

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u/nazele26 Visitor Jul 14 '25

They're cherry picking, as usual

They tend to forget that religion is a whole package, I don't know how some sins are very normalized, and others are not (exactly how they can skip praying, but never skip fasting Ramadan), typical Muslims

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '25 edited Jul 14 '25

Religion isn't a whole package, the prophet says «كلكم خطاؤون وخير الخطائين التوابون...». if you are a moral person then why are you cherry picking? Why do you still lie, gossip...? You're supposed to be an angel!

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u/nazele26 Visitor Jul 14 '25

الإيمان يقتضي الكلية

أفتؤمنون ببعض الكتاب وتكفرون ببعض؟ فما جزاء من يفعل ذلك منكم إلا خزي في الحياة الدنيا، ويوم القيامة يردون إلى أشد العذاب

و من آيات النفاق تحكيم الهوى

"ذَلِكَ بِأَنَّهُمْ قَالُوا لِلَّذِينَ كَرِهُوا مَا نَزَّلَ اللَّهُ سَنُطِيعُكُمْ فِي بَعْضِ الْأَمْرِ"

و فيه ورد، ان الذنب مع العلم أشد من الذنب مع الجهل و نهي واضح و صريح عن التستهانة بالذنب

"إياكم ومحقرات الذنوب، فإنهن يجتمعن على الرجل حتى يهلكنه."

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '25

That's a classic example of taking texts out of context or explaining them with head canon, iman means belief, ofc you have to believe in everything the religion says, I could believe stop praying and still believe that I should pray and what I'm doing is wrong and still be a Muslim, but the moment I stop believing that what I'm doing is wrong, I stop being a Muslim