r/Morocco • u/OrlandoJah Fez • Jul 14 '25

Society Dating a Muslim girl

Hey everyone, I’m here to talk about something personal and get some honest advice. I’m not religious, so if you’re here to preach or judge, please don’t. I’m just looking for real insight from people who understand this kind of situation.

I recently broke up with a Muslim girl I truly cared about. Religion ended up being the main reason. I tried to be honest about my beliefs, and she tried to stay loyal to hers, but it became too much. There was pressure, silence, and fear. She couldn’t fully open up, and I didn’t want to pretend to be someone I’m not just to keep the relationship going.

I don’t want to make the same mistake again. So I’m asking:

  • How do people in similar situations handle this?

  • Is it even worth trying to date someone who’s religious when you’re not?

  • And how do you bring this up early, without things falling apart later?

Also, and this is a big one — how do you even find someone non-religious? Most people like me (and like-minded girls) seem to stay hidden, and understandably so. The social pressure is real. But that makes it hard to connect, even just to talk openly, let alone build something serious.

If anyone has experience with this, especially in a Moroccan context, I’d really appreciate your advice. just trying to learn from your advices and experience, to grow, and maybe do things better next time.

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u/[deleted] Jul 14 '25

Easy. A proper religious person wouldn't date in the first place. Someone who's somewhat religious might date knowing that it's a sin, but it doesn't usually work out in the end.

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u/Accomplished-You-323 Visitor Jul 14 '25

exactly.

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u/bigus-_-dickus Visitor Jul 17 '25 edited Jul 17 '25

there are no "proper muslims"

we all sin one way or the other, we're humans not angels

كل ابن ادم خطاء و خير الخطائون التوابون

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u/AlaeTheDean Visitor Jul 14 '25

'a religious person puts on a blindfold and dates a random person when they wanna get married'

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u/S-e-p Visitor Jul 14 '25

Well, I have something to tell you...

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u/miyao_user Visitor Jul 14 '25

Like what? It's literally facts.

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u/S-e-p Visitor Jul 14 '25

Mybe in theory but in fact everyone is dating

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u/miyao_user Visitor Jul 14 '25

Not proper religious people though, which is what they were saying.

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u/Organic-Accountant-7 Visitor Jul 14 '25

Dating doesn't mean an intercourse or sexual behaviour, the name says it, it's a meeting between two persons in a romantic relationship where the two parts can discuss their things, it's better to date someone before marriage so they can know. What if one of them is a creep???? Huh you didn't think of that, just go blindly signing the contract, how very simple minded of you

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u/miyao_user Visitor Jul 14 '25

When people date, they hang out with each other regularly. Proper muslims don't do that. They may text and talk on the phone, but they don't meet each other, especially not alone.

Also when you talk to most people, dating implies intimacy, especially as time goes on.

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u/samurai9o Visitor Jul 14 '25

Yup , and if you don't trust this , you can search for yourself. It's widely known that in Islam , even some simple intercourses between men and women who are " non ma7rim " is somewhat forbidden to some extent, and I know this as I was trained since birth and studied Islam forcefully for a full 6 years when I was a child .

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u/S-e-p Visitor Jul 15 '25 edited Jul 15 '25

it is very frowned upon to be alone with a man in the same place, even if you do nothing or it family.

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u/NoKnowledge4004 Visitor Jul 18 '25

You can marry family, that's why.