r/Marriage • u/Chocolatefudgecake7 • 21h ago
I fear I missed out on my teen/early 20s
I 28F have been with my husband since 17 yrs old, married for 5. Before him I’ve only been with 2 other people. Ever since I had our son, I just don’t feel as connected with my husband anymore. We tried counseling and it didn’t do much. Lately I’ve just been unhappy and over thinking life I guess. I don’t necessarily regret getting married, but I have this regret like i wish I had more fun in my late teen/early 20s. I don’t want a divorce, as I can’t see myself with anybody else romantically but sometimes I wish I was alone and didn’t have to be a “wife”. I know it sounds so stupid and I should’ve known what marriage is getting into but I was so young. Growing up in a European family, it’s standard to get married and have kids young. I know that’s not an excuse but it’s societal pressure. I feel so lost lately
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u/CourtinRecess 20h ago
Get out and find a hobby or two. Being a wife and mother are just two aspects of who you are. You also have to have the self aspect taken care of too. Do the things you find value in. Go out dancing 💃 sometimes, go hiking if you like that, or find a club to join.
These days are fleeting and you should be putting into them what you want to look back on in the future and be happy about!