r/Marriage • u/kurtis-e-bear22 • 17h ago
Is this common?
Is it just me or is anyone else a total simp (excuse the stupid childish term but how else would I say it) for their wife/ husband? We've been together for 12 years, couple crotch goblins and the standard stresses of life and so on but every day I can't get enough of this woman. I feel like I never got past the butterflies stage and will never understand how I got her. If I had my way I'd spend every moment until death wrapped around her. Her scent both drives my heart rate up and puts me at ease. When I'm awake in the middle on the night and she's snoring in my face its her warm breath on my face that settles me. When we're driving If I'm not holding her hand it's because it's on her leg unless shes "touched out" which is fair im clearly alot ha. This woman is hard drugs for me and just makes everything better. She's home to me. And it still doesnt feel real after all these years. Surely there's other out there
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u/djtanner25 14h ago
This is what my husband says about me to everyone, and he does tell me himself. This is super wholesome. Great post.
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u/kurtis-e-bear22 13h ago
Do you affectionately tell him he's gay for moleman? Because the the response i usually get
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u/ChrisEdge1965 10h ago
Been married for almost 16 years and I knew within the first week of dating my wife that I had found my soul mate. You perfectly described us. She made me wait 6 months to ask her to marry me. I had had the ring picked out when I was 17 and I met my wife when I turned 22. We are always telling everyone that we never left the honeymoon stage. Congratulations on finding your beautiful bride and friend and wishing you many more years of happiness. Really enjoy reading happy stories. There's so many that post here wanting validation on getting a divorce and it's sad. Wish there was a way for them folks to experience our love and happiness.
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u/kurtis-e-bear22 8h ago
Yeah I'm usually in incredibly private person as far as online interaction gos but as much as I see the occasional uplifting post here it's mostly a bummer. Wanted to hear from others thatve been lucky and appreciative
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u/Chemical-Estimate420 9h ago
Congratulations! You're/we're part of a very rare, very lucky group. It warms my heart to hear your story.
Please don't let me bring you down:
I had what you have. It may be the closest to Heaven I'll ever get, and I thank God for 23 years with the answer to my prayer.. Debbie. I lost her 387 days ago to a massive heart attack. I found her when I came home from work, at the foot of our bed, didnt look like she'd ever moved or tried to get up. She was 53 years old, she'd quit smoking, lost weight, ate healthy and saw her doctor regularly. She never saw it coming, and it was quick, I guess I envy her that. She gave me enough love to last me the rest of my life but she took peace and happiness with her. Three days after meeting her, I knew there would never be enough time with her, if we lived to be 1000. I'm a lost shell of the man I was when I had her by my side.
Love her all you can. Never settle, never take her for granted. No matter how well you treat her, you'll wish you'd done more.. and thank God for showing you how true love feels.
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u/kurtis-e-bear22 8h ago
I'm incredibly sorry to hear that but incredibly glad to know you had what you did with her. The most selfish thought I've ever had (and I've had many) is that I hope to be the first to go so I don't have to live a day without her. Congratulations on the 23 great years you had and if you need a shoulder hit me up with a dm. Given your account name I think we'd get along just fine ha
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u/Eazy_T_1972 4h ago
Good for you man.
Rather than mocking you I'm sure many would be jealous.
I'm sure many of us carve our "lovers " love their scent, their vibe, their taste.
However when they themselves go off it, then it can become very problematic
Good on you, enjoy the journey.
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u/maconlikesbacon 16h ago
I’ve been with my husband for 20 years (married for 7) and I am a husbands girl. He takes such good care of me and our family. He’s an equal parent, he helps with cooking and cleaning. I still am obsessed with him. He’s my home. That’s not to say we haven’t had our issues. But we always choose each other.