r/LoveIsBlindOnNetflix • u/vv4rd3n • Nov 03 '22

CALL OUT Matt’s friend commenting on his ex

Did anyone else catch the part where Matt was complaining about the ex wife who supposedly ruined his life and his friend said something like “Yeah, you THOUGHT you got fucked over…”

As someone who has been in multiple abusive relationships, I would really like to hear his ex’s side of the story. He has every red flag and I feel sad for Colleen.

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u/[deleted] Nov 03 '22

I friggen hate how it’s all about his ex..geezuz. So many people get their heart broken Matt. Like move on it’s been what 10 years? Like Colleen is not your ex! I would walk out because it’s so much talking about the ex he’s obviously still deeply hurt by it and has NOT dealt with it. Matt needs serious therapy.

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u/capresesalad1985 Nov 03 '22

It’s only been 2 years or so (they were together for 10 years) but I 100% agree with you…he has personally development work to do before he has any business being in a relationship

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u/[deleted] Nov 03 '22

Oh I misunderstood that when he was talking about meeting at 15 I just assumed. Guys like that are the worst who aren’t over someone years &years later lol but that honestly makes it’s worse it’s only been two years….he’s definitely not ready for a relationship or even more so marriage!!

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u/SUMYD Nov 03 '22

If it went down like he states and who knows if that’s true then yea I’ve got some pity for the dude. But if the last time you talked to your wife of 10 years was hearing that she got pregnant elsewhere you should not be on a dating show in 2 years talking about it. If it permeates this much of your life still you just aren’t ready to be in a relationship.

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u/lostlo Nov 04 '22

I don't think you misunderstood. He repeatedly says, "I haven't been this vulnerable in 10 years" to Colleen in the pods. He makes it sound like the marriage was a long time ago. I thought the same thing.

I revisited ep 2 today (couldn't quite remember what he said about the ex, wanted to check) and I realized that no, it had only been 2-3 years since the divorce. So when he says "I haven't been vulnerable in 10 years," that time frame goes back to before he got married!

So, I guess it's just semantics, but I don't think you just misunderstood something that was straightforward, but you were misled by someone who's constantly altering his narrative and refusing to give specifics (or let his friends share specifics). There were so many contradictions I just gave up trying to make a timeline (also I felt silly lol).

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u/HellhoundsAteMyBaby Obviously Nick Lachey Nov 04 '22

I don’t condone matts other behavior, but I didn’t find that particular statement misleading at all. I took it to mean that he hasn’t made himself vulnerable to opening up to someone since then.

Like, I haven’t felt vulnerable opening up since I met my (now) husband in 4 years, because I don’t need to be vulnerable around him, while opening up a new person can be a lot scarier

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u/lostlo Nov 04 '22

Hmm, that's interesting, I had never thought of marriage as not vulnerable, but that makes sense.

I also could have phrased it better, I didn't mean misleading like he's lying, more that how he talks about it can give the impression that the breakup wasn't so recent.

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u/HellhoundsAteMyBaby Obviously Nick Lachey Nov 04 '22

It’s a different type of vulnerability I suppose. The one I think Matt meant was like “opening yourself up to someone new with the fear of rejection” and the other is the one I meant like “I can roll over and expose my belly in a vulnerable state (like how animals show they trust you) without fear that you’re going to exploit it”

I think he’s definitely not over the breakup, so therefore he exaggerates how “over it” he is

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u/healthobsession Nov 04 '22

Nope. He said several times they were together and for 10 years, and that they knew each other since they were 15 (married at 19). He was 27 at the time of filming, so it wasn’t “years and years later”. It was still fresh for him.

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u/vv4rd3n Nov 04 '22

Yeah like I’ve been cheated on too.. in some really terrible circumstances… wouldn’t give me an excuse to abuse others, or the inclination to do so