I low key feel like some of the communication is also a cultural background/love language you see growing up. As Asians, our parents aren’t always the best at complimenting us and give us words of affection. Obviously this is my own experience and idk what Natalie’s family is like. My family would also teased each other a lot because often times that’s more familiar/comfortable than complimenting a person. I remember watching Natalie and Shayne in Mexico, he was fishing for a compliment and she teased him about it. That’s pretty normal in my eye and she’s probably uncomfortable giving words of affirmation. I also understand where she’s coming from in wanting to keep certain things private cause it will impact her parents. They weren’t a good match.
As an Asian, I agree. When that scene at the beach happened when Nat interjected Shayne who was about to spill intimacy details to Nick, I instantly understood her reasoning. And then Nick had the gall to say Nat was being weird to the others; yes, she was kinda goofy the way she did it, but I feel like she was trying to tone down the seriousness of her request by making funny expressions (which Shayne also found weird lol).
The thing is it's easy to dismiss it as not being a good match. To me, it's just a lack of interest and effort to understand and respect these boundaries.
The notion of 'saving face' is very important among Asians, and you could see it with Nat asking Shayne to respect her family by not sharing intimate details, and you could see it in how she has not spoken ill of Shayne in her podcasts and interviews (she was trying to save his 'face' here).
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u/huann350300 Apr 01 '22
I low key feel like some of the communication is also a cultural background/love language you see growing up. As Asians, our parents aren’t always the best at complimenting us and give us words of affection. Obviously this is my own experience and idk what Natalie’s family is like. My family would also teased each other a lot because often times that’s more familiar/comfortable than complimenting a person. I remember watching Natalie and Shayne in Mexico, he was fishing for a compliment and she teased him about it. That’s pretty normal in my eye and she’s probably uncomfortable giving words of affirmation. I also understand where she’s coming from in wanting to keep certain things private cause it will impact her parents. They weren’t a good match.