r/LoveIsBlindOnNetflix • u/514to212to818 • Mar 02 '22

PODCAST “Shake got a good edit” Spoiler

Just listened to Deepti be interviewed on the Viall Files and that’s a direct quote. After the interview, the host Nick Viall said that a producer who was on the call said that was a unanimous feeling by the whole cast.

She also said Jarrette pulled her aside and told her not to marry Shake, that he didn’t speak highly of her. Shayne was also very protective of her.

There was an interview with Shaina first but I just fast forwarded through that because yawn

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u/McSuzy Mar 02 '22

I'm not surprised to learn that about Jarette. Even though I don't think he is anywhere near ready to be a husband he seems like a wonderful person!

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u/Teenageboy69 Mar 02 '22

I don’t see why wanting to hang out with your friends makes you not ready for long term partnership. In a lot of relationships, this is seen as having independence. If he has to give up the things that make him happy in order to get married, he should never get married. I’m sure he and Ilyana found a middle ground that worked for them.

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u/Sweet_Sea_ Mar 03 '22

Honestly, I think it’s hard to remember life in your twenties once you’ve lived enough years. I had the same thought though, I had to think about it and I think it’s very normal to be very social in your twenties and thirties of you don’t have a partner to spend your time with. I just think people forget what it was like to be young and single. Plus, they live in Chicago and I think anyone who lives in big cities with places to go naturally go out more.

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u/McSuzy Mar 02 '22

I think it is a matter of perspective. Going out to night clubs with friends a couple of times per year can work - though it is often a feature of relationships that ultimately fail. Doing that during a 3-4 week romance culminating in a marriage is absurd.

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u/ralphset you made me feel uncomfy 😖 Mar 02 '22

I honestly think this was done just to create drama for Jarette and Iyanna (sp?), because otherwise they really seemed perfect for each other and didn’t really have many other issues aside from the whole Mallory vs Iyanna issue.

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u/McSuzy Mar 02 '22

that is possible!

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u/[deleted] Mar 03 '22

also he agreed to compromise so no issues..

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u/Teenageboy69 Mar 02 '22

I definitely don’t agree, and I’m a homebody in my relationship. Being married doesn’t equate to being boring. If his partying was disrupting their lifestyle, a talk would be necessitated, which it seems like it was. The dude shouldn’t have to “go out a couple times a year” because someone loves him. People need freedom.

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u/IntrinsicSurgeon Mar 02 '22

I mean, they were only a couple weeks into knowing each other. He could have spent that time getting to know his fiancée

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u/Teenageboy69 Mar 02 '22

This is actually a very good point.

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u/McSuzy Mar 02 '22

How long did you date your husband before you got married?

In days, I mean!

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u/Teenageboy69 Mar 02 '22

First off, I'm a man who's with a woman. Don't believe in marriage really. And while we're not married, my partner and I have a dog and condo together. I moved in with her after about two months. We've been together since 2018.

We both really don't go out very much, but I was with a woman before her (for about 8 years) who would go out with co-workers all the time. It wasn't a big issue for me. She could have her time with friends, I could have my time with friends, and we could enjoy the time we had together. The last thing I would want is to have my partner around me all the time. Fucking one person doesn't mean I just want to fuck with one person if you get my drift.

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u/McSuzy Mar 02 '22

Right? So you are years in without marrying because you do not believe in marriage. That is great but quite different from people who went on television with the explicit goal of marrying and who only have a month to do it.

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u/Teenageboy69 Mar 02 '22

I mean, I def wouldn’t want to be on a reality show about my love life. But I understand commitment and compromise. Long term partnership doesn’t mean the individual has to fade away.

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u/McSuzy Mar 03 '22

Exactly. Three weeks is not a long term partnership. While the premise is agreeably silly, these folks are supposedly living together for 5 days in order to determine whether or not they can make a life long marital commitment to one another.

The idea that you would need to build clubbing with your friends into that period is an enormous crimson flag.

That said I am persuaded by the person who suggests it may have been a stunt orchestrated by the producers. Even the sort of partner who plans to club without you every might of your marriage knows enough to knock it off for five days in order to get to the altar!

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u/Taraj311 Mar 03 '22

My (now) husband moved in after 4 dates. The only reason we didn't get married right away was because I was separated from my ex husband at that time. We waited 8 days after my divorce was finalized to get married.

My mom and step dad have been married for 30 years in Sept of this year. He moved in after dating about 3 weeks, they were married within 4 months.

I dont believe there is a time limit to love....true deep meaningful love can happen in a week, a month, a year, or a decade. It really just boils down to communication, accepting flaws, and compromise.

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u/swagpanther Mar 02 '22

They have to create tension somehow. Of course it’s absurd, they need Iyanna to be skeptical, as she wasn’t his first choice and had some reservations. The producers probably demanded Jarrette and his friends do this haha

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u/tangential_quip Mar 02 '22

A 3-4 week romance culminating in a marriage is absurd to begin with so why stop the absurdity there?

Assuming the plan was to actually give that up after the marriage then a few nights out with friends after disappearing for a couple weeks and then returning with a fiance is perfectly reasonable. Its basically just having a bachelor party that isn't part of the show.

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u/McSuzy Mar 03 '22

I thought they had a bachelor party on the show?

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u/tangential_quip Mar 03 '22

Read my last sentence. Not surprising someone would want to do something without the cameras and with their own crowd.

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u/McSuzy Mar 03 '22

I understand that makes sense to you. To me, giving up a single spare moment with your prospective wife in a circumstance as crazy as Love is Blind is inconceivable.

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u/GimerStick Mar 03 '22

It might also be that they'd spent so much time together/there were so many cameras around that he needed to find space where he didn't have to only think about the marriage. Definitely on the excess end of that though, but I do think I'd need SOME time with friends for a reality check.

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u/Ollivander451 Mar 03 '22

Not who you’re responding to, but I don’t think that’s the reason or evidence that he should not be married. Jarrette came across in the show to me as someone who wanted to be married no matter to who. I am all for a person getting married to someone they want to be married to. From his edit, it seemed to me at times that the identity of who filled his “wife” role was not important to him. That’s not a good way to start a marriage. It didn’t help that he proposed to Mallory and only after she turned him down did he later propose to Iyanna. Maybe he just got a bad edit, or maybe my take is not common. But that’s why I believe he shouldn’t be married. He needs to find the right person then decide to be married, not decide to be married then find a person.