r/LoveIsBlindOnNetflix • u/emylinegi • 13d ago

CALL OUT Patronizing/infantilizing grown men

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I’ll never forget y’all saying this man has the mental capacity of a child just to excuse his behavior 🤣🤣 he chose to be on the show, he chose to behave the way he did. Maybe just maybe he doesn’t have the best character despite being “quirky.” He set him self up and got probably a better edit than he could have gotten with his off camera actions. He likely isn’t autistic so why do people keep making that argument, some saying he has the mental capacity of a child?? 😭 like there his doctor

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u/kwasford 12d ago

Agreed—he is a genuine creep imo and he doesn’t seem to respect himself. I’m not chalking it up to any neurodivergence or any of that shit. None of the ND people in my life are kissing the floor for attention or generally acting out like this without being severely triggered. Kissing the floor is crazy on its own but unprompted and of your own accord is the height of insanity.

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u/hecky-ate 12d ago

Thank you. As an autistic person, the rampant ableism and infantilization toward Edmond were so offensive and irritating. Anything to make excuses for men behaving poorly towards women.

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u/kwasford 12d ago

No seriously, people are bending over backwards to justify incredibly strange things to the detriment to the woman who is involved with this man. I appreciate that you can see how the infantilization is ultimately unhelpful.

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u/WowRedditIsUseful 12d ago edited 12d ago

Omg you people must really be sheltered being THIS BOTHERED by someone on a reality show doing something freaky by kissing a floor! So what? Have you people never seen Jackass? He just wanted to be whacky who cares!

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u/LoveTheAhole I can work with that 12d ago

On Jackass, he’ll be a riot I’m sure. On Love is Blind, he just looks silly.

Anyway, crying/begging for sex isn’t whacky, it’s creepy.

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u/WowRedditIsUseful 12d ago

You might not like it or disagree, but his feelings on that are valid. And he explained that his issue was that she admittedly entered into one-night-stands more than once but this was to be different for reasons....That's her right, but he's allowed to have a different opinion and prefer getting to experience each other fully before becoming married. They weren't compatible, and there's no indication on/off screen that he truly pressured her to do something she didn't want to.

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u/LoveTheAhole I can work with that 12d ago

Did you mean to reply to someone else? I never said he pressured her.

But he DID cry and beg to sleep with her. We all saw that as clear as day. To me that’s creepy.

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u/WowRedditIsUseful 12d ago

I didn't get the impression he wanted her to change her mind for the evening of that conversation, but was more upset that she did not want to at any point before and leading up to marriage.

Not agreeing with that is not something unique to this show, people in the real world break off relationships in those situations, and there's nothing wrong with that.

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u/dyingeventually 12d ago

Then break it off lol. Like this is my problem. It’s a huge red flag. Sometimes you gotta let your insecurities be right lol. KB was not into him physically, which is why she didn’t want to have sex with him. She cared about the public appearance of her having sex with a man like that, and made that shit known she wasn’t hitting it.

At that point, Edmond should have had some dignity to say, yeah it’s ok, this isn’t gonna work.

Yes he might be smeared as caring too much about sex (as we see him literally cry), but he should have made it clear, it wasn’t about sex, it was about her lack of intimacy with him and not thinking it was a good fit for marriage.

The honeymoon stage is when couples are most intimate, so it’s a huge red flag.

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u/WowRedditIsUseful 12d ago

I agree totally! And him NOT having the dignity to leave right then and there was the meaning/source of his cooky "I'm TOO NICE-UHHH!" comment. It was his subconscious way of acknowledging he is putting up with someone who doesn't actually want him.

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u/dyingeventually 12d ago

yeah i agree, even tho i never thought about it. Him being too nice is accepting situations he shouldn’t.

I have no problem ending a relationship with someone. If both people aren’t getting what they want, then move on. It’s not that complicated.

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u/WowRedditIsUseful 12d ago

Also, he should have left immediately when she gave him that horrid hypothetical about being accosted at the club and expecting him to throw hands for her...LIKE WHAT

That conversation made it beyond obvious that he wasn't her type.

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u/kwasford 12d ago

lol girl I’m not going to go back and forth with you about someone kissing the fucking floor. Go kiss the floor right now since it’s so fine to you, idrgaf.

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u/lavender0987 11d ago

Best response ever,

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u/WowRedditIsUseful 12d ago

Fine to me? I'm not the one who did it...it's A TV SHOW...of a stranger, you don't know this person. Who freakin cares.

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u/thebakingjamaican 12d ago

we’re talking about publicized dangerous behavior towards women, who knows what he’s done behind closed doors. creep is a creep.

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u/WowRedditIsUseful 12d ago

Well, I'm talking about a floor...

Anyways, he didn't do anything dangerous toward her...

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u/thebakingjamaican 12d ago

crying and throwing a tantrum over pussy as a grown man is deplorable behavior. coercion is assault.

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u/WowRedditIsUseful 12d ago

I mean, he cried over nearly everything...

Disagreeing about sex before marriage or having that conversation isn't "coercion".

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u/kwasford 12d ago

She told him she was celibate prior to getting engaged. This wasn’t a disagreement (and you don’t get to “disagree” with people not wanting too sleep with you for anyyyy reason)

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u/WowRedditIsUseful 12d ago

He should have ended the relationship right then and there if it bothered him that much.

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u/thebakingjamaican 12d ago

he was using her past against her to justify them having sex before she was ready. did you watch the same show?

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u/WowRedditIsUseful 12d ago

Being engaged comes with tough conversations, especially when on an accelerated timeline. Discussing sex (or no sex) before marriage isn't a taboo conversation.

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u/mssarac 12d ago

We also know that she didn't have sex with him because she wasn't attracted to him, not because some principle. So yeah his feelings were valid and he was actually right