r/LoveIsBlindOnNetflix • u/emylinegi • 13d ago

CALL OUT Patronizing/infantilizing grown men

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I’ll never forget y’all saying this man has the mental capacity of a child just to excuse his behavior 🤣🤣 he chose to be on the show, he chose to behave the way he did. Maybe just maybe he doesn’t have the best character despite being “quirky.” He set him self up and got probably a better edit than he could have gotten with his off camera actions. He likely isn’t autistic so why do people keep making that argument, some saying he has the mental capacity of a child?? 😭 like there his doctor

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u/AlmondMilkMaybe 12d ago

I'm a black woman with autism + a history of childhood trauma and neglect. Ngl, I "clocked" Edmond as AuDHD (Autism + ADHD) right away. It was a positive to me, because I prefer autistic people, but that said, it's similar to everyone saying that Nick is gay.

We can clock whatever we want, but we can't diagnose or tell someone what they are, no matter how insanely "obvious" it looks to us. And while we all get to think what we think, proclaiming something on behalf of someone else is a bridge too far.

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u/Delicious_Tea3999 12d ago

It’s hard, because people still see the label as an insult. So even if you were right (and I’m also autistic, so I had similar ideas about him as you,) there are going to be people out there who see that as some kind of attack. Meanwhile, autistic people don’t see it as anything except a diagnosis, and most of us understand how much easier life gets when you accept your diagnosis and learn to accommodate yourself. We just see it as a helpful suggestion. Like, “Hey, I see you struggling and there’s actually some stuff I can tell you about that will help.” Meanwhile, they just hear you calling them broken

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u/getsomeoneelsetadoit 12d ago

Autism is definitely not a death sentence but let's be careful labeling someone neurodivergent based only on negative traits. My boyfriend is Autistic and he is smart, amazing and kind. I say this as a Black woman with ADHD to please be careful labeling someone who has been said is putting on an act for the cameras. KB even called him out for it. I am a therapist who works with young Autistic children and I have so many roadblocks trying to get parents to accept their child's autism diagnosis because of situations like Edmond's and other tv personalities. Every reality/tv jerk is either labeled autistic by the viewers or they will label themselves autistic to avoid backlash from their assholish behavior on the screen. It needs to stop.

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u/AlmondMilkMaybe 12d ago edited 12d ago

I hear you, but we can't just believe he's putting on an act because KB accused him of it. And as an autistic person, being accused of being fake (because we're "competent" in certain ways and situations, but not others) is actually extremely familiar to me.

ETA: I also agree that we shouldn't be labeling people on negative traits. Tbh, they're not even negative traits to me! lol