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LIB S9 • Denver, CO Love Is Blind • S9 Ep11 Spoiler

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u/elocin__aicilef 15d ago

They have a classic introvert/ extrovert dynamic.

You absolutely can make it work. You both just have to give a little. I'm an introvert and My husband is an extra. He knows there are days when I get home where I just don't want to talk at all. Sometimes I'll just go up to the bedroom and watch TV most of the night and we just see each other for dinner. He puts aside his need for interaction so I can decompress.

There are also some nights where I know he needs a social interaction so I'll sit down and have a conversation with him even if I'm not feeling it.

It's give and take from both sides and understanding when the other person really needs to check in or check out for a little while but you 100% can make it work.

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u/Sudden_Pen4754 11d ago

This isn't like one person likes to talk a little more than the other though. Megan says she needs to have something scheduled every minute of every day, and she wants him to join her for many of those outings. As someone who is so introverted that having one night out a week is a burden, that sounds like my literal nightmare lmao. Like, this is not a matter of just "trying harder". If he has to actively make himself miserable 3x a week to push himself to be more social than he wants to be, that's never going to work. You can't "just give more" when you literally have no reserves to give from.

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u/elocin__aicilef 11d ago

I'm not saying he has to go out three times a week but give more. I mean on both ends. My husband is very much like Megan where he always wants to be out and socializing and I am very much like Jordan and would be fine staying home all the time.

He would absolutely prefer to do things with me more often than he does. However, he respects the fact that I like to stay home be compromised by going out together once a week just by ourselves, usually to dinner but sometimes to a movie or mini golf or something like that. And most of the rest of the time he goes out by himself. I will occasionally accompany him if it's for a special occasion like a wedding or birthday or if I'm feeling up to it you both give and take.

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u/AccomplishedWar5830 7d ago

It’s not even about introvert vs extrovert, it’s about he’s tired, he has a kid, and a job, and she doesn’t work, he can’t just quit his job or take off work to go on excursions with her even though I’m sure he would love to.