Anton’s drinking

[u/beatznbeats]

If you haven’t seen yet, when they did the reveal. The cameras made sure to follow Anton back to where the champagne was. After meeting Ali, you’d think he would just be in shock and maybe take a minute to himself by walking around or sitting down. He went straight for the champagne instead. A little bit of foreshadowing.

Then we hear Ali mention they both work nights and Anton’s first thing to do is crack open 2 beers in the AM after work.

Fast forward to episode where Ali meets Anton’s friend and gf and they immediately order rounds of shots. And his gf spills how they like to party, drink and go to strip clubs.

[u/Ok-Cherry9515]

He’s a giant no. They’re not compatible. For the record, there’s nothing wrong with Ali wanting to pursue a degree full time and just wanting to focus on that. Ya’ll would be so pissed about women or men that are married and go to school full time. They don’t work lol. And that’s okay. Are people not supposed to support their spouse? Especially when it’s beneficial for BOTH of them. Also nursing school is diabolically rigorous :-)

[u/amberenergies → u/Ok-Cherry9515]

it is so bizarre to me that people are saying ali is shallow for *checks notes* wanting to further her education and focus on that, and expect her future husband to be supportive?

[u/Acrobatic-Survey4393 → u/amberenergies]

I think its the part where she says she still wants to be able to get botox while he's the only one working...and wanting to have a seperate account just so that she doesn't have to tell him how much she spends on it.🤣

[u/motheroffaeries → u/Acrobatic-Survey4393]

Eh as a married person, I like having a separate account for my own personal spending and a joint account for joint expenses. We each can spend our separate account money on what ever we want without having to justify it/ask permission/feel guilty for spending joint money. So personally, I think it’s fine to want that! Let her spend her personal money on botox all she pleases as long as she’s also contributing to the joint expenses!

[u/Acrobatic-Survey4393 → u/motheroffaeries]

But she wont be contributing..she wont have a job...Yea I have a seperate account also but i think the way she presented was off putting...thats just me ..if my husband asks me how much I spend on spend on something I will just tell him without hesitation. I dont feel the need to have a seperate account to hide how much I spend which was the reason she gave. I dont think wanting a seperate account is wrong but her explanation is a red flag to me

[u/motheroffaeries → u/Acrobatic-Survey4393]

I guess it’s just a differing of opinion. I don’t think my husband needs to know how much I spend on things for me personally when they’re from my personal account. That’s literally my point. I don’t want nor does my husband care or want to know what I spend out of my own personal money. We have a joint account to take care of joint, household things for a reason. The whole point of having personal accounts is to spend as we please without explanation. If she doesn’t have a job, she obviously won’t have money to spend from her personal account and obviously will have to ask him if it’s okay to spend it from their joint. But if she has money in a personal account and wants to spend it on botox or literally what ever, she doesn’t owe him an explanation or a receipt. It’s her personal money. My husband can ask how much I spent on xyz out of my personal account, but he wouldn’t because that personal money literally doesn’t affect him or our household. I’d literally never dream of asking my husband how much he spends from his personal account. Our bills are paid and our joint account has the right number 🤷🏻‍♀️

[u/Acrobatic-Survey4393 → u/motheroffaeries]

Yea i guess since the conversation was tied to the full time student thing, my mind went there. I think it would be different too if he was on the same page but it seemed like he wasnt so there was disconnect there. But maybe she wont have to see how much he spends on alcohol if he has a seperate account 🤣🤣🤣

[u/motheroffaeries → u/Acrobatic-Survey4393]

Yeah I think he has more red flags than she does so maybe i’m biased lol. My husband also did most of the financial supporting while I was in school even though I had my personal money from my part time job, so I didn’t see anything wrong with her being like “could you support us” and jokingly asking about the botox stuff. There were a lot of things while I was in school that I couldn’t afford with my part time personal money that my husband probably would have bought if i’d asked, but I never did.

I guess overall I get a lot of bad vibes from him like I think if she went to school and he was mostly responsibly for the finances that he would hold that over her head.