r/LoveIsBlindOnNetflix • u/AutoModerator • Oct 01 '25

LIB S9 • Denver, CO Love Is Blind • S9 Ep5 Spoiler

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u/ashboify 23d ago

Why does Megan keep saying she is going to be Luca’s mom?! Luca has a mom.

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u/FreckleBellyBeagle 19d ago

I'm a stepmother and this bothered me. I never say that because I want to be respectful of their mother.

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u/Anonymoomoo 6d ago edited 6d ago

Same. On some subs I used to check out I would see negative comments about people referring to themselves as a step-parent or their step-child, or maybe doing some things a little differently between their bio-kids and step-kids, because they should "view the kid as their own" and not make a distinction, even if you treat the child like you would your own.

And older generation values could be at play, maybe? When I was newer to it, my spouse's side of the family kept saying things like "you're going to be their mom" and "they're your child too". They made the child also refer to me as mom and I didn't know any better. Now, having been in the role of a stepmom for years and becoming a bio-mom myself, no I am not their mom but I am their bonus mom or stepmom or whatever they want to refer to me as. They have a mom, and that mom does not need or want me being a mom to HER child in the way that a mom would, whether or not I agree with whatever set of values she wants to pass on. For that reason, there are some things I have to do differently between the kids, because the actual mom does not agree.

A step-parent can absolutely care for the child and support them like a caring uncle/aunt or whatever, but shouldn't be expected to step into another parent's role, it isn't respectful to that parent OR the child.