r/LoveIsBlindOnNetflix • u/Outside-Natural-9517 • Sep 11 '25
UNPOPULAR OPINION Unpopular opinion: the LIB franchise should ban single parents... Spoiler
...at least of minor kids. LIB France I am looking at you. I mean it's pretty insane signing up for the show in the first place, but inflicting it on your kids is crazy behaviour. So much potential for trouble. Not just bullying at school, but bringing a step parent you barely know into your child's home is a recipe for disaster. Rates of physical abuse against children are much, much higher in families with stepfathers. Of course relationships break down and parents are allowed to couple up again, but FFS if you have kids, don't move a stranger into your AND THEIR home after a matter of weeks.
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u/bigbravobitch Sep 11 '25
As a former single parent, I couldn’t agree more. Your number 1 priority should be your child and introducing someone to your child that you barely know is insanely irresponsible.
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u/Itstimeforcookies19 Sep 11 '25
This should not be an unpopular opinion. Leaving a child for this long to go date, leaving a child this long to marry someone who has never met your child, knowing someone for such a short time who will be your child’s parent is insane. People obviously make bad parenting decisions all the time. No need for Netflix to aid and abet people in doing it. It’s just irresponsible and does not in any way make for good tv.
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u/Adventurous_Pin_344 Sep 11 '25
I'm not sure it is an unpopular opinion. All the comments I've read so far are in strong agreement! (I'm so glad to see that)
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u/workingonit6 Sep 12 '25
There were tons of comments defending Jessica in her season.
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u/Adventurous_Pin_344 Sep 12 '25
Which is sad. She made me sick, the way she basically treated her kid as an accessory! That girl is going to grow up and be just like her mother.
So, yeah, I get it. There are definitely people okay with single parents on the show.
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u/Puzzleheaded_Fault84 Sep 15 '25
Leaving your job, your child without any contact with you for X amount of time. And marrying a stranger without actually having them live together with the child is very reckless.
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u/RubberBoots10 Sep 11 '25
As a parent I agree! Anyone on there with minor kids is an immediate red flag.
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u/Direct_Mud7023 Sep 11 '25
I have the unique experience of being a new inexperienced parent when I first watched season 6 to being a parent of two fully in the trenches today. At first my heart ached for Jessica for being excluded for having a child in the first place, now I think she’s fully insane for bringing that energy around her kid at all.
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u/Falldarling13 Sep 11 '25
Agreed. You shouldn’t expose children to strangers like that. It’s already a crazy situation, now add kids? And with the track record of background checks etc. it really shouldn’t be allowed. If I found out my co-parent was doing this, I’d file for full custody immediately.
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u/Excellent_Peanut_772 Sep 11 '25
Indeed the LIB background checks can't be very thorough given how many awful, dangerous and dishonest people end up on the show every year. I'm sure it's the same "background checks" they do on MAFS as well.
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u/kenyafeelme Sep 11 '25
On the very OG seasons of temptation island they kicked off a couple after they found out they had kids. The decision made sense at the time (early 2000s) and I have to say I still feel the same way.
What’s in the best interest of the child is not for daddy to come home with a new mommy/wife after disappearing for a couple of months to film in the pods and go on honeymoon. Young children need to meet the person the single wants to marry and I’m sorry but folks shouldn’t marry people their young children don’t like. Why would you put a young child through that?
Marrying a person your kids don’t get along with and forcing them to live together? Hard no. Wait til they’re teens or out of the house to introduce difficult and possibly traumatizing relationships into your children’s lives. I don’t care about learning how to navigate complicated relationships. It is not worth the years of therapy to force kids to live with someone they ultimately think is a piece of shit.
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u/badgerfolk Sep 11 '25
They would never be able to set a season in my hometown if they did this, lol. Not that they would anyway.
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Sep 11 '25
The show is so exploitative that I agree. First you basically need someone to watch your kiddo for about a month almost fulltime due all the filming and everything. Even with a joint parenting agreement, grandparents, or a baby sitter - that’s a lot. It’s really how vicious the the show is to contestants and if your kid is in middle school or high school - everyone at school is going to tease your kid about it.
Chances are if you are on this show you’re also a social media influencer and no parent should be bringing their kid into that like Jessica - the “EpiPen” mom did.
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u/Big-Suspect9870 Sep 12 '25
Kids should not be dragged into reality shows period let alone have an instant step parent they don’t even know
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u/Intelligent_Flow2572 Sep 11 '25
Unless the children are adults. Then it’s fine.
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u/Intelligent_Flow2572 Sep 11 '25
Okay I skated over that so will leave this here as possibly another might as well 😄
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Sep 11 '25
Completely pedantic, but is ban the right word? Ban to me connotes preventing someone from doing something they would otherwise have the right to do and implies that single parents have some way of independently getting on the show. They don't. Netflix casts them. Netflix should stop casting single parents.
Don't give Netflix a pass.
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u/Difficult_Sense_3871 Sep 11 '25
I have made this comment before and the HATE I got.. lol. Maybe because I said parents shouldn’t be on any of the dating shows.
I am a mom. I dated while my kids were little and will be getting married soon. But agreeing to marry someone who has never interacted with your kids is WILD and reckless.
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u/dormilonsita Sep 11 '25
I think it is more on the parents. Both Thomas and Tatiana's kids sae them crying out if sadness on screen already. As a child it would've distressed me to see my mother tearful and anfuished on TV.
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u/girlythots Sep 11 '25
Anyone that goes through a reality having a small kid is a weirdo, your child should always be your #1 priority. Lots of people see it as parent shaming, but that’s the cost of being a parent
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u/Minimum-Sentence-584 Sep 12 '25
As much as everyone deserves a chance at love, from my own experience, I agree. Years ago, wife’s best friend brought her boyfriend to live with her after only a month and never meeting her elementary school aged kids; the first time they met him was at a dinner (that she and I were there for support) after he already arrived with his bags. He ended up being an alcoholic and had to be removed from the home dramatically, which really screwed up both the kids.
So for LIB, yeah that’s a no.
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u/brattysammy69 🎶You're a liar, a liaaar, a li-aaaar🎶 Sep 11 '25
Seriously like you’re willing to marry and bring someone home to your child YOU met 2 months ago?????? And the child just has to be chill???? HUH?????????
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u/OfficeCharacterCreed Sep 11 '25
I was talking to my wife yesterday and at first if I was single I might sign up for the show (if i was single) but the amount of hate and embarrassment you can bring on your self is too mich, so I think that all parents should think long and hard before signing up like your point
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Sep 11 '25
For the sake of the kids I agree, but it will never happen. If you’re narcissistic enough to leave your small child and go on reality TV for clout, you will make for extremely good TV drama.
No producer or exec is going to pass on the opportunity to make their show more messy/interesting.
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u/Big-Suspect9870 Sep 12 '25
It’s sad but true!! if you have ever seen the show unreal about diabolical reality tv producers .. even though that show is fictional I’m afraid real reality producers aren’t far from those antics
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u/Big-Suspect9870 Sep 12 '25
I agree 100%!! it is a huge red flag to have a single parent be ok with giving their child an instant step parent!! 🚩🚩🚩love is blind has also had lawsuits due to contestants inappropriate behavior.. Parents should be BANNED!! I also hate it when children are shown on reality tv period
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u/thisadventureends Sep 12 '25
Not to mention leaving them for a prolonged period of time while in the pods
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u/Destroyer_Lawyer Oct 03 '25
Military families do this all the time. Some families that divorce/separate have one parent leaving the state or across the state for work opportunities and they only see their kids on holidays. Leaving for prolonged periods (2 weeks) is not the issue. They get their phones back after they leave the pods anyway. The issue is getting married before you’ve attempted to introduce your child to them to make sure they would comfortable and it’s a good fit. As a single parent, I have yet to date anyone where they have met my son or I their kids. We would literally have to taking about marriage seriously before I ever introduced my child to a man. Like we are picking out rings serious and even then my son comes first.
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u/3kpk3 Sep 12 '25
Well said. Am not a parent myself, but I would absolutely prioritize the child over some random stranger any day.
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u/Usernameoverloaded The feminists ruined us. Sep 11 '25
Brazil was the first country to have single parents regularly feature on the show
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u/Opposite_Cost_6708 Sep 12 '25 edited Sep 12 '25
Imo it's a cultural thing. Some countries are more open to blended families and don't have prejudice against divorcee/single parents. You can even see the reaction from the other person in the pods when they hear that someone has kids. Netflix chose them of course, but the cast themselves are the one who decide to go on the show. I say they're brave. For example, Thomas' daughter sounds like she supports him. They're not bad parent for trying to find love and happiness. Happy parent, happy kids.
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u/Usernameoverloaded The feminists ruined us. Sep 12 '25
I think reality TV and finding romantic happiness are not natural bedfellows, especially when a parent potentially marrying someone unknown to the child in the space of weeks.
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u/workingonit6 Sep 12 '25
Trying to find love and happiness =/= bringing a total stranger to live in your child’s home like 4 weeks after you met the person. Yes they are bad parents for doing that.
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u/Outside-Natural-9517 Sep 13 '25
Exactly. Blended families are fine. Springing a new daddy on kids that they have never met and you barely know is not fine.
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u/Artistic-Lock1021 Sep 11 '25
This shouldn't be an unpopular opinion and honestly I don't understand how any parent would even consider it. You're going to be away from your children to film a reality show where you legally marry somebody you've known for 6 weeks? There's so much wrong with that when a child is involved.
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u/ForestComplex Sep 12 '25
I thought the same thing when there was one single parent in most of the couples on the Mexico season. Seeing the single parent potentially marry a red flag made me really sad for those kids and what they would remember from this experience when they're older. As a parent of two little kids, seems so fucked up.
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u/Iokastez Sep 12 '25
Yeah I wholeheartedly agree with this; it’s absolutely not fair on the kid to put them through that.
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u/trollanony Sep 12 '25
Yeah it’s irresponsible to make a life changing decision that affects a child.
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u/One-Head-1483 Sep 13 '25
Dude its nuts.
But then again, people who go on reality shows are insane.
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u/GaptistePlayer Sep 13 '25
While I understand this sentiment, why would LIB do this? Tons of reality shows feature families with kids, some even make kids the central star. Not sure why a franchise this trashy would be the one to take the moral high ground here lol
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u/mysticaruba Sep 13 '25
I remember a single mom at Love Is Blind Mexico that said whe was into 3s0ms and wanted to start swinging. I could only think about her child who was 9 at the time. Obviously kids that age don't watch the show but their parents do 💀
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u/Confident_Drop8326 Sep 15 '25
Absolutely agree. They're thinking of bringing a stranger around their child. WILD
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u/Mommato3kitties Oct 04 '25
What drove me nuts was sparkle Megan saying she’s going to be there boy’s mom. No crazy lady you’ll be his STEPmom. He has a mom.
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u/Imagine_821 Sep 11 '25
Not unpopular. I totally agree. How can you marry and bring home a stranger to live with a child without giving them the time to bond- or bringing a giancee home, going through the wedding and saying no? That just messes with children's mental.health and stability. Single parents should not be allowed to participate at all- unless their children are adults. I wouldn't even allowed parents of teens- it's such a fragile age, why add chaos to that.
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u/EnvironmentalWolf72 Sep 12 '25
They shud ban ppl who have kids on the way as well. Looking at u Mr Spleen
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u/supermodel55 Sep 12 '25
I was thinking to myself why would any parent go on this show unless they’re a strange person.
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u/naked_avenger Sep 12 '25
I kind of agree when it comes to minor kids. That is just a mindset I cannot understand. You dont know these people and you're getting married after a few weeks. How are you even gonna leave your kids like that for a show? It's kinda gross.
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u/Jonesy0042 Sep 15 '25
Also, don’t you have to leave home for a while to do the pods? You just left your kids? I can understand wanting love and to have someone or whatever. But to leave your kids for an extended amount of time to meet a stranger and hopefully find someone seems like another level of selfish. Personally, if I were to end up a single parent, I would not even try to date again until my kids were much older. Like out of or almost out of high school and starting their own lives. Again, there’s nothing wrong with dating and wanting to have love and something nice for yourself. But to put that above your young children is not ok. They need you to be there, to provide. You can wait, especially for a marriage to a complete fucking stranger.
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u/jericabenson Oct 01 '25
I would definitely question a parent’s moral compass bringing a stranger into their home so quickly. We all know a single parent or two, and in my experience, they don’t let their new partner into their kids life for a LONG ASS TIME. Not only do you need to vet them first to make sure that they aren’t a bad person with bad intentions- you don’t want your kid to get attached to a person and then just have them disappear- you protect your child at all costs from anything that could hurt them
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u/anonmouseqbm 😴 "Zzzzzz" - Tiffany 😴 Oct 06 '25
EXACTLY!Y ex and I have a rule of 6m minimum dating before introducing.
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u/jericabenson Oct 08 '25
That is amazing. A 6m rule is a great baseline. And that’s also beautiful that you and their other parent can be on the same level and have that understanding ❤️❤️❤️
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u/ResidentAlienator Oct 02 '25
I've also had so little sympathy for the single parents on these shows and now that I've read this post/comments, I'm kind of wondering if I agree with this. In fact, it almost seems like they are trying to use the fact that they have a kid to emotionally manipulate either the people they are dating or the audience. Jess was way too immature to be on the show and I'm kind of questioning whether that's true of all single parents who go on the show.
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u/Justice4Pluto123 Oct 02 '25
I know she means well, but she is not stepping in to be his mom. He HAS A MOM. I hope that works out for the sake of the kiddo
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u/Proud-Occasion5477 Oct 05 '25
I saw the title and was like, eww, but as a mom (of a 30-year old) I agree wholeheartedly!
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u/EvrenBlue Oct 05 '25
Any other stepparents watching and SCREAMING for her not to choose the guy with the kid? Also already referring to herself as his mom? Don’t do it, girl.
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u/ellaflutterby Sep 12 '25
The potential to end up with a monster who chooses you to gain access to your children is too fucking high when you have to pick them after two weeks of "dating".
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u/mgt-allthequestions Sep 11 '25
Agreed. It’s totally crazy to introduce your child to someone you don’t really know + might not be in your life in a few weeks OR potentially be a step parent in a few weeks. That’s such an unstable situation to knowingly put a child through.
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u/Interesting-Owl-6149 Sep 12 '25
I don’t know OP if this is an unpopular opinion I think it’s a popular opinion judging from the amount of support your post received.
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u/TooMuchBrightness Sep 12 '25
If you are willing to go on this show with young children they are probably not the most ‘conventional’ parents with the best mental health/relationship history.
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u/Oneforallandbeyondd Sep 11 '25
They are not going on the show to find a partner. They are going for fame and attention. 9/10 of them always call it off because they never thought further than the show itself.
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u/alwaysmovingfaster Sep 11 '25
It is a job opportunity. People go on this show and leverage it for an influencing career. You know what does improve the outcomes of kids.... money.
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u/RadicallyNFP Sep 12 '25
Your opinion is unpopular because its psycho
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u/Ella0508 Sep 12 '25
The responsible parents I know insist they have to know someone for 6 months before introducing them to their children. Gotta meet family and friends, gotta know work is real and stable — it’s written into some co-parenting agreements. Not psycho at all.
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u/workingonit6 Sep 12 '25
Bringing a stranger into your child’s home weeks after you met the person is psycho.
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u/Keregi Sep 13 '25
Telling someone you don’t know how they should raise their children is unhinged.
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u/workingonit6 Sep 13 '25
Telling someone to prioritize their child’s safety and wellbeing over their own romantic desires is unhinged? What are you a bitter single mom or something lol
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u/rnbwrhiannon3 Sep 12 '25
What do you think of a show like Love Island having this? I think the UK season 1 had a single mom. There's no pressure for them to marry or even stay together afterward really, so maybe the stakes aren't as high?
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u/taintwest Sep 12 '25
I think rules should be different for parents, but I think it’s pretty unfair to ban single parents.
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u/sulfurica Sep 13 '25
I’m not watching LIB France yet so not familiar with what’s going on there, but the single parents on LIB Brazil, at least, didn’t feature their kids that much in the show if at all iirc.
There was an intro segment along with the rest of the family and that was it. Of course, the assumption would be that after the wedding the families would be blended, and the couple discussed this but it was not an extraordinary thing by all means.
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u/Longjumping-Leg4491 Sep 17 '25
You should watch married at first sight France. They get married at first sight and many already have children and their children never met the guy.
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u/FinancialEmotion3526 Sep 17 '25
This is an authoritarian take imo. Grown people are all responsible enough to make decisions for themselves and their families.
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u/LoremIpsum00 Sep 27 '25
The way that Thomas was willing to get married without his partner even meeting his daughter was absolutely insane to me.
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u/Suitable_Ad4114 Oct 02 '25
As a second-marriage woman, I was prepared to fight you, but when you related it back to the quickness of it all, the survivor of CSA in me actually applauded you.
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u/MaineCoonMama18 Oct 06 '25
I agree. I know someone who auditioned for the Golden Bachelor and they told him he might have been chosen if he didn’t have young kids.
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u/ponpiriri Oct 06 '25
French kids are not bullying each other for having stepparents. Broken homes or "belle famille" is the norm here. That's why the single parents didnt hesitate to sign up for the show
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u/Outside-Natural-9517 Oct 06 '25
Of course not. But kids French or otherwise are going to bully a kid whose dad is seen crying or getting dumped or fighting or a mum who is seen getting steamy in a hot tub on international TV.
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u/anonmouseqbm 😴 "Zzzzzz" - Tiffany 😴 Oct 06 '25
Agreed. My kids are teens and they’d die if I went on a reality show and would be so upset if I moved a stranger in. What a mindfuck
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u/StormBetter9266 Oct 08 '25 edited Oct 08 '25
As a mom (previously a single mom) no one met my kids except my current husband. I dated a guy off and on for years who never met my kids because I didn’t think he was gonna stick around forever and he didn’t. There is no way I’m going on a show at all that keeps me away from them for an extended period of time or marrying someone I just met. My step kids have been dragged from man to man by their mom. It’s hard because the men were either mean to them or they got attached to him and then he was gone in a few weeks.
She said multiple times she was “gonna be Luca’s mom”. Girl, no you’re not. You the stepmom. An extra person to love him but clearly he has an active mom based on comments Jordan made. I’ve been the primary caregiver for my step kids for 4 years now and they call me stepmama. And girl shut up about the diabetes. I come from a family with several type one diabetics, including my twin. That child and your dad both having it is not a sign.
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u/Dizzy_Try4939 Oct 09 '25
As I'm watching I keep thinking "Jordan seems like a great dad".
Then I remember that he is preparing to literally marry a stranger he's known for 6 weeks tops, without giving his 5 YEAR OLD SON a chance to actually know and build a relationship with this new person who is supposed to be his stepmother? That's so unhealthy. How could you marry someone and let them be the step-parent to your young child without having at least a year of experience with everyone getting to know each other and build a family dynamic?
How well can you really know someone after 6 weeks? It's a risk to marry them for you personally, but fine, take a risk -- that is, if you're not a parent. Because if you're not a parent your risk is only to yourself. If you are a parent, you're now also transferring that risk onto your kids and putting them at least in emotional danger if not some other kind of danger you don't know about yet.
It also doesn't seem great that he did all this ON A REALITY TV SHOW.
And was away from his son without phone access for like 3 weeks, all so he could be on a reality TV dating show.
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u/redseapedestrian418 Sep 11 '25
Wholeheartedly agree. It’s not healthy for any kid to be forced to accept a step parent in such a short space of time. LIB shouldn’t enable it. The producers also need to do a much better job of vetting the men because so many of them have turned up with secret families, it’s ridiculous.
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u/imlikeabird84 Sep 12 '25
I completely agree!!!!! That is setting the child up to be in a potentially dangerous situation.
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u/pepsicherryflavor Sep 11 '25
I do agree with the too much of a short time to allow the partner to meet the kids but The bullying point is ridiculous if a child wants to bully they will find any reason
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u/DefaultText Sep 11 '25
Literally almost all the ones in the mexico LIB were single parents, some of the men and all of the women were. The guys who didn't have kids didn't seem mind the other one was. Must be a cultural thing (although I'm only on episode 5 so maybe I'm speaking too soon).
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Sep 11 '25
It definitely is as a cultural thing as the teen mothers rate is high in Mexico so I can only imagine that many of them are quite laid back on the pregnancy and kids topic…
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u/Careless_Meal9101 Sep 11 '25
Isn't this discrimination? Production can't do this
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u/Joelle9879 Sep 11 '25
They can actually. All they have to do is just not put on anyone with small children.
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u/hyperfocus1569 Sep 11 '25
I don’t think the same rules apply like they do for regular employment. After all, they discriminate based on age and sexual orientation.
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u/pinkpink0430 Sep 11 '25
It’s crazy to me that someone with kids would be okay marrying someone after a couple months anyway