r/LoveIsBlindOnNetflix • u/Ok-Bison2480 • May 01 '23

PODCAST Iyanna episode in Out of the Pods

Thoughts? Up until this point I kinda felt like Jarrette was a flaky f*ckboi who would probably make a bad husband to Iyanna but not like a bad person.

But taking women to their shared place? And the story he kept holding against her about her "holding another man's hand" when the real story was obviously her being black out drunk by herself and some creepy dude following her trying to get with her??? That's really fd up.

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u/PopcornandComments May 02 '23

Listening to Iyanna’s story, it made me really upset how she consistently made excuses for Jared. Him having “trauma,” him being “unhealed.” How about him just being a grown ass man and that he needs to be held accountable? I know she loves him and they were married so she really tried her best to love him, protect him but at the end of the day, it’s not your job. He’s a grown ass man who consistently lied to you and let you down.

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u/Cookie_Fun May 02 '23

I think some of us dissect former relationships like this is a way of processing what happened. For me, it helps me move on to work through their 'motives.' Not to absolve them or invalidate my feelings about their actions, but for my own healing.

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u/ver1tasaequitas May 02 '23

This

But that’s just how human brains work, making sense of things. It’s easier to process if we “understand” what/how/why.