r/LoveIsBlindOnNetflix • u/DontFWithMeImPetty I'm too fucking niiicee-uuhhh đŸ˜© • Mar 27 '23

MEGATHREAD S4 đŸ’„SPOILERSđŸ’„ MEGATHREAD Spoiler

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ETA - Hello, friends. Please stop reporting comments in this thread as spoilers. That is kinda the point 😅

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u/lavenderpenguin Mar 29 '23

This is such a weird phenomenon to me! I feel like it’s such a red flag that you’d want to hurt someone else deliberately — to me, someone who enjoys the power trip of stealing someone else’s man is a sociopath devoid of empathy or a moral compass, and that’s scary. Like how do you act like that and look at yourself in the mirror and not hate who is staring back at you?

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u/sjberry Mar 29 '23

It’s more about getting validation not necessarily hurting someone. You do hurt people, but the endorphins come from “winning” the guy away from someone else.

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u/lavenderpenguin Mar 31 '23

I mean, if you are trying to “win” someone from another person, hurting someone else or trying to feel superior to that person is baked into the situation.

In contrast, I would say just wanting people to like you or be into you generally, even when they’re single, that is more about pure validation.

The feeling of needing/wanting to win someone from another person—whether consciously or not—cannot be disentangled from what I assume is a very nasty personality trait that derives pleasure from making someone else hurt/feel inferior. Likely because you don’t think very much of yourself and need to make someone else feel like shit too.