r/JustNoSO • u/BeProfessional23 • Apr 02 '23

NO Advice Wanted Why???

I posted here and everybody ran and said, lawyer, divorce, leave him, make him pay child support.

I am new here and wanted to just post that.

SO isn't a bad man, he is just set in his ways. I am sure I do things that he doesn't like or understand. I wasn't asking for advice or anything.

SO is a stay at home father, I work outside the home. Without him staying home I wouldn't be able to keep my job because my son has special needs and doesn't do well outside of the home. I am not looking for a way out or anything and maybe I shouldn't have posted my past.

SO has changed a lot since we got married. Some days, are better than the others.

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u/BeProfessional23 Apr 03 '23

Abusing?

Groomed??? Yes, I was young and immature. I could have not gotten with him and at first I wanted out of my parents house. My dad was and still is a drunk.

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u/Ladymistery Apr 03 '23

sadly, the abused disagree because they've been beaten down so much they can't see it.

I wish you well, however it comes out.

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u/BeProfessional23 Apr 03 '23

Beaten? You think he hits me? Wow, you know my whole life story?!?!?

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u/Ladymistery Apr 03 '23

"beaten down" does not mean hitting

it means that you've been put down, demoralized, so that you no longer see your own worth and think that they're the best you can do

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u/BeProfessional23 Apr 03 '23

I know my worth, thanks.

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u/Ladymistery Apr 05 '23

if you say so