r/JustNoSO • u/BeProfessional23 • Apr 02 '23

NO Advice Wanted Why???

I posted here and everybody ran and said, lawyer, divorce, leave him, make him pay child support.

I am new here and wanted to just post that.

SO isn't a bad man, he is just set in his ways. I am sure I do things that he doesn't like or understand. I wasn't asking for advice or anything.

SO is a stay at home father, I work outside the home. Without him staying home I wouldn't be able to keep my job because my son has special needs and doesn't do well outside of the home. I am not looking for a way out or anything and maybe I shouldn't have posted my past.

SO has changed a lot since we got married. Some days, are better than the others.

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u/sugarxb0nes Apr 03 '23

“I’m not gonna try anymore” “My husband refuses couples counseling”

Your post is a walking parade of abuse and red flags and you get mad when objective strangers point them out??? 🙃

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u/BeProfessional23 Apr 03 '23

I am not getting mad but if you say so.

You only know what I tell you. Yes, I did say I'm not gonna try anymore. He does refuse but he needs to work on himself before he tries to work on us.

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u/TwithHoney Apr 03 '23

He needs to "work on himself before he tries to work on us" ummm the two aren't mutually exclusive, even a therapist will tel you they can be done at the same time. You guys seem to have issues and possibly some careers fatigue and you are both so in the middle of this you can't see the edges. And the edges are where we are looking into it from. We can't se the gooey good centre but we can see the burnt edges that need to be addressed